Did it happen into your life this situation?

Philippines
May 15, 2009 10:34pm CST
My friend told me that as she was used to chat , she was fall in love witn her friends. Even tho she is married, but she hide it from her hubby. His hubby dont know it, what is your opion about this case? But she work his duties as a good wife only that she fall in love with somebody because of the nice chat. What about in your life , is it really happens to you evr. pls share for my friend. So far their relatio is nice and good so far w/ her spouse.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
16 May 09
I think your friend might be looking for something missing in her husband. Like for instance, her husband spends less time with her or perhaps there is something lacking in their relationship that friends and family do not see. Or perhaps she is totally bored with her routine life and just looking for a friend to chat or talk to. But then you claimed that she has fallen in love with the friend that she has chatted with. If she asks for opinion, you could tell her to not focus on the internet love and instead, work out the problems that she might have with her husband. Sometimes in a married life, one or the other gets bored due to problems or just wanting to spice up their lives. Perhaps what your friend needs is more attention from her husband and things will be fine once more. My best advice is to talk with her husband on what she feels and try to work out their marriage.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
16 May 09
I think your friend might be looking for something missing in her husband. Like for instance, her husband spends less time with her or perhaps there is something lacking in their relationship that friends and family do not see. Or perhaps she is totally bored with her routine life and just looking for a friend to chat or talk to. But then you claimed that she has fallen in love with the friend that she has chatted with. If she asks for opinion, you could tell her to not focus on the internet love and instead, work out the problems that she might have with her husband. Sometimes in a married life, one or the other gets bored due to problems or just wanting to spice up their lives. Perhaps what your friend needs is more attention from her husband and things will be fine once more. My best advice is to talk with her husband on what she feels and try to work out their marriage.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
16 May 09
Sorry for the double entry; it really wasn't intentional. I only posted once, but the PC had a glitch..
• Philippines
16 May 09
thank so much zed_k4 happy and learn more about your ideas and opions i will tell this to my friend. your awesome. Keep it up!
@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
17 May 09
Good advice from zed! If nothing is missing in her life then there is no empty place or time to allow her to fall in love elsewhere.
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@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
20 May 09
Maybe your friend is confused about "falling in love" and "being in love" - most of the time, people "fall in love" out of their control, they can't help it. However, to actually continue loving someone and to invest her time in a relationship THAT's true love. The thought that she has a good relationship with her husband suggests that she still loves her husband - and that her chat friend is simply something that sparked her interest. However, if she values her relationship with her husband, then I believe that the best step is to get rid of her chat friend. It may not be harming her relationship now, but it will in the future as she gets more serious with it. Thanks for the response on my discussion!
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
Im glad of your warm and nice ideas regarding this discussion. I'm so grateful , thanks and enjoy sharing your toughts.
• United States
17 May 09
It is NEVER a good sign when one feels the need to hide something as simple as communication with another person. Obviously she is aware that he will not be accepting of this behavior regardless of the reason for which she is doing it. This situation has the potential to get really ugly possibly creating trust issues. It is a well known fact that if someone with ulterior motives can hold your attention for more than 90 seconds . . . they've got you. Sounds like a choice needs to be made before someone gets mad, hurt or both. Either she loves and respects her husband and don't care to see him hurt or your gratification is more important because she is risking way too much to chat.
• Philippines
16 May 09
I already post discussion about life in chatting. I know lot of people who have an affair thru chat. I joined yahoogroups before, they have lots of member, man, woman, young, old gays and lesbian. Everyday, we will hear gossip that this one member is dating woman from the said yahoogroups. I dont judge them because i been to same situation. what i did is i stop chatting. but i still have contacts to some of my friends from that chatroom. they were my bestfriends now and everyone of us experience that life.