how can we stop the habit of breaking valuable things when angry?

@amrith (291)
India
May 12, 2009 11:59pm CST
I have an aunty whose husband throw and break the valuable things when he gets angry any solution for this?After sometime he himself regrets but this continuing on and on. What to do?
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4 responses
• United States
13 May 09
I think I would first put the valuables away as you would with a small child. When the anger would be starting, I would ask him to take it outside. The house is no place for anger. Maybe he can pound on a tree or something. It sounds as if he should explore some resources for dealing with the anger before it gets to the violent stage.
@tosha33 (265)
• United States
13 May 09
Actually throwing things while he is angry also is a form of abuse, it could be that he trying to gain control over the whole situation, and by throwing things it allows him to feel like he has power over your aunt, also beware of people that throw thing while angry, because he may wind up being a physically abusive man.
• United States
13 May 09
These were my thoughts exactly but I wanted to give the benefit of the doubt and present the approach that you would use with a child throwing a fit first. My sister had a son who could not control his temper. She finally told him that he was not allowed to throw a fit in the house. The next time he went to throw a fit, he walked from the dining room down the hallway and out the front door. In that period of time, he realized how stupid he was acting and brought that under control. As for throwing things, tolerating that one time is one too many times. The person that tolerates these unacceptable behaviors needs as much help as the person doing the actions.
@arcidy (5016)
• United States
13 May 09
Well when I get mad at someone I usally play videogames wich I think is a good way of redcing your anger or controlling it. Especially playing games like grand theft auto 4 is the perfect way of controlling you anger. If you get mad at someone and want to kill them play that game for a few hours and you will be just fine afterwards lol.
@amoyube1980 (2233)
• Somalia
13 May 09
There's a resort here in the Philippines where you can break as many things as you want. You can even throw a tv set, though it's not lcd. Only catch though is that you'll have to pay for them first before throwing them at the wall.
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
13 May 09
Anger is defined as a temporary madness. Many people are there who really forget the right and wrong when they are heated up. That your aunt's husband regrets later is his real self. And here he needs a bit of counseling either by a counselor or a psychologist or a psychiatrist. This is too much in certain people and they really need treatment or when they get angry anything they could do. Even a murder is not remote possibility.