This is what pisses me off !!! read it and tell me what you think!

@Citychic (4078)
United States
May 14, 2009 4:03pm CST
Hey mylotters, here's the situation, you and ur x. break up. then ur x wants to continue to hang around ur family. Would it piss you off or not? I feel like he or she should respect the fact that you've moved on with ur life and I don't think that it's right for him or her to continue hanging around ur family. I feel like he's hoping and praying that I will change my mind and come back to him but it's not happening. What do you think, would this situation piss you off if ur x kept on hanging around ur mom and dad's house long after the relationship between the two of you had ended or not?
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@moofish (43)
• New Zealand
27 May 09
From what I am reading, I get the feeling you are in total denial. Why should it bother you so much him/her coming around if you are not still emotionally attached to them in some way. If it's truly over for you just get on with it find a new love and be done with it. I think your assumptions that this person wants you back is immature, they just might really like your family did you even consider that at all. It may have nothing to do with you. This sounds a little hard I know but there's lots more to this picture then meets the eye.
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@Citychic (4078)
• United States
27 May 09
This is what really pisses me off. True there is a lot more to the picture than what's meeting your eyes and ears. I already know that he would take me back today if I was to go that way but I don't want him back. You do not know the history between he and I so you really can't speak to say that I'm still attached to him. Believe me, If that was the case I would still be by standing by his side. Have a nice day.
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
16 May 09
That is a piss off! Breaking up means he mustn't do anything that has something to do with you and that includes hanging out with people close to you. I think that just beats the purpose of breaking up. I think it's also a total disrespect for your future boyfriend if he's is still around. For peace of mind, i think he must stay away. He is not part of the family and while he could be a family friend, i guess he should learn when to stop being a family friend.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
16 May 09
Thanks for ur response, I agree with you 100 percent. I wouldn't mind if he stopped over maybe once a year or once every 3 or 4 years just to make a quick pit stop and say hi, just checking on everyone but to make visits any longer than that is just him not having anything better to do with his time, I would imagine. Anyhow have a nice day and thanks again.
@tashakau (132)
• Canada
21 May 09
Wow! I have never been in a situation like that and yes it would piss me off and it would really feel weird. One thing for sure is that it will not make go back to him it will just do the opposite for me, that is a a real turn off!
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@Citychic (4078)
• United States
27 May 09
I know just what you mean, not to mention the fact that he went down every since i left. Now he really looks all beat up. You know that saying about behind every good man stands a good woman helping him along the way? Well that is a true saying. Alot of men would truly be lost if they didn't have a good woman in their lives. Well that one of mine didn't see the good thing that he had in the beginning so that is where he messed up at. When you move you lose. He moved in the wrong direction that's for sure.
@lupin0302 (137)
• Philippines
21 May 09
hi citychic, i think there is nothing wrong with that on the first place maybe he become so attached with your family, and he already consider it as one of his own. if you two have break up, did he also break up with your family of course not maybe he really like the company of your family that is why he is still friends with them i mean there is nothing wrong with that,it is not because you two have broke up you would expect that he should not go near to the people close to you but did you ever think that maybe he is closed to them to i think it is really unfair with him. you said that he should move on how sure are you that he is still hoping that you would still change your or maybe you are just the one thinking about that maybe you are the one that can't move on. my advise is to think this over again be true to yourself.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
27 May 09
This is what really pisses me off....... Oh Bull Lupino, He is the one that is having trouble moving on. I have already moved on a long time ago. He need to realize that my family will not support him if he need help. The sooner that he wake up and smell the coffee the better off he will be. If you are planning on attaching yourself to your ex's family then you too had better think twice because blood is a whole lot thicker than water. And noone can tear my family apart.
@AmbiePam (48153)
• United States
16 May 09
My family wouldn't tolerate my ex hanging around them. They would wonder why in the world that would even occur to the person. Breaking up is breaking up, and you'd think the person would get the hint. My family wouldn't be rude to that person, but I'm pretty sure they'd say something.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
16 May 09
I like ur response, it makes me think believe that ur family would support ur decision no matter what. Happy Mylotting and have a great weekend.
• United States
14 May 09
It sure would piss me off! I think you should tell him that you would like him to stay away from your family more, because you can't bear to see him, or because you just want to completely wipe him away from your life. Good Luck!
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
16 May 09
thanks for ur response but I think that would only cause him to want to hang around even more. Just knowing that it would upset me. Some people just don't realize when things are over I guess. Anyways have a nice day, happy mylotting!
@tabsnlos (587)
• United States
14 May 09
Back when me and my husband were dating, we had split for like a month and he did the same thing to me. He would chill with my cousin and my cousins friend who lived around the block from my house. My cousin was living at my house at that time, so he would come home and tell me everything that he would say about me. I always felt like he was there to be closer to me. And yea that bothered me at that time too. But now we are obviously back together and married now... But if that weren't the case and I had moved on, then that would have driven me up the wall!!!!
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
16 May 09
I know what you mean, I can understand the ex feeling close to certain relatives but they need to realize when it's time to pack up his fishing gear and head on home. It's been almost 30 years now and he's still trying to hang aroundI guess he just isn't getting the picture.
@jeffela (120)
• United States
14 May 09
I'm kind of surprised that mom and dad don't say, "HEY, Buster...it's been 11 years...maybe it's time you move on...she ain't comin' back!"
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
16 May 09
Once parents have accepted an in law they feel like it's for life......needless to say they don't believe in divorce. Anyway thanks for ur response.