Do you stand up for others or...

@SomeCowgirl (32273)
United States
May 14, 2009 7:04pm CST
[i]Are you the one being stood up for? If somebody yells at you, insults you, or just generally gives you a bad attitude do you stand up for yourself or do you let it go, and others stand up for you at the time or later? Would you start a fist fight to prove your point or would you rather use words to express your points? Are you the one breaking up the fights? [/i] I am the type of person who will most of the time let things go unless I know the person and I feel that I can stand up for myself without getting myself into more trouble. Usually though, even then, I would rather just let it go. Sometimes I'll get mad and take things the wrong way as well, and think that I need to get mad at the person because of a misunderstanding.
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7 responses
• Pakistan
15 May 09
Anger,especially fury, leads us no where but repentance in the end, It darkens our reason and numbs our mind. Therefore, it is wise not to lose temper. words uttered and actions taken in haste and anger are always wrong and bound to be repented and lamented over. I try my best to remain calm in tense situation, weighing my words and using them carefully so that they may not flare up the heated arguement, leading to fights or violence. I believe you should not be so sweet to be swallowed up by others, not too bitter to be spitted out.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
15 May 09
Your comment is a very good one, and I agree with what you are saying, but I feel that sometimes standing up for people does not lead to anger, or being stood up for does not lead to anger. In those situations, do you stand up for others or are you stood up for? Waiting for your response, I appreciate this one.
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• Pakistan
15 May 09
I love to stand for the people who are in distress or in trouble. I can't leave them in lurch. When people are being oppressed or persecuted, I can't see the other way. But I won't prefer to aggravate the situation by my unthoughtful and immature ways of dealing things. I love to be thoughtful in such tense situation to handle them effective and achieve desired result.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
15 May 09
I think that is the best way to go about it, with a levelhead, or a clear head. I appreciate the comment back to me.
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@dodo19 (28392)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 May 09
I do stand up for the people that I love, and for what I think is right. If it's for one of those two situations, or both, then yes, I will stand up, because it is the right thing to do.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
15 May 09
Do you or will you fist fight for what you feel is right? Why or why not? what would make you fist fight for what's right?
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@dodo19 (28392)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
20 May 09
It's difficult for me to say if I would fist fight for what is right. I don't know if the circumstances will arise. But if it does, then yes, I might fist fight for what I believe is right, because it might be the right thing to do.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
20 May 09
It may be, but hopefully no situations will arise that calls for fighting. Fighting isn't the right thing to do, but when it comes to protection, sometimes it's the only thing you can do! Well I hope you have a wonderful day and I am glad you've commented to me! May you have abundance in all you desire!
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@underdogtoo (9600)
• Philippines
15 May 09
I used to do that when I was younger, get into fist fights for the smaller guy. Now, I find this is not a good idea at all.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
15 May 09
No I don't think it's a good idea either, and should only be done in extreme cases, but then again those extreme cases is more of defending yourself and family / friends then anything else.
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@Ozarkgirl (774)
• United States
15 May 09
I always stand up for what I believe is right whether it is for me or for others even complete strangers, but no I will not start a fight to prove a point I would use words and knowledge. Yes I have a will try to break up fights when and if they occur. I let the little things go but not the important ones.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
15 May 09
Like the country song by Aaron Tippin suggests "You've got to stand for something". Now if it's something I believe strongly in and it has to do with the community AND I can do something about it I will. I don't like fights either, but if it's an insult I just don't worry about it, I don't like confrontations, and I've let people stand up for me in the past. Some people think that's a sign of weakness but I think it's just smart. I appreciate the response.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
29 May 09
hi Somecowgirl, I am basically a very coward sort of person and would always back away from fight citing Mahatma Gandhi principal of non violence when you need to be brave to follow them but i hide behind that and i know i have been pushed around by most people , yet i cant find the courage in me to stand up for. So i am a sort of guy wont stand for himself leave alone for others. No i dont like going in to fist fights or even go to lengthy debates to prove I am right and anyways it solves nothing. those who are very close to me i dont need to prove them and those who are not they dont matter.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
29 May 09
There needs to be some sort of principle that causes those who want to be so insulting of others, to stop and think. Your response made me think of a phrase or quote, one I think you may have been trying to get at, Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter. Saying that those who are your friends don't mind and those who aren't don't matter anyway.
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
26 May 09
This is another really good discussion baby and I am sure that people have different opinions when it comes to standing up to people,some people probably prefer to stand up for themselves,and also stand up for other people,and then I am sure there are some people who prefer to have others stand up for them so that they will not have to and I can understand both sides,I know you do not like confrontation and I do not like confrontation either,but I do have quite a temper which I got from my father and sometimes I will let things go,and sometimes others will stand up for me,like if my father is giving me a lot of crap,my mother will step in and tell him to shut up and drop it,but sometimes if I get mad enough I will stand up for myself and tell the person off,and I would not start a fist fight to prove my point,but if someone tried to hit me,you,or anyone else that I care about I would stomp the crap out of them,if I saw a fight I would try to break it up,and I know my temper is something I need to try and work on,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all of your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
26 May 09
I know that you have a temper but you also know that I have a temper that we both got from our father's. We both need to work on our tempers. I know that neither of us like confrontation but that if need be we'll stand up for ourselves, or others. Also we don't really like fist fighting or any other kind of fighting that involves hurting a person but that we would if we needed to defend ourselves, each other or other people we care about. I think that we'd defend others who could not defend themselves even if we did not know the person. I know that I would want to do something to defend another who couldn't defend themselves even if that meant doing the smart thing which is to call the police. I love you with all of my heart and soul too, and I hope that you have fun mylotting as well! I love you!
• Canada
16 May 09
I stand up for my friends and family. People that are important to me, or sometimes people that are too weak to fight back and are being walked on and treated horribly. Sometimes, you just have to, and because one person had the courage to stand up to a JERK, others will fall in behind you and stand up for the innocent victim, too. Others, that otherwise, would have just looked on in dismay, wishing it was over, but doing nothing about it for fear of "getting involved" and therefore having some of the shyte splash on them. Guess what, shyte washes off. LOL. I don't start physical fights, but I have had a few. It is not the best way to resolve ANY issue, in my opinion. I would rather try to 'talk it out' and try and reason with the person instead.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
20 May 09
It's great to stand up for what you believe in, and fighting isn't the best way to do it I have to say, I wish fighting wasn't even allowed or thought of, but I know that so many people do fight, and they get hurt. I know that the S**t washes off, and that what really matters is being honest and standing up for what's right! I hope that more people CAN talk it out!
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