A May-December Affair

Dreaming of Love - ... is this it?
Philippines
May 8, 2009 11:03am CST
[i]... it's acceptable nowadays, isn't it? But the truth is, I really don't care if the society ridicules my choices in love and life. I'm happy with my present relationship... even if he's more than twice my age. Yep, I'm 27 (hey! I'll be 28 next week! Happy birthday to me ) and he's 58. Sure he's somewhat "old" but only in age; in everything else, he's a young man willing to give me everything that will make me happy. Knowing myself, a hopeless romantic like me only wants love, love and love What do you think? Will the relationship last? Must I fight for it? Must I go against the norm? I'm happy, I know that and that's what matters most. But I'm a human being living in a judgmental society, could I be wasting my time and effort in such an emotional investment? [/i]
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12 responses
@tabachi (263)
• Philippines
9 May 09
sometimes a relationship fails because of too many adjustments to norms,etc..of society...the important thing is regardless of age,nationality,religion and whatever is that you are both happy together...you just have to be able to have the same level of understanding and also communication is very important...as long as you are attuned to each other emotionally physically mentally,,,then there is no problem..of course there is no perfect relationship...bear this in mind..there will always be some"uncomfortable things" but learning to cope with each other's needs and just being in love with each other are the ways to maintaining that happy relationship....go,girl!..good luck!
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@marites31 (267)
• Philippines
9 May 09
There is no impossible things in this world. You will be successful in everything you do if your happy doing it. The relationship that you have right now can be more successful if you give more effort and love to it. Age difference can be a big factor in a relationship depending on the maturity of each other. But again, if you love your opposite partner, all things can be possible. You dont have to be in normal relationship just like having a nearer age partner because same things happens, if both of you will not give ways to each other it will end up in fighting or not continuing the relationship. For now, if your happy just continue being one and all will follow and you will always end your day with a smile!
@pprchase (77)
• Japan
9 May 09
Just make sure you're doing the right thing and you're happy with it. You don't need to care on what people will say. You're 27, you can decide for yourself. If you'll commit mistakes, accept it. That's how life is... stay happy!
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• Philippines
8 May 09
As long as both of you are free, no other commitments, age should really not matter as much. You are already an adult and capable of making your own decision. Take care!
• Philippines
9 May 09
We do have complications but we're planning to work it out... We're both grown-ups, you're right, this should be our decision, not others
• Philippines
9 May 09
I hope you work it out. I read in your other messages that you already have a son. I pray that all will go well with you and your son with this man that you love. Take care!
• United States
8 May 09
I don't think there is anything wrong with it. If he makes you happy thats great. He gives you what you need thats great to. Who cares what other people think. Its your life, and your happy with him. P.S. Happy Birthday!
• Philippines
9 May 09
Thanks for the birthday greetings! People do have different perceptions when it comes to running one's life; you're right though, this is my life and that's the end of it . God bless...
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 May 09
No big deal. Falling in love is great at any age. It has no boundary. When you love someone who is significantly older than you, the older partner can adjust himself to keep up with your pace. And 58 is not considered old compared to 70s. He is still strong in every department be it physical or mental. Being in such a wide age gap does not mean you cannot enjoy each other. Seasoned men are more caring and experienced and should be able to lead you through the journey of life smoothly. If you are fated to be with this lovely guy, why bother with the society around you. They don't decide your future happiness or sadness. Go ahead girl if you think he is cut out for your size and all. There is no looking back if there is right chemistry between both of you. Age doesn't matter.
• Philippines
9 May 09
Thanks zandi, I really appreciate your encouragement. We indeed have the perfect chemistry, it's as if we're made for each other... He's a strong man, physically, mentally and emotionally and his age and experiences in life allows him to understand and accept my complications in life. I really do hope I found my match..
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
8 May 09
Thats so crazy, I'm 27 and my birthday is next week too! I'll be 28 on the 16th! Ok so as for your relationship, I've never dated anyone more than 2 years older than me. I never felt comfortable with it. I think it would be hard to have anything in common with someone that much older than you. But if you do and you are happy then I don't see what it would hurt. My sister was dating a guy that was 23 years older than her. She was 20 and he was 43. They didn't last though. What do your families think about it? Does he have kids? If he does they are probably older than you. The guy my sister was dating had 6 kids, two of which were older than my sister and one was close to her age. After awhile she realized that the age difference just wasn't working for them. I think in most cases it doesn't last but there is always hope. My mother in law and her husband and my uncle and his wife are both 13 years apart. Their relationships have lasted. I don't know anything about you and him so I can't say for sure if you are wasting your time or not. Honestly, my guess would be that it won't last. But maybe you will prove me wrong.
• Philippines
9 May 09
Hey, advanced happy birthday! mine is on the 14th, I'm 2 days older huh! But ouch! The 2nd to the last sentence was painful. Nevertheless, I'm sure you're only trying to be honest and realistic... I know I'm a very idealistic person when it comes to romance... I would love to prove you wrong to, I want this relationship to last. I know we have extra baggage into this relationship but we're more than willing to work the complications out...
• Canada
11 Sep 09
Congratulations!!! How long have you two been together? My husband is 63, and I'll be 28 in January. We found eachother on line and met when I was 22, and he was 58. A few people wondered about us, but now my family thinks he's just wonderful, and they love him to bits. Well, what's not to love?
• Philippines
9 May 09
I don't care about the age.as long as you love each other and make each other happy,age isn't a big deal.society shouldn't dictate your personal choices in life and love.as long as nobody gets hurt,go ahead. I wish you two the best!
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
9 May 09
Hi maple_kisses, I don't think it's a waste of time or a emotional investment, what is important is you feel love and your happy with it. In love you can't ask for a return. Age is just numbers, what is important is you could work it out and could last. So what with the society, anyway what counts is we make our own life, and not stepping on other shoes. It's just up to you how would you handle it and face it. What is important is you both. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
9 May 09
I don't think it would really be a problem. The most important thing is that you're both in love and single. Then you just do what makes you both happy. A problem with the May-December love is if one of the person involve is married. I am against those who still continue this kind of relationship knowing that they are breaking a family.It is fine if he's/she's already divorced or separated. Just be happy. Happy myloting.
@spalladino (17925)
• United States
8 May 09
If you and your man care about each other, have similar interests, can talk and laugh together and have the same goals in life, then age doesn't matter. My sister just turned 50 and her fiance is 12 years younger than she is. The age difference isn't as great as your relationship but age doesn't matter to them either. When they look at each other they don't see age...they see each other. So, enjoy your man but make sure he takes care of his health. My husband is 61 and has had a heart attack, triple bypass surgery and surgery to unclog his right carotid artery. You want your guy to be around for a long time so he has to pay attention to his health if he's going to do that.