Do you know when someone is really listening to you? What are the signs?

United States
May 8, 2009 12:30am CST
I can usually tell by several things when someone is truly listening to me. They make eye-contact, they don't look bored. When they respond, it's in keeping with the conversation. They seldom interrupt. They have a look of interest in their posture and on their face. What tells you if someone is hearing you or not?
3 responses
• Philippines
8 May 09
Well, same as your signs. These can be called, non-verbal communication, in which the gestures of people are giving out signs with what they are feeling or trying to say. For example, you can tell if a person is lying when you talk to them, they avoid eye contact with you. Usually a simple nod can say that the person you are talking to is listening to you.
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• United States
9 May 09
You make a very good point. Body language sometimes says more than words! Thank you for your input.
• India
30 May 09
Yes these are standard procedures to indentify whether a person is listening to you or not? But let me ask you one think. What do you do to make such people listen to you? I try to ask a question in between to keep them alert and listen to what i am saying..!
• United States
30 May 09
Asking questions is a great way to keep someone involved with the conversation. I do that, too. : )
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
8 May 09
You have already mentioned all the things that shows as a sign when someone is really listening so I have nothing more to add. What is sure is that I like it when the person I am talking with listens eagerly and not interrupting too much.
• United States
9 May 09
Hi Vori, I agree when you say that being truly listened to makes us feel good. We tend to feel much more respected or important to the other person. Everyone likes to be heard and acknowledged. Thank you.