How Do You Love Yourself?

@russso (1701)
Philippines
May 16, 2009 9:18am CST
I can't quite remember the exact words, but there is a saying that goes something like this: Before you can love others, you need to love yourself first. Now. Here are my questions: (1) Do you love yourself? ... (2) How do you love yourself? --- In my case, I look out for the voids in my life and I find it in my heart to accept things that I cannot change. These could be past mistakes, negative feelings, and such. To love myself, I have to let go of the past and live for the now.
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18 responses
• Philippines
16 May 09
I am starting to love myself.I accepted my flaws and shortcomings.I already accepted the fact that I may not be pretty,but I have a beautiful heart.I started taking care of myself more.I already know want I want in my life.I surround myself with positive people.
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@russso (1701)
• Philippines
16 May 09
You are absolutely right about this -- surrounding yourself with people who are positive. Stay away from negative vibes :)
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
26 Jul 09
I also think only when we start to love ourselves we will be able to love others.
@angelsmummy (1700)
16 May 09
i do love myself yes, i have learned to love myself. it has taken me a very long time to learn how to do this. It has taken alot of work from my partner to help me learn how to do it, but now i am much more confident and i love my partner in a different way than what i did before becuas of this.
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@russso (1701)
• Philippines
16 May 09
You must have been through something tough. I'm glad that you have your partner with you. I think loving ourselves takes time because we need to go through certain things our lives for us to realize this since we usually put ourselves last in most situations.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
19 May 09
Only if we love ourselves, we will be able to love others. More we love ourselves the more we love everything in the world.
@vivianchen (2648)
• China
17 May 09
Hi Russo, I have to say that this is a good topic. Nowadays people more and more busy, they don't have time to take rest, they don't have time to have fun, they are just too busy about their work to make money and forget about theirselves. To me, i do love myself, and thanks for reminder me about that. How do i love meself, fed myself good!lol,,,serious, because girls always try to keep fit and look pretty, they control themself not to eat much, that is sad.
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
17 May 09
You are absolutely right. We should find time to walk and enjoy the world. Most of the time, we're running so fast that we forget to appreciate the things around us.
• China
17 May 09
Good topic.i love myself.i accept myself,though i am still working on my weight.i love the simple,kind and positive me.When i feel depressed or lonely,i buy myself some delicious food or something else.i eat regularly and try to take more physical exercise every week.i try to have enough sleep.And i always remaind myself of being toletate and not punishing myself bacasue of other's faults
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@russso (1701)
• Philippines
17 May 09
That's awesome. Every so often, we need to treat ourselves and you're also right that you should not punish yourself because of other people's faults. Keep it up.
@geniustiger (1699)
• Philippines
17 May 09
Yes definitely! I am unique person in God's image and to my parents. I love as what I am now cause I try my very best to please people evryday. I stay humble and calm whatever my achievements got. Im grateful that God gave me like this way I am now.
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@russso (1701)
• Philippines
17 May 09
You are such a nice person! Your good nature will bring you places. God bless you more :)
@ladybug565 (2217)
• United States
17 May 09
I dont love myself. That was hard to admit, I started to but I dont know I just dont. I love a couple of things about me but overall not yet.
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@russso (1701)
• Philippines
17 May 09
It does take a lot of courage to admit that. I'm sure that when the right time comes, you'll eventually be at the point wherein you could say that you love yourself. For the meantime, there is no need to rush. Enjoy the journey.
@galileo2008 (1140)
• Philippines
16 May 09
When I feel depressed, I eat a lot. (haha!) Seriously, I pamper myself with beauty products, like manicures and pedicures. I go to the coffee shop to have a taste of my favorite coffee. I go to the spa where I have my foot massage. I sleep to rejuvinate my skin cells and when I am fully awakened, I listen to my favorite songs. I always think of happy and positive thoughts and not to indulge in any harmful stuff. And very importantly, I tell myself that I am a child of God, and I am unique...and God loves me so much that I should live each day to the fullest.
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@russso (1701)
• Philippines
16 May 09
I have term for that... I call that ME TIME. I do that too, all the time. Nothing beats those mani-peds + spa sessions. Never stop doing these things okay? :)
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
having a healthy lifestyle is one of the things that you love yourself. it means that you don't want to get sick and be healthy as ever. loving yourself means, loving someone too, and giving in return.
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
That's true. I think that by doing so, we'd like to make sure that we'd live a little longer so that we'd be able to spend more time with our loved ones, see our own grandchildren in the future, travel some more, etc. That is one of the best things that we can give our family and friends.
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
5 Jun 09
Dear friend, I just think of my bitter side my family life so on, this could give a sympathetic feeling to my side, moreover those tragic incidence in my life which I faced the way it came. Moreover I believe in God who had did lots of things for me. Actually my blief in God make me love myself.Moreover there of lots of people who had face more worse problems than me, in that cae I am lucky.
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
God never gives us challenges that we cannot face. Whatever life throws our way, it is so that we may learn from it and become better individuals. I am glad that despite the tragic stuff you experienced, you continued to press on. I admire you for that.
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
26 May 09
Great post! It's wonderful to hear about people who care about themselves "enough". I'm SOOO tired of hearing people who actually *claim* to be martyrs because they do everything for other people at their own expenses. Of course there are certain "sacrifices" that would benefit the spiritual and mental well being of people but physical sacrifice especially that comes from abuse is NOT acceptable in any form. I try to give myself as much luxury without wasting anything (money, time or attention) - small favors for myself like buying the things I want (shopping therapy!) and making sure that I am fit and healthy (going to the gym is a treat for me :D). I like what you said about letting go of the past as a way of loving ourselves. You're absolutely right. I'd like to add that making promises about our future is also a good way to show our love for ourselves - to promise ourselves that we would never let anyone disrespect us in any way. Thanks for the response on my discussion!
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
26 May 09
Going to the gym is also a treat for me. My day is not complete without a spending time at the gym. It's as if a part of me is missing. Shopping Therapy is one of the best therapies. Whoever said that money can't buy happiness is not true. Obviously this person does not know where to shop. Lol. I'm just kidding. And that is one good promise that I'd also like to make and intend to keep. Cheers to the future.
@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
26 May 09
yes i love myself, in fact i love myself very much. my life goals has always been to be happy. i will do everything within my power to be happy. accepting things i cannot change is a way to be happy. i always tell my colleague that if there is nothing i can do about something, it is pointless to be worried or angry. i spend most of my time doing things that makes me happy. things like reading a good book or having a good meal. thankfully i've never wanted to be rich or famous because then i will have to spend all my energy there.
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
26 May 09
Oh gosh, that is absolutely true! Worrying does us no good. Same with anger. We shouldn't waste our energy with negative feelings. It is always best to channel our energies to positive things
• China
17 May 09
I am agree with the sayings you state above. If you still not know how to love yourself, do you think you have qualified to love others. Under this stagnant enconomic, with huge pressure, maybe we can not change the status in quo, but we can make ourselve happy first, and do what we love, buy something that we eager long time ago,or to relax ourself by travelling. Anything you like, just do it!
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
18 May 09
That's a very good perspective despite the current global economic situation. I admire your for that. It does help to see things and events in a different light. Let us see life and live it with love.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
17 May 09
I think should consider ourselves as a person and tries to look from outside. We should try to forgive ourselves and forget ourselves. We will also try to keep ourselves happy. We should forget our past mistakes and forget all the negative feelings. Yes we really need to let go of the past to be happy and try to live every second of our life.
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
18 May 09
It's great that you choose to be happy -- it radiates :)
• Indonesia
17 May 09
Yes, I love myself. I'm not perfect, but at least I'm a lot smarter than the people who say or do bad things to me :)
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
18 May 09
No one was made perfect and we're all made to be unique individuals. People who do or say bad things to you are not worth your time. Spend time with people who love you and surround yourself with people who give positive vibes. Cheers!
@Beertjie (978)
• South Africa
17 May 09
I love myself by trying my best to better myself. By this I mean to become a better person, to be able to treat others better, do the things I do better, etc. I always want to know my weak points, my shortcomings and the wrongs I do to others. I then work on these things to become better. Another important thing for me is to be able to forgive myself. To love is to also forgive. I had to forgive myself for my previous mistakes and bad living. I have to forgive myself for things others, and God, has already forgiven me. Sometimes, although we have been forgiven, we do not forgive ourselfs. It is important to forgive yourself, get over it and learn from mistakes. I love myself by trying to look after myself, health, neatness, presentable, etc. If you love some one, you look after them, so i must look after myself. I also love myself in buying gifts for myself.... Love yourself, and many more will love you... Blessings
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
18 May 09
Everything that you said -- they're all true! We should accept ourselves exactly for what God has given us. We may have shortcomings, but these should not pull us down. Being harsh to yourself is not going to change anything. Everybody changes. However, if we're too hard on ourselves, the change that happens to us is negative. With acceptance, comes positive changes.
• India
14 Jun 09
Yes I am absolutely agree with you we have to first love yourself. I have good kind of exp. that the person are not happy with them self his behavior is quite similar with the other person. Being human.
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
from the different problems i have been through and have them whole heartedly. i can say i love what i am becoming now than before. i become more mature and love my self more than i could give to others. its better to love ones self first before indulging yourself to others. nice to be open and respectful for the past and the things that have happened, accept the things that have done and let go of the past. thanks friend jhelai
@Frederick42 (2020)
• Canada
17 May 09
In order to love oneself, one will first have to find out who one is. Discovering the self is very difficult, but it is possible through meditation. When one goes deep into meditation, one forgets one's false self or ego and thus one goes beyond the ego. Thus one discovers his true self. It is not possible nor is it desirable to love one's false self or ego. But unfortunately, that is what most people are trying to do. That is the reason why people are so miserable.