Sir, What is the difference between love and marriage ??
By ketybhagat
@ketybhagat (4123)
India
May 10, 2009 11:53pm CST
A student asks a teacher, "What is love?” The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back o pick."
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one... but may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted. So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand. The teacher told him, "...this is love... you keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person...."
*"What is marriage then?" the student asked. The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."
The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher. The teacher told him, "this time you bring back a corn.... you look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get.... this is marriage."
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6 responses
@GADHISUNU (2162)
• India
11 May 09
A beautiful parable that illustrates the difference between Love nad Marriage and the inherent error correction that takes place in people esp. those given some honest and hard-headed thinking.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
11 May 09
Thank you friend. You sound very serious over this issue. Yes, some honest and hard headed thinking is what makes us wonder if we have chosen the right partner.
@GADHISUNU (2162)
• India
11 May 09
After going through Love and Marrying another and living married life of about 21 years, I sure can feel competent to make an observation and very much in a position to look at a parable and understand its significance. Only thing I can say about its applicability to my life, is that I didn't search for the biggest or the healthiest wheat grain. I was willing to believe that the grain I picked was the best because I picked it. But then thst grain was lost as it felloff to sprout elsewhere.
And when it was time for me to choose the corn I did(had to) go through like I would have the wheat grain, and by His grace found a great ear of corn, whose taste was great as it could be, but there are times when I felt it could have been garnished to my perfect taste. But I am sure about one thing. I didn't repent to have lost the grain!!![em]thumbs up[/B]
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
11 May 09
a nice way of putting it thru but not applicable to everybody I’m sure. Like myself, I have always believed in love at first sight and have stuck on to one person whom I fell in love with. Its been 15yrs we know each other and out of those, 12yrs of marriage and we are very much in love even now.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
11 May 09
Hats off to you friend. Its very rare that you love somebody at first sight and stay in love even after 15 years ! I cant say I married the guy I first fell in love with, but now Im married for 21 years and we too still love each other, though not the young love we had before. We tend to quarrel and forget it in a few hours too and dont hold grudges. Guess one learns to live with another person only with deep understanding and a lot of give and take. God Bless you both.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
11 May 09
That is cute. That is about the truth of the matter. I wish I could go back and change some choices I have made in my life.
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
12 May 09
Yes, very true and philosophical. Im sure we all have some regrets in life, for having missed the bus when the opportunity arose. Well, we live and learn, eh ?
@srganesh (6340)
• India
11 May 09
Yes!We look after all the beautiful girls,long for them,get into dilemma to chase this or that and finally,when it comes to marriage,we nod our head for the first girl shown to us.This post will be rightly understood where arranged marriages are there.And I know people who rejects all beautiful girls when they are young(complaining about the background,economical status,educational status,dowry,etc) and long for anything in the name of girl when he is old.LOL!Cheers!
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
11 May 09
Yes, I guess you are right. Arranged marriages are more apt to this. I enjoyed your honesty, reject girls in youth and nod your head immediately when you are old. I guess thats life and we all should learn from it. I believe one should look at ones nature rather than other criteria, for we grow old together and we have to live with a persons nature only. Thanks.
@shreekrishna (402)
• India
11 May 09
very well explanation ,
this is also my view ,
u will find an attracting people anytime ,
but there is not a stop,
man give it a name of love ,
if it breaks , it is hard to get it again.
& marriage is the purest form of love.
