In love but stuck ...
May 13, 2009 6:23am CST
Hi Everybody, A friend of mine has been in love with this guy for 3 years, she thinks he has feelings for her too because he has said really nice things to her and said they have a lot in common. But he also said that she was too young... But if it's love, age doesn't count right ? How can she make him see this ? How can she make him hers ?
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• United States
13 May 09
Sure with love age doesn't matter too much, but if the guy says she is too young then she shouldn't force him to change his mind. If anything that would push him away. My boyfriend is younger than me and I was weary about it at first. But he showed me how good he is and the more I talked and got to know him the age didn't seem to be such a big deal. She should respect that he is considering her age as a factor into his desicion. Maybe she should find out how he feels without her age being a factor, as if she was older. If after the conversation he still feels like she is too younger then she needs to respect that.
• United States
13 May 09
Hi jess, Love is the most beautiful sentiment a person can feel for another, and it is even greater if that person loves you back. When very young people fall in love for the first time, is as every first time: Amazing, strong, new... If the feelings are mutual and the time frame between the two are parallel, then the experience will be one "magical" of course until the first break up, I told you all the "first" are maximize. And believe me it will be one, because very few sweet hearts, now a days, end up together. I assume your girl friend is about your age, it is very easy for a girl to fall in love with an older boy or "man" thou it does not work the same vice versa. You see difference of age do matter, it matter so much, that as someone before me try to explained to you, law considers age difference as a felony, that has it's roots in protecting the young ones from few mature humans that have no respect for the inexperience of the ones that are just beginning to live their life's. Responding to your question that if it's love, age doesn't count? That is applicable when you are older and the law does not forbids you from taking your own decisions, until then age does count. If I were your girl friend's friend, I tell her to enjoy the feelings, she is having, because is nothing wrong in falling in love with someone that is not meant to be for you. Feelings are feelings, you cannot control them, but certainly you can control your actions, and ACTING on her feelings will only end in a bad start for her emotional life. Life has its own complications, why should we insist in complicate it more? Be patient, I will also say to her, when you are young love changes as the wind, until Mr. Right One comes and takes you in his arms swearing he will love you forever! I hope these comments will help you easy your girl friend's moments of anguish at her first in love, experience. Take care!
13 May 09
in love, age matters little. the couple just need to have a lot in common and trust each other. three years is a long time to get to know each other and if the guy feels their age difference is a problem towards continuing their relationship, then i guess it is time they both thought about it seriously. maybe he is just feeling insecure...