Where do you find that "perfect someone??"
• United States
17 May 09
When young I too believed that if I looked long enough that perfect woman would come along and oh did I want that. Let me tell you something from experience. There is no such thing as a perfect one and only. When we meet someone that really does it for us, and you them, it will happen when you least expect it. To believe that if you only keep looking hard enough that perfect person will appear bears false expectations. I can say that because I am now in my third marriage and I have loved all three. All three would be what I would have called the right one. The first one I thought was for life and we were together for 37 years. But she found someone else that seemed to be better than me, at least for her, and we divorced. I met the second one via the Internet and after a few months we married. We would still be together except that within just over 4 years she passed away from a heart attack. Both of these losses were devastating to me. I loved these women with all my heart but I found myself alone again. With a great deal of help from my family and a very good friend I managed to get through it and begin to date again. I am now married again to a wonderful woman. There were many things about each that were the same but at the same time each have different qualities. Were any of them perfect? I defy you to truly define what is perfect. For each of us that is different and you may be surprised to know that it is not even what you think it is until you experience it. The odds against being married to each of these three women were extremely high. But because I knew what I wanted, took the time to prepare myself for a new relationship, those odds were diminished. May there be a miss perfect out there for me that I have never met? Perhaps. But as far as I am concerned I found her, all three times.
• United States
16 May 09
Stop trying. Let it happen naturally which will probably take longer than if you look. But you'll probably find someone better if you just let it happen. I went 17 years without a relationship. Thought it just wasn't in it for me. I enjoy kareoke so I would go everhy tuesday. There was this person that knew me by name because of all the times my namem was announced whenever I got on stage. And I knew her name then same way. So she would saqy hi to me, I would say hi to her and that was it. One n night she was at a table with a few of my friends. The only seat avaiable was next to her. We stsrted talking and now we have a house together.