Daydreamer2: What do you do to forget the hurt feelings?

Philippines
May 13, 2009 1:39am CST
I was hurt for a thousand times and i keep myself busy so i will forget and let it go. I read books, create poems and finally watch my favorite movie on dvd twilight. you what do you do to forget the hurt feelings? what is your diversion?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36471)
• United States
14 May 09
i like u get busy, cleaning out closets drawers , anything i van find to do. i get on mylot & that helps, sometimes i read or gosee a friend just whatever it takes.getting hurt is not an easy thing to put aside.
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@LittleMel (14053)
• Canada
14 May 09
I usually share it with a friend and then keep myself busy. In my experience if I am hurt due to no fault of mine, something will happen that will hurt these people back. Call it what comes around goes around. I sometimes seek revenge but it doesn't always happen so I will drop it and let a higher power takes care of it. Some hurt don't go away and make me cry in anger for years. But lately I have learned to let it go and not wasting my tears for those not worth it. I know that justice exists even if humans don't have the guts to stick with it, nothing can get in the way of higher power's plan and nobody is free from it.
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• India
13 May 09
for me i try my best to forget such feelings but, i never succeed in doing that , i just have a flash of what happened at that time when i was hurt. this happens every time i get sad , a flash comes in my eyes and i start remembering what happened at such particular time.also nowadays when i fell too sad i write that feeling in my diary so that i can share it to someone.also sometimes when people around me make fun of me and im helpless , i just remember god.this gives a lot of moral support.
• United States
13 May 09
you are so smart to write it done,it is a healing tool.sharing yor feelings is also a great way to get support and keep doing this and people making fun of other people is very mean, you sound very smart and very nice,nobody likes mean people,the people making fun of you may have alot of their own problems and some day they will feel sad for hurting you.when you remember god and and feel alot of support, its because he is right there with you to love you let you feel loved,he is much more important than all the mean people,and and you must be a very special person to have god whispering to you,this is why you remember him and think of him , he is letting you knowhes always with you and doesnt want you to forget that,you are very blessed very special
13 May 09
oh thanx for such a good reply. actually i always try to solve my problems one by one. it is just like the game of chess.And actually i dont believe in god , i use that word for the person that is most dear to me. she is just like my small sister and she always is there to help me when ever im sad , so i just try to remember her in the darkest hour.you may also try remembering the person who always supported you.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
8 Oct 10
Well its easy to blame and hurt the loved ones at few seconds with a few words, but the pain takes years to heal..that is really depressionful.
• Philippines
19 May 09
It's hard to forget hurt feelings. For me, what I usually do to forget that I'm hurt, I cry it over one last time, then share it to my friends until my feelings are numb. Then I divert my attention to more productive things.
@Beertjie (977)
• South Africa
18 May 09
Like you I have also been hurt many times. No one can go through life without being hurt from time to time. We get hurt by others, but we also hurt others. We do not intentionaly hurt them, most of the time we do not even know we did it. I do not divert from hurt being done to me, I face the situation and forgive. Just as I expect others to forgive me if I have hurt them, so do I forgive. If one does not forgive, you would not get rid of it, you are just setting it aside and it always come back. I believe in forgive and forget, but it is a choice. One cannot forget the incidence, but you forgive as if though it never happened. This is one of the greatest lessons I learned from the Bible. God says that He forgives and remove it as far as the east is from the west, He never think of the repented sin again. He does not hold it against us, as if it never happened. He will not allow the forgiven sin to come between Him and us. I sugest you put down the books and poems for just a while, think of those who caused you hurt and deal with it so you can get rid of it. Also think of the hurt you may have caused unwillingly, you would want those people to forget about it so it doesn't come between you. May you find blessings in dealing with previous hurt.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
16 May 09
It's really hard for me to let go of hurt feelings. I would like it to be easier but because of my past, it's made it harder for me to let go of things. My feelings are a part of me and to hurt my feelings is to hurt me personally and I don't take any of that lightly. My brother and I aren't talking because he's hurt me so many times over the years and finally I've said Enough! No more! Brother or not, he's not going to hurt me anymore because I refuse to talk to him.
• Australia
14 May 09
Having been through many hurtful things in my life (many of which should never have happened), i have had to find ways of dealing with them too. For me, it is getting creative. I either write, or do cross stitch. Both are creative, both are things I do well and both are very satisfying. When we are on an emotional roller coaster, our creativity is actually better because we throw all our emotions into our creations, which comes out in the finished work. I hope that you are working through your hurts. Write it out, draw it out do whatever you can to help you make sense of what happened, but never stop smiling.
@aikhong (661)
• Malaysia
14 May 09
Ups and downs are the norms in life. I was hurt many times too in my life till now. Whenever i feel sad or get hurt, i'll try to do the things i enjoy and let me feel relax, such as listening to songs, go for a walk, talk to friends, or watch comedy movies so that i won't keep thinking of the sad things. However, some hurt feelings are not so easy to let go. For those, just let time to be the best medicine.
@sanuanu (11237)
• India
14 May 09
My best diversion is to play video games on PC or my playstation console. Once I played almost 10 hours contineously to forget my hurt feelings.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
13 May 09
Hey daydreamer! I think that you have answered your own question! The best thing to do if you are hurt is exactly what you are doing! Keeping yourself busy is the best thing to do! Get together with friends, do things that make you happy, read books, go out and do things that are fun! And in time the hurt feelings get lesser and you will move on and find other things or people to take the place of those that hurt you!
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
13 May 09
Really hurt i was just one in my life, when i was very hurt.. I can say that i try everything to forget, i work a lot, i try to keep my mind busy too. But for something who is really hurt, in my opinion don t work.Nothing work...maybe just time...
13 May 09
Hi Daydreamer2: For me I will keep busy and take up needlepoint, it is very good for you because you are busy sewing you have not got time to think about other things and another thing is no man is worth the tears if he hurts you so much as they are not losing sleep over you so why shuld you, it is not worth it. Tamara
@Ozarkgirl (774)
• United States
13 May 09
I will totally get lost in work, movies, and friends.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
13 May 09
It is good to find distractions in order to stop moping but it is also very important to deal with your feelings and what has hurt you. When I feel down I like to find something I enjoy, it could be a funny movie, a book or sometimes a good chat with a friend can really help. I think it is important to find healthy distractions opposed to addictive substances or hurtful behaviours and it is helpful to find the source of the hurt.