Can you be friends with an ex?

Always possible. All depends on the persons involved. If girl and boy ended up nice, definitely they can end up friends. But, if they ended up with a messy one, then, the possibility of being friends is slim, but who really can tell?

I think you can be friends with an ex, but it all depends on how serious the relationship was. If it was a serious in-depth relationship, then the feelings that the two of you shared will still be there somewhere. Even if you try to bury them and forget about them.. our hearts never forget. I am friends with ex's that I wasn't real serious with. I do have 2 ex's that I was in serious relationships with and have tried being friends with them. It is really hard because when they ask for your opinion on different things it's hard to not be biased.

being friendly and being "friends" are two different things. Over time I was able to reach a point where we could talk in a friendly way towards each other and all. We don't go out of our way to hang out but we do have kids together and do run into each other at family functions. It was important to find a peaceful ground. As for exes that I've dated....i'm still friends with most of them. We still talk, they'll call on occassion or stop by for coffee. it can be done. I guess it depends on the relationship to begin with, why you broke up and how long you were together etc.

I think you can be friends with an ex, but it may take time because one or both may have feelings that will make a friendship hard. Even with long term serious relationships...and especially those, you know each other so well that it would be hard not to be friends. But, again, after the hard feelings go away. I know many people who have tried to stay 'friends' with an ex with the hope of getting back together with them. To me that is not true friendship. That is wanting something from another person. Or they try to stay 'friends' and just torture themselves because they still have strong feelings for the person. When there has been enough time and both people want to be friends, I see no reason why they cannot be.

Yeah, why not, me and my ex have known each other, we spent time together when we was loving each other, but sometime it's awkward or weird specially if you already have a new girlfriend or boyfriend, but if she trust you it will be okay for her if you and your ex are still friends,

Well it depends on how/why you broke up...some screemfest breakup or some hurt feelings type thing, no (i sure it has happen just never ever heard/know of a person that this would apply to)... Maybe some ammacable breakup...but you over time drift appart. Also this is how you defy "friend"...Close friend no, somesort of yes/maybe

Aw, thats too bad. You must have suffered a lot. under such circumstances even I would not want to be friends with him. My ex and I we parted under mutal decision and respect for each other, so we are still friends. He no longer statys in town and has shifted residence, but keeps in touch on the phone now and then. I do hope you come out of this unhappiness and start life all over again. Cheers to a new and lasting love.

it's ok, all you have to do is to forgive each other. it doesn't mean to say that you hug or kiss each other everytime you meet to have good friendly relationship, just be civil and that's it. you can exchange hi and hellos but to go out on a date maybe that's quite different. if you were able to move forward let memories be just memories anyway you have your own new relationship and he or she has his or her own world now.

Sad to hear your story. yes you can but you better not suffer yourself. its basically over and you should just carry on with your life. you'll be better not being friends with him.

Tough question! Hmm....i believe you don't have to be enemies once you broke up or something but i understand that you can't be FRIENDS as in close friends. It's difficult to see your ex with someone else and i guess we (women mostly) can't take it lightly. So you can be at good terms with each other by meeting once in a while or just doing hi hello whenever you get to see other but you can't be real good friends as you can't share everything with each other after the break-up.

I am friend with my ex now~ However, We couldn't become friends when we were apart at the beginning. I was so hurt and I could not even hear any news about him from my other friends. But time is a good therapy, i eventually got away from the pain. After we met in a classmate party one year later, we started to talk, and I realized we could become friends. Now we are good friends and we still care about each other. To be frank, the feeling is a little weird when we both remind of the happy hours we spent together. However, we each are seeing another person, and we are just friends now after all. Sometimes I also wonder if we can become real friends~

yes i cant be a friend of may ex thats the good friend coz before your love you used to love and give care on one other and it came to a time that love gone so atlis your comfortable and you know each other now..why not.?

I think it is definatelly possible, when my parent divorced they hated each other and have never spoken since, as the eldest of three children I think this put a lot of pressure on me to pass messages back and too etc, I vowed if I was ever in the same position as them I would do it completely different. I had 2 children with my ex-partner and we were togther for 10 years, there was infidlity on both parts although we stayed together and that wasn't the reason for our split and we both had some bad feeling towards each other but for the sake of our children we sat down and talked things through and decided staying friends would make things so much easier on our girls. It was difficult at times especially when I met someone new. My new partner found it difficlt at first to accept that we were still friends but now everything is fine. It means we can still go to parents evenings etc together and discuss things to do with our children like adults. My ex has even looked after my daughter with my new partner and buys her christmas and birthday presents etc. It is hard at first but I'd say especially where children are involved its worth giving it a go.

In my opinion when we add 'ex' word in front of our boyfriend/girlfriend then it means all relations ended and interaction of one with other is wastage of time. Broken relation seldom joins. And the relation of 'Friend' which is the best relation i think, we cant have it with our ex. Even my exs proposed me for being friend but my answer was NO AT ALL.

I don't think I can either. It is such a painful experience, especially when I am the one who is dumped. Maybe if I dumped him, I can still talk to him because the emotional pain does not exist in the first place. Based on my past experience, I have been dumped several times and up to now I didn't make an effort to be friends. I think it is mainly because we live far from each other so there is no need to travel a long way just to meet my ex who had broken my heart, even if the reason of meeting is just as a friend. However, I didn't keep any revenge. I just didn't want to get involved with them anymore. That's all.

ya u can b frnds with ur ex coz it's ur ex who understands u d best... u can share ur thoughts with him/her without ne probs coz ur open with them in ur thoughts bt it is said dat if u r frnds wid ur ex den either u r still in love or u never were... mayb he wll get back 2 u... all d best 4 rest

It's a little impossible for me. My ex and I were married for 9 yrs and I'm re-married now for over 6 yrs. My ex and I only talk on the phone once or twice every 1-2 yrs...and it's always about our 2 children. He lives outside the US but if I ever see him again I don't think I'd be more friendly and would give him a hug considering how much we ended up not liking each other when we were together. I think a "hello" and a smile would be enough and if I ever have to be ethical and nice to him I would do it too...but only for our children's sake.

I cannot be a close friend to my ex. But we can describe our relationship as friends, meaning if I saw him in any gathering, I can greet him casually.

Hi Flirtykumquat, I think the answer is yes. But can not be a friend with an ex right after broke up. Now i am a friend of my ex, but i did not talk to him for 1 years after we broke up. I was so heart-broken, and i don't think i can ever face him or talk to him. Then 1 year later, i left that city, now we are not in the same city. He has a girl friend, and i have a boyfriend, we start talking to each other and talk about the old times. He felt that i am the one who know him most. But past is past, we can get back to the past, so we are just being friends, just normal friends, can not be good friends, afterall, he used to be my boyfriend and we used to get so close. Just like you said, it's weird that you can't kiss him or say i love you after your conversation. But, still, it's good to have a friend than lost a person you loved. Right? Cheer up!

waa.. me?.. oh no..i believe dat.. when you break-up.. haha never look back.. he's your trash now... lol