When you make a response,do you always write from your point of view?-elaborated

@kalav56 (11502)
India
May 14, 2009 6:52am CST
While you respond to a discussion do you always write from your 1] own point of view---]When we are conditioned by our own circumstances and tend to look from our own point of view. 2] from the other person’s point of view --We are able to sense the other person’s feelings and we find instances that were similar to their cases and write our response from this angle OR 3] From an overall perspective? -] we tend to think of various possibilities from our hearsay and reading books and personal experiences and then try and respond. Please share your views.
12 people like this
46 responses
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
15 May 09
Kala Hi! I normally try to view the situation from overall point of view and secondly from other's the point of view. I try to put myself in his/her shoes and imagine, how s/he would have felt when s/he landed in such a situation. Lastly, I also add my own experiences and thoughts to the discussion. I try to post my response on the core issue of the discussion and try not to say sundry or irrelevant things, not connected with the discussion.
2 people like this
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
17 May 09
Hi Deepak! That is what I too try to do ;I try to see the other person's point of view and then imagine myself in thta situation and give an answer keeping thta in mind.THanks for the great response.
1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
18 May 09
So we think and act alike.........!!!
1 person likes this
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
18 May 09
Hi Kala.....well my responses to discussion depends on the content and requirement of the situation and very often I chose from any of the above mentione options .There are some discussions where I frankly give my opinions.But there are discussions seeking opinions to certain situations and I comment keeping in mind the other person's requirement.But often I come across general discussions and even if I have no personal experiences I try to comment from my knowledge acquired through reading books or from other people's experience....Also while responding to religious or national topics I try to be cautious so as not to hurt anybody's sentiments or beliefs.........
2 people like this
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
22 May 09
I too try to do this and sometimes we will have to think from the other person's point of view because each one has a different set of circumstances.
1 person likes this
@trixyteddy (1072)
• India
17 May 09
If it is very necessary, then I elaborate. Or else, I respond to the point. I would not want mylotters getting bored of reading long responses.
2 people like this
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
22 May 09
I am guilty of doing the latter .Thanks for the response.
1 person likes this
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
16 May 09
I take making response as a challenge for myself. I respond based on my own viewpoint. That's what we are supposed to do, isn't it? Give our opinions and views. We may agree or disagree with the other person's view point, but that is, in my opinion, not really critical unless the poster is asking if we agree or disagree to his proposition.
2 people like this
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
22 May 09
It is true. We do ask for opinions and we get them.Thanks .
• India
19 May 09
i write what i feel is right. i cannot be influenced by thoughts and views of others which i cannot follow. sometimes it hurt others, but then truth will hurt. my idea of being little hard in my reply is to make the other person think rather than expect what he always been hearing. I mean to unsettle people. and I expect them to do the same to me so that i too learn from others.
2 people like this
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
17 May 09
Hi Kalav, If I am to respond I make the comment directly from my point of view. Ofcourse if the discussion topic is a bit too puzzling to get the gist I see one or two user respond and after I get the core I start my own point of view. Even if it were to be unpleasant I would not care and go ahead for I believe life is not always not a sugar coated pills. We need to see the bitter and ugly part too or else life would become all boring.
1 person likes this
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
22 May 09
I can understand your point of view and thanks for the participation Rajib.HAVE A NICE DAY!
1 person likes this
@fasyahime (634)
• Malaysia
16 May 09
i usually make the respond based on my own point of view,my personal experience and what i will react when that situation occur to me!i am only respond to the topic that attract my attention only,not because it's so hot!
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
25 May 09
I also responsE to what attacts my attention and where I can contribute..tHANKS A LOT FOR THE PARTICIPATION,
@mayka123 (10824)
• India
19 May 09
I usually post my responses from my own point of view. I dont think I should be responding from the other persons point of view or an overall perspective. I think if the other person does not agree to my point of view he/ she can just ignore my response. That is what mylotting is all about. Listening to everyone's point of view.
1 person likes this
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
19 May 09
I think I do a little bit of each. I'm honest, but depending on the circumstances, I can offer an alternative perspective, even if it is not my own. I believe that most circumstances or issues can have more than one point of view and sometimes I think it's good for us to consider all perspectives.
1 person likes this
@isawu2 (97)
• Canada
19 May 09
I always write from my own point of view. I also read others views because some time I may not have all the facts and then form my opinion based on facts not feelings. If the subject is more about the way I feel about something then I share my feelings about a subject.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
26 May 09
I totally respond with my point of view. I always assumed this was the reason for the response. Maybe I've done it wrong for a long time..lol It's hard for me to get an overall view of the entire discussion unless it's posted in detail. I need to know all the facts, so to speak, and that usually doesn't happen. Good discussion.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
29 May 09
I do not think there is anything wrong about it.You just write what you feel like and as long as it is not offensive or insensitive people are not going to take it amiss.As far as I know you have always made kind, neutral responses and in friendly language.that is what everyone needs Carolbee.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
29 May 09
Thank you so much for the nice compliment. I treat everyone exactly how I want to be treated. There is no need to be offensive, mean, or nasty when responding to discussions. I make it a point to not get involved in any political or religious discussions. That's where it gets sensitive and can hurt feelings. We all have an opinion on these 2 topics but I prefer not to talk about it. I hate conflict so it's easier for me to sit back, relax and respond only to discussions that will keep me out of trouble..lol
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
29 May 09
I wholeheartedly approve of your strategy.i too stay clear from controversial topics and just pick those that are simple and would not get me into unnecessary conflicts.Thanks a lot for sharing and am looking forward to some craft photo of yours.
@kiran8 (15399)
• Mangalore, India
14 May 09
Hi kala, I think it depends on the topic of discussion and what kind of answer it merits.I generally tend to answer from my personal point of view, because i wouldn't be able to know about another person's views, can only guess...sometimes it is from what i have read and heard, which is gain hearsay, but as i said earlier it depends on the topic of discussion really !
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
14 May 09
That is true kiran but what made me ask this question is while reading a discussion here , One of the responses struck me as a purely personal point of view as against the answer to the host's context and feelings.WHen there is so much of difference in situations, there can eb any number of answers. Sometimes answers are one dimensional. I agree that it is purely dependent on the topic and it becomes easier if it is an objective one.
@kiran8 (15399)
• Mangalore, India
15 May 09
Exactly kala, sometimes i see members giving answers totally unrelated to the topic or in an off hand manner which hardly contributes to the discussion, elsewhere i read some comment where members were criticsed for trying to keep the discussion going by posting comments to all the answers. Isn't that what we are supposed to do here? I feel that a mix of personal views and some borrowed knowledge is the best way to tackle any issue - strictly my views of course
1 person likes this
@kiran8 (15399)
• Mangalore, India
23 May 09
Hi kala,nice to see you back and active here. I had just left a post regarding your absence in my discussion abt stock market ..
@balasri (26553)
• India
14 May 09
I just try to give my point of view always.That could be the right response in a forum I think.Likewise some one else will give his own point of view and so we are able to look into the many sides of a same issue.It is always interesting to see the kaleidoscopic views here.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
14 May 09
Well said.That is the point of discussion and interaction and if we are going to say 'yes' yes what you say is right and I agree ' [in our Tamil there are ideal phrases Bala 'amam sami podaradhu''Jalra adikkaradhu' etc--sometimes I really miss the beautiful eqivalent[if you see what I mean]in English[it works the other way too but when it is some real sharp word or a Tamil proverb we always say 'Ah what a phrase'! [Is Jalra Tamil/I don't think so---is it?] But sometimes, I find people posting some subjective issues and in one discussion I saw a response which was totally out of context . .It is easy to discuss objective issues, where there is a free exchange of ideas without rancour. !']
@balasri (26553)
• India
18 May 09
That Jalra thing is a wonderful phrase in Tamil no doubt.You always can visualize a person clinking that metal pieces to behind the main singer or Bagavathar.There is a very apt phrase in English as you might very well know, meaning the same that involves the music and sound.Playing the second fiddle.Instead of Jalra it is fiddle here.People always thing and visualaize the same thing regardless of there language and region .Is it not so?
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
19 May 09
True.Many concepts are broadly same and it is the same with proverbs too.However in idioms and phrases too we seem to have had this equivalent.I too remembered it when you mentioned it.What an ideal phrase!Normally this is not too common and sometimes it looks pathetic when people translate the regional idiom to English.
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
14 May 09
Initially the response must be from your own point of view and experience, even if that is the opposite viewpoint of the person posting the discussion. For a response to have any value, it must come from both the heart and the head. If we simply say what someone wants to hear, either here on Mylot or in the 'real world,' we are not doing that person a service - unless what they want to hear also coincides with our opinion, of course.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
17 May 09
Of course what you say is true, but my question was if you are able to sense it from the other point of view alaso or if you just reply from your own.
• Spain
17 May 09
That depends on how the question is framed and the responder's experience, I think. The only safe way is to be sure that your response is as sincere and honest as possible, then everyone gains from the discussion.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
18 May 09
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
15 May 09
As for me, I don't believe in answering something that I don't believe in. I take pride in answering my discussions and I would love to have the same kind of responses and comments back to me. I can accept different points of views and light debates, but I can't tolerate rudeness and accusations. Otherwise, I think this place is such an awesome one. Good discussion here. A lot of answers in mylot are positive and it shows how members are very happy with their current lives. Some are in the process of moving homes, some have given births, some getting attached and getting married but there are also those suffering from illnesses, sad, depressed and having mishaps. This forum site is as close to real life as possible. I get this weird notion in my head that we are all in a very big cafe and we move from one table to another discussing and chatting, laughing and etc. Of course, this is virtual and we can only see words. But I can see the tears and the joys plus laughter that come through from those words. Good discussion here.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
17 May 09
That was an excellent response.And your picture of a cafe was really very appealing.We are chatting amicably in this forum , and generally there is so much of friendliness here.We do not worry about typos, grammatical mistakes , nothing and are able to look at it very easily like how we chat with dear friends.We do not stand on formality there.I am also like you ;I can never tolerate rudenss.
1 person likes this
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
19 May 09
You are so very welcome. Yes, if we can all get past our differences, this is definitely a very awesome 'cafe' in the running.
@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
16 May 09
i usually write from my own point of view. to me, that's what a discussion is all about. i start a discussion because i want to know what other people are thinking. if the responses are all from one point of view, then what discussion is there? also, i think the discussion starter wants to know what others are thinking right? just like this discussion, i'm sure you want to know what i am thinking about. if i were to response from your point of view or what generally people do, then there's no need for this discussion in the first place.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
25 May 09
well said Applefreak! It is true thta we would like to know what others think and thta is why we do keep posting discussions.However, I have seen some personal discussions and felt like asking the question.[one response made me do this]
@Crysi23 (515)
• United States
15 May 09
When I respond to a discussion I always write it from my point of view and my personal point of view. Therefore I try to respond to discussions that I can either relate to or ones that I have a strong opinion about.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
18 May 09
True.unless we know what we are talking about how can we talk any sense?Rightly said and thanks for sharing.
• United States
15 May 09
Of course I do. I am only qualified to give my own point of view not someone elses. I will sometime give an explanation of how or why this is my view on the subject.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
18 May 09
Of course what you say is right that you are qualified to talk from your own point of view. But what I meant was when you sense the other person's point of view you are able to perceive why he/she says so.THen when we narrate our experiences we tend to do it in a more sympathetic manner.THis only goes as far as the narration aspect.It does not mean that we are being dishonest to ourselves or to the other person.You have said it all when you say that you would also give an explanation as to why you said so. That was a a very composite response.Thank you.
@myl999 (2093)
• India
15 May 09
I post my comments or anything i want to when i feel like posting to a discussion or while giving a response.I am here to share feelings experiences information so i give what i have..i never try to give responses from others point of view i express just my self or what i think of a particular aspect when it is discussed.off course i try utmost not to violate any rule or hurt any one while doing it.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
18 May 09
That is a wise thing to do.Thanks a lot for the response.
• India
15 May 09
When I respond to any topic I make sure that I list the pros and cons of my views. I try to make sure that the person who has posted the topic gets the information he\she wants. If I've been in any particular situation that has been mentioned I give my point of view as to what I did and what outcome I got out of it.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
17 May 09
Thank you for taking the time to respond.