Whom do you love more, your father or mother?

@yonkie (440)
Philippines
May 11, 2009 11:16am CST
Being the second daughter of the family, I feel insecure at times. I am always compared to my sister. It is my sister that is better than me in terms of so many stuffs. With this insecurity, it is only my father who will defend me. He always talk to me to understand people and not to take all their words seriously. He is always on my side. They said that I am daddy's girl. I really love my father. I love my father more than my mother. My mom's favorite is my elder sister and my only brother. That is what I felt. How about you?
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22 responses
@roboid (205)
• Romania
11 May 09
I am the only child of my parents. I can't say that I love one ofthem more, because the show me theirlove in different ways. Even if at the first sight people would say that I should love my mother more, thatis wrong becausemy father doesn't shows his love for mein the same way as my mother do. That is normal, as he is a man and he has to act like one. That is why I love them the same.
• Hong Kong
29 May 09
Yes, I think people would think someone would love one more than other, but sometimes it is not true, it is only because some people doesn't show their love. You have a very clear mind, that's very great!
• United States
11 May 09
I love my Mother more. Seeing that my Father diowned my sister and I. but thats not why I love my Mother more the reason is she raised us on her own and did a great job, she was there when we needed anything where as my father was in and out and was only a part of my life when it was easy on him. My mother never raised her voice or never spanked but she was firm and fair. She gave so much so that we could have the upbringing that we had! She really is my super hero!
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@yonkie (440)
• Philippines
11 May 09
So nice to have a responsible mother. I bet you gave her something special during the mother's day celebration.
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• United States
11 May 09
Im the second daughter of my family as well but my sister hasnt succeed fully to where i would be compared to her if anything i assume she would feel as if i was favored and that hurts as well. Either way i don't believe that i could love my father anymore than my mother or vice versa. i relate more with my dad than i do with my mom but my mom is closer to be than my father is, if that makes sense. Ultimately they even each other out and i could not live with one and not the other.
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@yonkie (440)
• Philippines
11 May 09
I don't like to live also without my parents. They are on top of my list of the most important people in my life. If someday our Creator will get them, I will accept it since I know that would be their sad. I just hope it would not be too soon.
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• Cebu, Philippines
12 May 09
In my case, I love my mother more than my father since she was the one who raised me up and get to college if it's not for my mom I wouldn't be here working in a prestigious company that I wanted ever since. I'm not blaming my father anyway because he's gone when I was five and I really don't know him that much.. Even If I wanted to be close to him, he never gave me a chance..but it doesn't really matter though.. Well I must admit that i missed him sometimes but honestly I don't have any feelings of longingness.. I would say even my stepdad is not as good as any other stepdad I would choose him rather than my biological father. My stepdad and I were not close but one time when I needed help he was there to give financial support coz i was too far away from home and was sick at that time. And that's the time I appreciated my mom and my stepdad after all ^_^ and thanks to them.
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• Indonesia
12 May 09
I love my mother more. Because she never cheated on her spouse and children. And she has done everything in her power to make sure I get higher education, job, and good man. I thank her for everything she taught me in my life, and I'm proud to call her MY MOM.
• Philippines
12 May 09
Im the only child in my family. Who I love most is my Mother. Since I was infant she was the one who takes good care of me and provided all my needs. My father left us when I was a baby boy then. Until now, I dont know what's the reason. But I don't hate my father because for me he would still be my father. His blood runs through my veins. Anyway, parents are trying to treat each siblings fairly. As much as possible they will avoid favoritism. I have cousin which is also a girl, and like you she feels more important in the hands of her father. I think that daughters are more closer to their father.
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• Canada
12 May 09
Hi, I wouldnt say I love one parent more than the other because I dont. I love my father as much as I love my mother unconditionally those two people gave me life, fed and clothed me, put me through school, bought me pretty much anything I wanted if they could afford it. But when it comes to closeness , respect and being supportive I would have to say my mother more than my father. He did and still does dwell on my failures instead of my success. Discourages instead of encourages etc...so my answer is I love them both the same but I respect my mother more.
@Ruby722 (798)
• China
12 May 09
I don't know how to choice.Sometime i think i love my mother more .But Sometime i think i love my father.If i must choice one. I think i love my mother more than my father.she is the one who always protect me whenever i am right or wrong.she is the one when i felt sad who is the first appear.She know all about me .She is care of me more than herself.Even sometime i think my mum like my little brother more than me .But who cares...Because i love my mum
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@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
11 May 09
I'm the youngest and I remember my dad always carrying me though am no longer that so young. My mom however was so caring and thoughtful to bring us something to eat everytime she goes out of the house. My dad wakes me up in the morning with my breakfast ready while my mom is already at the market selling fruits and veggies. My mom would wash my clothes and the dishes while I was a working student, despite of her busy selling sched. My dad would accompany me while walking, early in the morning in going to work. All the love from both the father and the mother for their children. I love them both. I lost my dad earlier than my mom, so my mom got all my love and care when she's alone already, we became very close as I spent all my time with her until her last days. Still I feel I have equal love for them. I miss and love them both.
@amrith (291)
• India
11 May 09
It is a sort of misunderstanding .parents love their all children equally. Because of some difference of opinion there may be arguments but it doesnot mean that they love one better than the other when you are in trouble you will understand they help both equally . who is in need they will be with them only
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• United States
11 May 09
I love my parents the same, but I am a bit closer to my mom than my dad. My parents divorced after I got married and my father had had an affair. I went through a period of time where I didn't like him to much, but I have accepted the situation and both of my parents are remarried and very happy now. My father and I have mended our relationship. I never stopped loving him though.
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@mybernz (34)
• Philippines
12 May 09
Being a youngest among the siblings of my family, i can say that both my mom and dad i love more because they support me as what my needs and necessity. they teach and help me in my studies and specially money to spend for so much.. they care me always and never to say words that are apparently hurting instead they teach me the good deeds.. they give me advises and both my dad and mom are caring me always.. they are always on my side... my mother and father do not play favoritism with all their siblings.. Why is that some parents have the characteristics of playing favoritism in their children? Even though boastful children they have, they played favoritism?
@yoyozhou (356)
• China
12 May 09
I like my mom more than my father.Since my parents divorced when I was in high school,my father never cared me.My mom brought me up. I have a lot of cousins.And relatives always compare me with cousins and that influence the friendships among cousins.Yes, I hate preference.It is unfair to children.
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• Philippines
12 May 09
hello there dear yonkie! I love them both actually, and you should feel the same, there is actually time when our parents do compare us to somebody else just to make us work hard to be as the one they compared. but as what your father said, don't take it seriously, they... or let me say SHE doesn't mean it. It might be her way of scolding you to tell you the wrong things you've done. or let me revise it, It's her way of showing you LOVE... my mother too do act something like that... I've done everything but its as if I'm not perfect, I can never be perfect... Yes nobody is, but at least even in her eyes, she must be proud of me... and even if i didn't see it, i believe in the back of my mind that she do. it's a matter of understanding. Happy mylotting Yonkie, hope things between you and your mom works better. :)
@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
12 May 09
i think i love my father more, as a man we understand each other perfectly well even though he doesnt seems to understand that i am a grown man now, i do love him more because i can al;ways ask him for something and in most xcases he doesn't resist, i like my mum too but she often think the other way
• Philippines
12 May 09
I love them both, it would be very difficult to compare, although there are some instances that would create your mind a side to hang-on but comparing them would be a different scenario.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
12 May 09
I'm a girl and i love my mother more then my father. i see my father only on holiday's. When I was a little kid, I remember my father on top of my mother with his hands around her neck. My grandparents would come and save us often. I try to block out alot of stuff i seen but i think it gave me a bad temper. i get freaked out about anything being too close to my neck even shirts. My dad is best where he is. Not around me.
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• Pakistan
12 May 09
Well,,, I'm a 25 year old guy.I have spent most of my time with my mom thats why I'm much more inclined to my mom but it doesn't mean that I dont like my dad. I love both of them but I have much more understanding with my mom than I do have with my dad.
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@ilawise26 (191)
• India
12 May 09
Hi yonkie 231 ! I think most of us go through such kind of partial feelings in our childhood. I was the elder daughter and i had a little brother. We had a difference of 7 years. Although it took him time to grow up so that we could be compared,i was always a topper,a winner of all-round activities in school; a constant achiever. But i always felt that my parents didn't love me much! When my brother started growing up,they started comparing him to me and he could not match my achievements. At those times i used to feel sad for him. Its not that my parents expected a lot from him,but they felt he was capable and was not utilising his abilities to the full. Even i agreed to that but i always felt that he should not be compared. But the fact is this is almost un avoidable. Parents compare thinking that the samller kid will be motivated. But they are actually too small to understand all that and feel insulted at times. In the wake of same children start thinking about how much a mother or father loves him or supports him. But the truth is,they love you all equally. Parents don't discriminate among children on basis of their performance at various levels. Its very important to know this. They love you and care for you. They just try to bring the best in you which is why they can't help comparing you. Infact sometimes they feel helpless they cant help you out. But this doesn't mean they love you less. So don't keep such complicated thoughts in mind. Life is to be love and lived and when it comes to parents,they are the ones who love you the most. They wont show it to you always. They don't even want you to know it sometimes. but it is for you to know yourself and return them the same love and kindness!
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@hanah87 (1846)
• Malaysia
1 Jun 09
I love my father more because i feel my mother is love my young sister more than me.My father never differ or divide his love with unfair.I think all parent should love their children with same amount of love.They should not fair to other their children.I love my father very much because without him,i will never go far as now in my life and study.