Are you in favour of divorce???

@tuyakiki (3026)
India
May 15, 2009 2:31pm CST
Hi Mylotters!! How many of you are in favor of Divorce?? It is really a terrible thing and absolutely the last thing that could happen to a married person. Ending of the marriage is not always easy.It is really a terrible and shocking situation.But sometimes it is the only way out....I know, it is a much debated discussion. But I was just wondering...Should you all never give a second thought before going for it??? Be free to post.
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12 responses
• United States
15 May 09
I think divorce should be the last step you take when you have exhausted all other options. There are different reasons for divorce. I got a divorce from my first marriage after 8 years and 3 children. The man used me as his punching bag and I did not want my children growing up in this type of environment. So we left and I never looked back. It was quite some years before our divorce was final as I was staying with relatives so he could not hurt me as he threatened to do if I left him. The children were at an age then that they could decide if they wanted to visit or not. I have since met a wonderful man who is the complete opposite of my first husband and I love him dearly. So do the children. Life does not have to be over becasue of divorce..it is just a different chapter to your book of life. flutterby
@cbeee3 (2064)
• India
15 May 09
Well said!! And I am glad you shared your experience here. Helps me :)
• United States
15 May 09
You are so very welcome..Good luck in whatever you are doing. Life is just to darn short to live it unhappy!!^j^ flutterby
@tuyakiki (3026)
• India
1 Jun 09
Thanks for sharing.I loved reading your post.....You have taken the right decision.It too hard to be happy in life..
@marcialoyd (1174)
• United States
15 May 09
I am in favor of divorce in two situations. If Adultery is involved and also if there is abuse within the marriage. Other then that, I think couples should make all attempts to work problems out before resorting to divorce.
@omiami (412)
• Malta
17 May 09
I agree with the points you pointed out! I think it nearly in the same way as you do. It depends on the situation and what type of problems that the couple has.
@omiami (412)
• Malta
17 May 09
I agreed with one of the members regarding what situations should divorce takes place. But I would like to point out one thing which I think its the important thing. If children are involved, both parents should be well responsible of taking good care of the children even if there might be a cause of adultery by any of the parents or other situations. None of the parents should turn their children against the other parent. Its already a problem for children to face a parents divorce, imagine if parents keep fighting or use their children to turn them against the other parent. They should be left out of their parents problems. I know its sometimes difficult but I think it has to be done for the love of the children. I agree that a couple gets divorce if they cant solve their problems, but they should be grown ups and face things in the best way possible for the sake of the children. They should enjoy their childhood.
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
16 May 09
I am not in favor of divorce for the married couple should keep their promises to love each other until the end of their life. they should respect each other and be honest in everything that they have done so that they will be able to help each other needs.
@foisgras (205)
• Sweden
16 May 09
Dear tuyakiki, DIVORCE is not a solution to end up a marriage. No one gains, both lose after a divorce! So for me it does not resolve a marriage problem. I have gone through a divorce. I can tell you it is not a pleasant procedure. You become warriors! After 26 years of marriage, you wake-up one morning to realize that both of you were strangers to each other! Where is the love? This love becomes such a hatred that you can't explain. Neither of us understood how we could really destroy each other during this painful period. Try separation first and then divorce when the right time comes. Whoever invented this solution to marriage must have had a rough time loving another person!
• China
16 May 09
i think divorce is hard. And if things are not at the worst situation, i am not in favour of divorce. Marriage means to undertake every possible bad things happen in it. People who are married are accountable for each other. Never feel easy to end a marriage.
@sonusd (1548)
• India
16 May 09
I beleive that there should not be divorce in any situation if the child are below 15 years, because it will hamper there career and they may fall in frustration so i thought if husband wife are not ready to stay together they should take divorce but not before there childeren get enough matured to accept this because they may find someone else for rest of life but child will loose all the happiest moment
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
16 May 09
i suffered for unhappy marriage before.i knew it is not easy to end the relation specially if couple have kids together.kids always get hurt from parents's break.so it is not fault to divorce for couples.but it is faulty if they didn't care kids' feeling and hurt them by negligence
@redhotpogo (4422)
• United States
15 May 09
No. I am not in favor of divorce. Unless you are being abused, then get out. Other then that there is nothing you can't work out. If you really love the person you are with, then you can overcome whatever problems you have. Nothing should stand in your way. Forgive, and forget. You will have differences, and there will be problems. That happens. If you can get past them you will be closer together, your relationship stronger.
@anniefannie (1743)
• United States
15 May 09
i thought every thing could be worked out in a marriage but i could not with mine it take two to have a marriage and my husband liked doing things that when you are married you don't do.i new he would never change so i had to divorce him before he damaged my kids
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
15 May 09
I personally against divorce. Especially you have children. It is hard for your kids raised up in a broken family. It can be dilemma too. If you are not happy with each other any more, why force it?
@cbeee3 (2064)
• India
15 May 09
Divorce should be the last resort. I have been married for 2 years and my husband cheated on me and then started physically abusing me.So i think getting out is the best option.It takes 2 people to work on a marriage.When one person is not willing to do much, the marriage will not work and it is a lost battle. One must realize, You have but 1 life.It is better to get out of a painful marriage and try and gather the pieces of your shattered life and move on.No point remaning in a marriage that leads you to chronic depression, which is what happened in my case.