Is it what you expected?

United States
May 16, 2009 12:08pm CST
Is your life what you thought it was going to be, say, ten years or more in the past? Have things worked out as you expected them to work out? Or has life thrown you a few curve balls that changed everything? Is it better than you thought it would be, or worse, or just different?
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
17 May 09
hi teacher...no, 10 years ago, i had other plans, and now all is changed. But life show me that i am a strong person who can go on, even in my life i had so many hard moments. Maybe those moments make me more stronger, and i am sure that i will "fight" with life as much as i can. Now i am more wisely, i don t make plans, i take life as she is. of course i try to do my best, but day by day life make me be more understanding with life meanings.
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• United States
17 May 09
Yhat's why I'm glad to know you, Icesmile. Strength and courage are admirable and you have both.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
17 May 09
you have both too, you are a admirable woman
@thezone (9452)
• Ireland
16 May 09
Hi Cobrateacher, No one really knows where they would end up in life. Ten years ago I had different plans and different dreams. Where I am now is a world apart from where I thought I would be. But I don't think I would change a thing as I am happy and that is what really matters. I really believe life is what you make it. How you deal with those curve balls is what defines you and makes you a stronger person. That is just my take on it
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• United States
17 May 09
Wonderful response, Zone. I couldn't agree more.
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@thezone (9452)
• Ireland
17 May 09
Thank you for the BR cobrateacher, much appreciated
@riyasam (16582)
• India
17 May 09
i am sure happy with my life now.sure,there have been lot of changes but i have always learnt through these changed,mow am a content mother and a wife and a good daughter.
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• United States
17 May 09
Bless you, my friend. To be happy with your kife is a great thing too many people can not find.
@xParanoiax (7005)
• United States
17 May 09
Nope, not in the way I expected...I'd say at all, but some parts are a given, even if I like to pretend they're not. Alot of things have happened to completely change the course of my life. It's been interesting. The only constant is change, right? Better, worse, or different? Can't I pick all of the above?
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• United States
17 May 09
All of the above makes you truly human, and that's a wonderful thing to be able to call yourself. You're a really good person, so it's obviously worked out well.
@sanuanu (11241)
• India
17 May 09
Nah, not at all. I have dreamed that I will be a big person by the age of 27 but I am not. I am still strugling with my life. No one to blame though, it was only me who couldn't convert his dreams into reality. I hope that next 10 years will do wonders for me. I don't plan big for that time period though. I think if I will have ample to feed my family, then it is enough!
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• United States
17 May 09
We never stop changing, nor do our values and perceptions. One of the negative things about planning for the future is that we don't really now how those changes will affect us. If we're not very flexible, we can be terribly disappointed. Accepting what is our reality is a great way to live, as you seem to be attempting. I hope your next ten years will bring you joy!
@bird123 (10343)
• United States
16 May 09
It was the curve balls that made me stronger, smarter and wiser. Life is an adventure. If everything turned out just exactly like I wanted, it might get boring.
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• United States
16 May 09
Excellent insight!
• United States
16 May 09
To answer your question,I thought I would have more than this, so no, it is definetly a reach from what I thought it would be. When I was younger, I was interested in the world around me.; constantly delving deeper in literature, and so overwhelmed by what could be out there, in space that is. I wanted to be an astronaut. I wanted to be a writer. I wanted to be a doctor, and help those afflicted by hardships. I am still in High school and I will be graduating next year. I have experienced the worse three years of my life. I don't know if it is from my doing or others...it's a mesh of everything, actually. Grades and family life hasn't been all that great to say the least. But as a dreamer and a "soon to be working at it" optimist I know what I need to do, not just what I want. Maybe in a year or two, I will be able to respond with a higher level of achievement.
• United States
16 May 09
Your mature insights show a lot of promise. You know you can have life as you want it. You just need time to get it going. Good luck!
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@maximax8 (27048)
31 May 09
My life has turned out different to how I thought it would. I am now 36 years old. Ten years ago I lived in my old cottage but I sold that and now I live in my modern house. My son was born in 1995 during my marriage. I didn't know that I would get divorced but I did. I didn't imagine that I would have anymore children as the years flew past. I began another relationship and was amazed to get pregnant with a second baby after a 12 year gap. It was really upsetting to find out he has spina bifida at 36 weeks pregnancy. He is now 2 years old. He needs catheter care as well as physiotherapy for his weak leg. My sister didn't plan to have children but she met her dear husband and has had four children. I got my dogs in 2004 and 2006 that was planned. My traveling was and still is planned.
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• United States
31 May 09
Maybe it isn't as you expected, but this and other posts of yours have shown me that life is a good thing for you. What could be better?
@maximax8 (27048)
31 May 09
Yes, I am a lucky person. My life is fine. My top hobby is traveling and I have been to more than fifty different countries. I didn't think my Maths was good enough to get into teacher training but with lots of effort it became better. I went to university and became a teacher when I had expected to stay working in an office.
• United States
28 Jun 09
Wow! That's great!
@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
18 May 09
Hello there. I must say that sometimes life don't go the way that I want it to be but I know that perhaps there is a silver lining to why things happen or not. However, I use every experience that I have gone through to do better the next round. Good discussion here.
• United States
18 May 09
Hi, zed! Life has its ups and downs, but I want to concentrate on the ups. When the downs come along, they're gone before too long. Life is one great surprise after another.
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@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
19 May 09
I like that. Definitely a box of chocolates, we never know what we might get.
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
17 May 09
Hi Jo, I've always lived my life one day at a time so I can't say it's better or even just different. I will say it's worse than I ever imagined. My adult life has been a series of ups and downs. The ups were short lived and the downs seem to last forever. But I really don't mean to complain because my life has been a good life especially when I think of the way so many people have to live or just survive. I still have a roof over my head and food to eat. Medicaid takes care of my medical needs and my hubby and I are still holding on. My Son is being very vigilent about taking his meds for his Biplar Disorder and still in college. So I feel very blessed for the good things in my life. This economy is hurting more people than I could ever have imagined and all I can do is pray that things will change for the better soon. I wish only the best for you and all that I know and love. Hugsssss leenie
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• United States
17 May 09
What a wonderful person you are, Leenie! You've been through so much that's so trying, yet you'e positive and happy. What could be better? No wonder I like you so much! Joanne
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
17 May 09
Dearest Jo, You make women proud. The physical hell and emotional is more than most people could take, and yet you keep working and giving each and every person, child or adult your very best under the most trying conditions. And you do it without help. Talk about wonderful!!! Our God led each of us to this place called Mylot Land where we could find the love and kindness, understanding and support. But most of all to meet each one of you. And for that, I am truly thankful. Hugssssssssss and kissessssssss leenie
@geniustiger (1699)
• Philippines
28 Jun 09
From my life now a days , I did not think this is the hings I would be now. Before not yet 10 yrs past I thought I will be more luxurious than before. I got wrong of what I think before. Everything got into worst when I involved of networking business that it goes down and this is the problem I carried as of now.
• United States
28 Jun 09
Crises in the world have made crises in almost everyone's life. Hang in there, Tiger!
@debrakcarey (19925)
• United States
14 Jun 09
one of the best things about life is each day we wake up to a brand new chance to make things better. Am I living as I thought I would be ten years ago...no. Have I been thrown a few curve balls...of course! Doesn't everyone get those thrown at them? lol It just keeps me growing and learning....and running and jumping and ducking and smiling and crying and laughing and what else can I say....it's an adventure for sure! lol
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• United States
14 Jun 09
What a wonderful response! Every day, there's a gift of some kind handed to us by the Universe. Most of them are full of joy.
@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
20 May 09
My life has been very different from the way I expected. Some time ago I was reading a couple of discussions here on MyLot and one of them was about longterm goals. The question was: "Did you achieve any longterm goals?" or something like that and that question really made me think, because I never achieved any longterm goals in my life. I have made many plans and I have had many goals, but my depression and my anxiety have made it hard for me to achieve my goals and I often had to change my plans. I haven't had a bad life, but my life hasn't been easy and it has been very different from the way I planned.
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• United States
20 May 09
The way I've heard it, people's plans make God laugh!
@abkinsey (173)
• United States
17 May 09
In terms of family life, my life is better than I thought it would be. I have a great husband and son and I couldn't be happier about having them in my life. In terms of having kids, it's harder to conceive than I thought. We've dealt with infertility, ectopic pregnancy, and stillbirth. Not fun! We are so blessed to have our son, though. In terms of finances, it's worse than I thought it would be. My husband and I have a lot of debt we're trying to get out of. It won't be like that forever, though!
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• United States
17 May 09
abkinsey, It certainly won't remain that way. The struggles make us stronger and clarify our thinking. Times change and so do we -- for the better, I'm sure.
@twinlady (47)
• France
17 May 09
Life and expectations - do they actually go hand in hand? In 1998 my marriage fell apart - I lost my house, my kids, and my self-esteem. Today, I am happily married, have a new career, have been to new places, have my kids back (well they are 30 and 28 year old twins, but we actually talk to eachother now, and see one another whenever possible), have made a life choice to leave the UK and live in France, have wonderful new friends, I have learnt to ski! and speak fluent french! Not bad for someone who thought it was all over. It is probably just as well that we cannot look into the future - we should live for today, and make the most of things. There are no problems, only challenges - and challenges are there to be met!
• United States
17 May 09
You have certainly found the answers. Whatever we might have expected doesn't matter much. What we do with our lives mattes a lot, and you've done wonders!
@savypat (20248)
• United States
16 May 09
I never look to far into the future. My life is a day by day adventure and I just face whatever comes. Some times have been bad but all in all most has been good. I have a roof and food, good friends and family and can still have my animals which I love. Then I found mylot and that made it even better.
@billzehua (573)
• China
26 Jun 09
For me, seems that i m not that high above to look down upon the ladders i have climed over, i have just finished like 22 365-days, Compared to those things i have worked out, there are way more things waiting me to work on, money, family, reputation, circle...but if you insist digging out my past life, i think they are just ok if confined to my growing environment.at least i have been not drifting over different areas,careers...for me, everything outthere is just an X, waiting me to figure out what exactly it stands for...later i m gonna tell you what my life is about, curve balls or straight lines..,but that later at leave is more than 5 years, can you wait that
• United States
27 Jun 09
You'e so young, it's all ahead of you! I hope whatever you want is what you're able to achieve. That's not just a career and financial success, but a successful lifestyle with the people you want to have in your life. Don't let life happen to you; make it happen for you!
• China
28 Jun 09
Hey,Joanne, there's an interesting living ideology varying here and there. i heared that Americans critisize the way Chinese live, like everybody lives like a bee, keep accumulating when there'r enough to spend. we appricate people who bears a long doglife just for one point of life with fame, money,power.we are just timid in spending. we focus a lot on result! ever since the primary school, how much score you got will decide the looking right on your parent's face the whole following summer vacation! the whole judgement system here is deallocked,tight! but look at you, seems that you always seize every aspect of life to live it full, the parents here start saving right before the child is borne(sometimes God even make a terrible joke of no pregancy to the family), but i bet this is rare upthere, is it.
• China
28 Jun 09
and eh, btw, if you can my discuss on 'the linkage of happniess to success', that' ll faciliate the understanding of mind-level here
@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
20 May 09
Life isn't going exceptionally good for me after all these years, but I am thankful that I'm able to achieve some things in life and to call my own. Like in work, for instance. I'm so happy to finally be able to get the things I want by working hard and at the same time, I'm at a happier place right now. I have had encounters with lots of hardships too along the way, but those are not without hard efforts to strive and be better in terms of emotionally, financially and mentally. I would also say that these experiences, good and bad have shaped me to become a better person, or molding myself to be better. I have made friends along the way, most gained, some lost and I have also learned the meaning of being true to oneself. Perspectives and ambitions will always be there, but to be true to oneself is the most crucial thing to retain one's own identity. And with that, I have always been true to myself and acting in a way that is in accordance to my own thoughts, feelings and behavior wise. No regrets, but certainly the past is something that I would not want to be in anymore. I'm certainly looking forward to the future and enjoying the present life at the moment. The most that I'm looking for is blessings from God all the time to keep me and my family and love ones safe always. Good discussion here, cobrateacher. This makes me remember about my own perspective in life. Have a nice day.
@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
20 May 09
I decide to answer your discussion again for I have some things to add. Should have slotted this in the comment area. Sorry for the error.
• United States
20 May 09
It's great to hear from you again, zed! If, in the balance, life is more positive than negative, it seems as if we really have it made! I wouldn't go back to my youth again for anything, but sometimes I wish aging could slow down to allow me to savor every bit of life as it is now.
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@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
21 May 09
It's definitely a pleasure for me to be here in your discussion. I enjoy thought-provoking discussions like this. And you summed it up right. I wish time could be a little bit slower too, but they say the older the wiser.
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@hollowheart (1572)
• India
16 Jul 09
Really a good discussion. Well i ahve always been dreaming and am still stuck in a dream. However ya a lot of them have been fulfilled. Som on the spot, some a little late. However i guess i expect a bit too much from everything and thats where i get killed. I am stuck in one such situation and i am thankful that all u wonderful people r here beside me at my rescue operation. As far as in the case of love my expectations have always failed. Still fighting.
• United States
16 Jul 09
Hang in there, friend! Persevere, and it can all happen for you!
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• India
17 Jul 09
Thank u so much friend. I will definitely persevere till i succeed in my missions. U have showed me positive light and i shall follow that light beam to success. :)
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
17 May 09
Better, worse and different. It was better than I thought it would ever be for awhile. I had 30 to 40 thousand dollar job. Then worse, even trying to get a 20 thousand dollar job was impossible. The curve was teach inmates, that was different. I had wanted to teach little children. Then working as a correction officer for awhile, that was very, very different. Now I may be back to worse. After June, I don't know what I will have for work, if anything.
• United States
18 May 09
Oh, Edge! I'm so sorry you're going through this! Sometimes I wish I could get away from my job as a teacher, but that's only when I have to deal with lousy administrators. Then I shut the door and the kids are the greatest! I know I'd be miserable if I didn't have this job, and worse if I didn't have any. I pray you'll find what you're looking for. Joanne
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
18 May 09
You're very sweet and kind. I so hope that I have something in July and August to get me through. The Census job was supposed to be 5 to 13 weeks, more like 3 1/2. Just messed me up for subbing. I appreciate your prayers, I need all help I can get in this economy.