Let's get together

@Humbug25 (12551)
May 11, 2009 5:32am CST
I was just thinking the other day that I need to discuss something with my kids, let them know something altogether, ask them what they want to do during the summer holidays this year and make some decisions. I thought that maybe we should have a family meeting and make it a regular thing. When I was living out in the US for a while I remember this being a big thing with some families. I think some people in the UK think it is a good thing but I don't know anyone here who actually does it. Do you hold family meetings? How often do you hold them? What age were your kids when you started doing them?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
11 May 09
we don't have what u are talking about on a regular basis but we rally around when we need to discuss something. i think if u have them regularly thet might get bored w/them but just knowing u can get together w/them when need be means alot. good luck.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
11 May 09
Hi ANTIQUELADY At the moment we tend to chat over the dinner table and I get what your saying about them getting bored. My eldest can't wait to leave the table to get off to his friends house at the moment so getting him to stay put for a chat is proving quite tricky! Thanks for your response
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
11 May 09
i hope it's nice chatting at the table. my dad chose supper time to take his text on me for what i had done or not done every night. i dreaded that meal w/a passion. i swore if i ever had kids we would not discuss any problems at meal time & we didn't. might chew their tails after they swallowed their last bites. but not while we were eating. thanks humberg,
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
11 May 09
hen my children lived at home we had a family meeting once a week. It was the time for anyone of us to say what we were or had been thinking and to sort out any problems there might have been. No one could interupt one when it was their turn to speak. After they were done speaking then if anyone had a comment it as made.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
12 May 09
Hi ya moondancer Yeah I will put some rules in place before we get started. Thanks for your response
• United States
11 May 09
I have a suggestion that has alwasy worked with ym family and from what i hear all other families! Having dinner together as much as you can , working around everyones schedules is always a family meeting. This will help you gather information about summer and holidays! I hope this works out. Family around the table is a great habit to keep.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
12 May 09
Hi ya jillianmc Actually we always eat together but the conversation always seems to be filled with what they did at school that day which I think is equally as important. I find that hard to do sometimes though because I have usually got a mouthful of food whilst trying to encourage them to eat up too!! LOL Thanks for your response
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
11 May 09
you have good mind to think more for your kids.yeah,kids need fun and parents should know more about what they want.family meeting is great if your family is large members.my case is not like you,i just live with my daughter.it is easy to make plan for her summer.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
12 May 09
Hi ya cindyhxf Well I can't say that I will agree with all their suggestions but everything will definitely be up for discussion. Thanks for responding
@ronaldinu (12445)
• Malta
11 May 09
We don't hold formal meetings but we do talk when we are in the care what do we plan to do during summer or anything that involves my son. We do let him choose what to do during summer. We are planning to send him to a summer school where he can attend swimming lessons twice per week.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
12 May 09
Hi ronaldinu I would love my kids to go to a swimming school but with having three kids on my own it is way too expensive. Thanks for your response
@ellie333 (21029)
11 May 09
Hi Humbug, when the girls were at home we would get together on a Thursday and talk about family things and arrangements but now just myself and my son if I want to talk to him I will and the girls living away now tend to call to organize stuff. It is very rare we are all altogether these days. Think it is a fantastic idea though as ours weren't classed as family meetings it just seemed to be when we were all in together on a Thursday really so it just happened that way. Huggles. Ellie :D
@Humbug25 (12551)
11 May 09
Hi ya ellie333 That's really what I tend to do at the moment is just tell them as I am going or talk over dinner but it's tricky with a mouthful of food and encouraging them to finish their dinner at the same time. Maybe I will break them in gently and start off with a once a month thing! They are fidgety boys after all! Cheers ellie
11 May 09
Oh my god.... a family meeting in my house..... what a laugh that would be... Both of the boys would want to go back to suffering suffolk.... We do quite often sit down and chat together but it nearly always ends up with the boys bickering.... and i'm just sitting there laughing at them.... But I agree with you it's a good idea.... my parents never done it, they made the choices and we all just put up with it...end of!!! One thing we must do is get together one summer afternoon...evening, share a bottle or 2 and just let the boys run wild....lmao seriously tho' it would be good to get together, the boys can play and we can just sit and catch up.... sleep over, like we said yesterday.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
11 May 09
Hi ya trinnity101 Crikey L you must be bored today if you're on here! LOL OR your just putting off from doing the housework LMAO!! My parents never held family meetings either, had to do what I was told and that was it, still, making up for it now! Just the one summer afternoon L? I was hoping for a fair few of them with bottles to match!! Forgot what it was you needed to ask Zac's mum, she won't be at the juniors this afternoon, Imogen's off sick. Do you still have that camping stove going begging? See you later and thanks for your response
@wolfie34 (26816)
• United Kingdom
11 May 09
Wow, what a great mum you are but hey we always knew that anyhow! I think it's great to get your kids involved when talking about holidays etc to get their input, nothing worst than the grown ups planning the holiday and the kids following behind like anklebiters! They get a sense of responsibility too because it's their ideas they are putting forward and if they come off to fruition! When I was young it was always mum and I, dad never went away with us, and wasn't bothered if we went away or not, so it was up to mum, but I have nothing to grumble about because we had some great holidays together, Cornwall, Isle of Wight, Bournemouth, Guernsey, so I never missed out!
@Humbug25 (12551)
11 May 09
Hey wolfie34 good to see you Well the kids are part of the family too and I can't say that I would agree to all of their suggestions but I would certain listen and take them into consideration. Sometimes it makes my job as a mum a bit easier especially if it something that I hadn't thought of. I don't usually give them a choice when it comes to meal times or else we would be having sausage and chips every night! My mum used to make all the decissions about going places too because my dad was never interested! I think we had a better time for it! Thanks wolfie
@riyasam (16578)
• India
11 May 09
i and my hubb first discuss anything that concerns our kids,then lay it before our kids to discuss but we leave it upto them to come to a decision.i donot know how many of the people do it in our place but i beleive kids also have their own personalities with identities of their own!
@Humbug25 (12551)
12 May 09
Hi ya riyasam Kids also have their own opinions and valued ones at that - well, at times! LOL Thanks for your response
@littleowl (7157)
17 May 09
Hi Humbug, how are you? I never had family meetings when my children were younger, but I do know my daughters friend's family does every week and they discuss everything that has been happening not only in their lives but other families lives too..personally I think that is bad and what does anyone else need to know sbout their friends family for..but guess it all depends on what kind of meeting you have..it could be a good thing...hugs LoLo
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
14 May 09
I'm not married, but, I've heard of families getting together once a week to air some differences that each member may have to kind of nip things in the bud, so, it doesn't escalate is such a great idea! I think if more families did this there wouldn't be so many divorces or angry and resentful kids walking around. More power to you! I think what you're wanting to do is a fantastic thing! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija