Why do people make such big issues off of small things?

@cream97 (29169)
United States
May 7, 2009 12:29pm CST
The housekeeper came to my room for room service. And, I gave him all of my dirty linen. I had two bath mats in the bunch of dirty things. And when he took them from my hand, he told me that I was not supposed to have two bath mats. And I just told him that my room was not clean the other day. He was telling me that some of the housekeepers will give me an extra linen for the room. Well, if I have an extra bath mat, what is the big deal? It is not like I am going to keep it anyway. If I am giving it back to him, then that means that I have no intention of holding onto it at all. Plus, I am not stealing it. If they are short on linen then that is not my fault. The housekeeper wanted to argue about how many bath mats that I had. I just brushed it off and tried to be polite and accepted only one clean one back. The bath mat was dirty, so I don't see the big deal, it needed to be washed anyway. Besides, I will not be given that same bath mat the next go round. Someone else may have it. This is the same housekeeper that acts like he does not want to clean my room. He just blows his breath everytime he comes to clean my room. So, since then I have stopped him from cleaning my room, I will just give him the dirty linen instead. He makes me so freaking sick! He is a sickening behind old man!
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@kprofgames (3018)
• United States
7 May 09
It's hard telling why people make a moutain out of a mole hill. Maybe he doesn't like his job and has to take it out on everyone else. Who knows. You are right that you can't be sucked into their attitude. If you don't want him to clean your room for your own peace of mind, then I'd do the same as you. A bath matt, wow, with everything else that's going on in our world today; I don't think I'd be getting in a big huff over something that small.
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
7 May 09
Hi, kprofgames! I don't that he likes his job too much either. Yes, it is so much bigger and worser things to be stressing over and about, than one little bath mat, that will be returned anyway. He is a grown old man, he needs to start acting like it!
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
7 May 09
you are lucky to have someone clean your room. Sometimes, he feels so tired from the last rooms and when it comes to you... he feels like, again!!! You know what I mean right. Cleaning is not a good job and it require a lot of patient. they have a lot of pressure in mind and you should let him does what he wants, as long he cleans your room nice and give you all clean liens.
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
7 May 09
Hi, smileonstar! No, I am not that lucky to have him clean my room, because he acts like he does not want to clean my room. And he does not always have my room to clean everyday. It could be a couple of days, but that has changed for a while now. I understand that he has so much of pressure on him, but why take it out on me when I am kind and patient with him. If he had to rub the wrong person the wrong way, he would have been toast! He should try to maintain an decent attitude when he is around his guests. If he possibly cannot, then he should not work anymore. Or he can just trade my room for someone else's room. Let someone who is cheerful clean my room. I am not impressed with his huffing and puffing.
@prathna (175)
• Canada
7 May 09
well the poor guys just trying to do his job, its no ones fault u had an extra bath mat, but housekeeping people might be short on jobs so they ant to be extra careful, they just want to do their jobs right and make sure they dont do anything wrong and get fired
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
7 May 09
Hi, prathna! No, he is not doing his job too well. If they were all housekeepers that were supposedly doing their job, then I would not end up with extra linen. If I have an extra one it is because an housekeeper was not paying attention to what they were giving me. So, in this case, it is the housekeeping's fault. I did not beg or forced them to give this extra bath mat to me. Nor did I ask. I have had a few women give me so much of linen that I did not need. I would have to go to the laundry room and give it all back. If they are so short on cloths, then I would never have to give back more to them. It has happened more than once. I really think that this man is just trying to be a pain in the ***!
@prathna (175)
• Canada
7 May 09
well try to be in the mans shoes, empathize, maybe he has alot going on in his life, his family or something maybe which might be affecting his work, maybe he cant stop thinking about it and it might hamper his work. dont always blame the help, because thats what people usually tend to do whether the help are to be blamed or not. they have a really tough life. we are lucky enough to stay in hotels, these people might hate this job but have no other choice because they need to survive with food clothing and shelter
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
8 May 09
I truly feel what you are saying pranthna. But, I have a very tough life myself as you can see. We have to scrape up money just to put into this room everyday, vs the housekeeper may have to pay monthly or live free where he is at. I am not the only nerves that he has been wracking here either. One of the lady housekeepers said that he has been getting on her nerves too, starting with her for no special reason. This man needs a reality check. I am stressed out as I am writing to you as of now. It never excuses his behavior for why he acts like this everytime that he comes to my room. When he is working in a public's eye he has to maintain a courteous and pleasant attitide at all times. If he cannot do this, he will have to excuse himself and take a chill pill alone. As guests, if a housekeeper has an nasty attitude, it will make a guest feel uncomfortable. This will make them want to leave and go somewhere else to stay, thus leaving the hotel with money lost. An nasty attitude can bring reprucussions somewhere along the line. I understand that he may be going through hell and high water, but he must TRY to be respectable at all costs. He is being watched and his attitude is costing the management money. So, his behavior has to be adjusted when working in a public facility. He will have to deal with many people that may be nasty. I am very polite and he should treat me the same way. His behavior is unacceptable! He could not act like this at one of those high and prestigious hotels up state. That would not be tolerated. If he goes somewhere to work acting like that, he will be fired. I have spoken to many managers and superviors about many worker attitudes that I have dealt with, and all of them are very angry at how their employee has treated me. They lose clientle when a worker causes problems. They woould rather lose an employee than to lose an customer, that could be with them for life. An employee can be easily replaced with someone that does not mind working hard.
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 May 09
Sometimes I wonder why people don't just keep their mouth shut. Seems like some folks just have to spill what's on their mind no matter what it is. Obviously if you're giving it to him you're not stealing it and if you have an extra one somebody left it there for you and why lecture you about it? Weird...
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
7 May 09
Hi, dawnald! I agree with you. One of the housekeepers gave me the extra bath mat. That is what they normally do. I have been given so much of clean linen, until I had to return the extras to the laundry room. So, as far as me getting too much of linen, I will be honest enough to give it all back. This man is wasting his time making an issue out of a small and simple thing.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 May 09
and for what? It's not as if he caught you smuggling it out of the place or something...
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
12 May 09
Yeah, I know, ain't it, though..
• United States
11 May 09
what is his problem? if im not mistaken isnt he the one that never wants to do anything for your room? i mean like you said you arent stealing them! heck your a customer and obviously have been for a little bit and have paid and everything so even if you hoarded a 100 of them you ARE paying for them and returning them so he needs to freaking get a life!
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• United States
11 May 09
heck i would ask him if he would rather you move out and him have to explain to his boss why they lost a regular customer over his attitude! its not like people are all going out and getting hotel rooms in this economy! and im sure other places wouldnt have a fit over a freaking bath mat!
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
12 May 09
Yes, he needs to get a life! Really! All my dirty linen will be given back to him anyway, so they will not be short because if an extra mat that I have.. I will be glad when I get the heck out of here! If he wants to blame anyone, blame his co-workers, the ones that has given me the extra bath mats.
@suzzy3 (8368)
12 May 09
I would complain to the management all these things you have told us about over the time are not good enough,they have to remember you are the customer.You pay their wages and it seems to me they need to be reminded of that.
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
12 May 09
Hi, suzzy3! Yes, let me just remind them, without me being here this long, this room would not have gotten rented out. The room next door to us took until about 4 weeks until it was rented. So, when I am good and gone it may take that long for this room to be rented like the other one. Without me, this is money lost for them. He could have an extra $2,000 in his pocket because of us.
• United States
7 May 09
yeah thats how some people are im not like that i dont get little things get big on me i jjust move on
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
7 May 09
Hi, zavala56469! Yes, it is best to move on. No need to argue with a grown man that is in a child's body.
• Philippines
7 May 09
just keep your cool there mate. some people tend to make big issues out of small things maybe because they there personal issues. maybe they got a big problem, thats why small things are a big of a problem for them. i say just be patient with those type of person.
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
7 May 09
Hi, petuchini36! It is very obvious that he has some personal problems going on. And I feel that I am one of them. I believe that this man has something against me. It could be anything. He will try to pick a fight with me, for no reason. I have to be careful what I say around him. He takes everything that I say to him to heart. I feel like I have to plead with him, so that he does not take my words the wrong way. So, I have gotten to the point, where I don't say anything to him. When he is rude and obnoxious, I will ignore him and change the subject to something positive. He seems bitter and offended easily. Which is not good at all. Especially with the type of job that he has.
7 May 09
i think that it just was that he was having a bad day and that he was taking it out on you if not he's a misserable old bugger lol :)
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
7 May 09
Hi, patrickmaher! Welcome to myLot! This housekeeper is like this every damn time. He carries the same attitude everytime that I ask him to clean my room. That is why I don't let him clean it anymore. I have already complained to the manager about his behavior and attitude. So, it is kind of odd, don't you think, that he is always in a bad mood when he comes to my room?
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
9 May 09
You already say he is an old man. Old people are likely more grumpy if they do not feel happy. I think he could be dissatisfied with his life and so take it on his tenants, especially when someone complained about his lack of service level. I believe someone has complaint about not having mats which is a possibility if one room is supposed to be allocated only one mat.
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• United States
8 May 09
they must count the linen where you're at.and i bet they're short per day,like i was saying before. he's just being a crab*ss.he probably made that face because sometimes you go in a room,and you'll find people with 16 clean towels and there's only two people for example. if they have an inspectress there in the afternoon,just flag them down and tell them he's giving you attitude.otherwise call for head of housekeeping. if they gave you just linen the day before,he should know there's a high chance you'll have two bathmats.
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• India
8 May 09
he may be tired of cleaning all the rooms and may be some one have already argued with him before and after that when he came to your room and when you told he he may have be to sick listing to all and so he may have started arguing on it
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@4u2enjoy (301)
• Malaysia
8 May 09
you should give him a break. his old and sumtimes old people maybe grumply a bit. just think about the good side, u don't have to clean your room like others. you will also have a clean room everytime your home ;)
@Bethany1202 (3433)
• United States
8 May 09
People truly are silly. My ex-husband was a smoker and used to lose his lighter (and keys, shoes, etc) all the time... I told him there was matches right there he could use, but he chose to throw fits instead of listening to reason and would get all worked up. I also suggested to him to leave things in the same spot or two, that was it's less likely to lose track of where things are. For example, when coming home, take shoes off in the same spot each time, or put keys in the same location everytime... He never wanted to listen to reason. *sigh*
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@mommaj (22711)
• United States
7 May 09
Don't you just hate that kind of service! People may hate their jobs but it's no reason to take it out on the customer! If he doesn't like his job or his job is that big of an inconvenience to him he should quit. What's the purpose in acting like that? I wonder if he feels any better after he belittle's everyone that he has to clean for. Maybe he just does it to get out of doing his job. Don't let him get away with it. I think I would make him clean and ask him to vacuum a spot twice. lol
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@PRACYCE (49)
• United States
7 May 09
That is a very good question these days people act so childish it isnt funny I mean cant we all just handle situations like grown ups I mean people get so hype and act so stupid these days I mean grow up
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
7 May 09
Sounds like the people running this hotel is just plain lazy. Sounds like they don't want to do anything they don't have to. Oh..I would have him clean my room anyway. I'd do it for spite. He's probably getting paid by the hour so if he can get out of cleaning your room..he's just getting out of work and making you suffer in the process. Your paying a fee there for your stay and your housekeeping needs..cash in. Who cares if he doesn't like his job..it's not your fault.
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• United States
7 May 09
Anytime I have been in a position to have housecleaning take care of my room I generally kept the room clean myself and would bundle the dirty linen for them to change it out for me. I have personal space issues anyway so I like to keep my surroundings clean myself. Some people are happy being miserable. The best way to combat it is to kill them with kindness. Always have a smile on your face and a 'God Bless You!' on your lips for them. Treat them with kindness and respect always. Shame them into treating you better or at least keeping their ill-winds to themselves.Happy MyLotting!
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@carpenter5 (6786)
• United States
7 May 09
I'm going to tell you friend that you need to report this housekeeping staff. It is my opinion that the management of the motel do not know about all the things that are going on, and they need to! My parents owned a motel for years while I was growing up and I've worked many days in with the housekeeping staff and this is just not acceptable at any hotel I've been acquainted with!
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@moondancer (7434)
• United States
7 May 09
I am one of the most patient people that you will ever meet, but this man has done so much and acted like such a jerk so many times and for so long that I've had enough of his attitude and I" not the one having to deal with him. I would just report him to the management and be done with it. I would not longer ant him anywhere near my room. He gets paid for doing his job and already you have him not coming in to clean. But when he is assigned that room he gets paid. What more does the idiot want you to do, go out and buy your own linens and do your own laundry?
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