Are you afraid of rejection?

@arkansos (546)
India
May 15, 2009 9:34pm CST
There are a lot of my friends who are afraid of rejection. They wouldn't ask for things they are supposed to get, won't do things in the fear of rejection. A simple example would be one of my friends didn't ask for extra chicken at a buffet mess, even though he had payed extra money for chicken just because he thought he might be denied and it would be shameful. I, by the way, did and got extra chicken :) So do yo9u face tis problem?
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@Putranda (129)
• Indonesia
16 May 09
I don't care about rejection. I just try to get any chance (e.g fellowship opportunity) without fearing of rejection. My principle is "I will not get it unless I try it!". If finally I'm rejected, it isn't a big problem for me, even I will try it again & again.
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@cjmaltby (34)
16 May 09
Don't be affraid of rejection, if you don't ask you never get, everybody get's rejected some time in there life, me i expect rejection every day but it never stop's me from asking, you develop a thick hide, i smile to myself when i get rejected, i turn round and ask why they tried to make me feel bad for asking for some thing which is easy for them to do, i say i need what im askng for or i would'nt have asked for it, it make's them feel bad for rejecting me, i know it's bad of me,but it give's some kind of strange pleasure making them feel bad for what they did to me lolol...
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@megalia (60)
• Indonesia
16 May 09
For this case, I will not be afraid because we already pay extra money. So it is our right to get extra chicken. I think I also will ask for the extra chicken same like what you did. hehe..
@arkansos (546)
• India
17 May 09
Exactly. You never miss on food lol
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
16 May 09
yeah, most of us have this fear of rejection. it stems from the level of confidence we have for ourselves. some people have this high level of confidence that they assert their rights and themselves to others. while some are timid and reluctant to as they have doubts whether they will be accepted or not. they content themselves in what they have knowing or unknowing that there deserve better things.
@arkansos (546)
• India
17 May 09
You're right. Most of us do fear rejection. I can't say I am immune to this fear, I have it too. But it doesn't result in inaction in my case
@sanuanu (11241)
• India
17 May 09
Huh? Where did rejection come from asking for chicken? If I will pay for it then this is my right to get it in my plate, isn't it?
@pickoy (735)
• Philippines
16 May 09
It won't hurt to try, he'll never die if he get rejected for that extra chicken. I'd rather assert myself and go for what I want when I need it. If someone says no, its okay, I'll live, atleast I've tried than feeling so frustrated that someone never even cared. He has to understand that its not about the money its about him communicating what he wants to build a healthy relationship among people. They can't read your mind so you have to tell them what you want. You can't expect them to do all things for you unless you ask for them coz they're may be preoccupied with other stuff. He can ask politely, no need to be rude about that extra chicken... Suppose you're in the restaurant, if you asked the waiter what is due to you, and its accepted, you're happy and you'll come back and dine there again, so everybody wins... but if you're continually unsatisfied about the service and not communicating it, you leave the resto and they won't even know why they've lost one valuable customer...
• Philippines
16 May 09
I am not afraid of going after the things I like.I will ask for what I want.the one thing I just don't go after for is when I like a guy.I was rejected by a guy I liked before.yes,it hurt a lot.I've already moved on.the experience taught me a lot of things.I go after the things I like,but not in the romantic department.
@punlonnjack (1309)
• United States
16 May 09
im very outgoing and forward speaking but i am weak when it comes to rejection.im a people pleaser.if i cant please everyone and make them happy.im sad or upset with myself.its almost an impossible task at times but my feelings gets hurt very easily.
@faisai (1140)
• Hong Kong
16 May 09
Honestly, yes. I try to avoid getting into the embarrassed condition of facing rejection. However, that greatly subjects to whether I think the chance of being rejected is high or whether it is just my right to ask for more. I won't hesitate to do so if it is just what I can get.