wanted baby

@irene66 (1671)
Philippines
May 11, 2009 10:17am CST
Do you have this same experience? My cousin had been contacted by somebody to look for a good family to get her friend's baby after delivery. The mother of the baby wants to get rid of her because she is not married besides she wants to go abroad. The deal was done but not legally. they just had the oral agreement. after 2 years,the biological mother came back and wants to claim her baby back. What's your opinion on this? Thanks for sharing
3 responses
• United States
11 May 09
I dont think this is right, i mean yeah i can understand.But wanting it back after 2 years of rasing it? i would fight to keep it,regardless of that. Even though it wasnt done legaly.I mean thats why people shouldnt have babies if they are not going to want them, then people wouldnt have this problem. I wouldnt give her babie back, because she didnt want it in the first place.But man it should have been done legaly.Im not sure what to say.I wouldnt give my babie up for anything no matter how hard it got.
@irene66 (1671)
• Philippines
13 May 09
I agree with you harvester! People who just give away babies should not be given the chance to bear one. Thank you for responding!
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
11 May 09
That is sad. I don't think it is right that the mother just came back after someone had put two years into raising that child and then want her back. I would think they could fight it. That is why I'm afraid to adopt a child. I would love to adopt kids of any age and give them a good home, but i'm afraid that someday the parents would want them back. I watched the pain a mother went through after raising two kids for 5 years and then having their dad get them back. I wouldn't do it unless I could be sure the parents couldn't come back and take them from me. I'm not saying they couldn't be involved in their lives but they would stay with me.
@irene66 (1671)
• Philippines
13 May 09
You are right in saying biological parents could be involved in their lives but not to take them away anytime they want. This actually give doubts for would be parents to adopt children and give them a better life for the unfortunate siblings. thanks for sharing your insight!
@kezabelle (2985)
14 May 09
That is the exact reason why there are laws and procedures put into place these protect not only the parents but the child who has to live through all that mess. However if nothing was legally signed saying she did not want her child and it was up for adoption then she has every right to take her child lawfull, id not say this is morally right though no.