When First Impressions go wrong.
By alokn99
@alokn99 (5717)
India
May 17, 2009 5:59am CST
Smartly dressed, good command with the language and speaking with soft tones and a very dignified manner while speaking to the lady at the bank counter. I thought of the person as a pefect gentleman.
I was in for a rude shock for the commotion that followed.
This same person in his impatience of being made to wait , called an elderly customer service representative an "Ape". While the person was made to apologise for his rude and discriminatory remark, it made me wonder as to how sometimes our first impressions get to be all wrong.
Have you been totally misled by your first impressions and faced something like this ?
Is it we,that tend to easily believe or some people who do this delibrate act of cloaking and faking themselves ?
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13 responses
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
17 May 09
I've ended up completely surprised at the behaviour of well dressed and outwardly cultured people more times than I care to remember! In some instances, it's as if there's some universal mathematical equation that increases the level of one's arrogance in direct relation to their styling and apparent economic status! 
I especially get disgusted by so called "upper class" people that demean others because they consider them to be be beneath them. In many of the countries I've been to, this is very common unfortunately. We all know to never judge a book by it's cover, but we keep on doing just that!
I especially get disgusted by so called "upper class" people that demean others because they consider them to be be beneath them. In many of the countries I've been to, this is very common unfortunately. We all know to never judge a book by it's cover, but we keep on doing just that! 1 person likes this
@AB_Singh (132)
• Nepal
18 May 09
By your this experience I remembered something in me. Ofcourse it happens. I don't need to go to others to know such matters. I use to make such events with others. I use to make a good impression at the begning to the people but can't keep it up for the long term. I have realized it many time and afraid of destroying my 1st impression to the people, only because of some simple uncontrolled mistakes and that is by myself.
AB_Singh
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@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
18 May 09
The problem with most of us is that we tend to take people at face value. Very often we are proved wrong. Being well dressed and dignified may lead us to believe the person is good, but then one h as to open his mouth to give us the right picture. It is basically the nature of a person that makes for a good impression and not the looks. Live and learn, eh ?1 person likes this
@23uday (2997)
• India
18 May 09
hi
Yes sometimes first impressions go wrong,it's really shocking how a well dressed up person can be so rude and can have an ugly behaviour.
Even i have seen people who two behaviours,in apperance they look so good but when it comes to manners and good attitude,they are totally foolish and awkward.that is the reason,we shouldnt judge people by mere looks as looks are deceiving.
happy mylotting
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@cainam (493)
• Philippines
18 May 09
those hypocrits tend to be deceiving most of the time. it is kind of dissapointing to know someone's true color when you expected too much from that person. i once have a classmate whom i thought to be almost perfectect but she then turned out to be a real dumb. sorry for the term but she really is. she flirted with my boyfriend. i would have never known until ly bf confessed to me.. it is really wrong to judge a person with the way he/she looks or speaks. a lesson i have learned in a bitter way.
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@technoobs (406)
• Philippines
18 May 09
This really would break you on during that time to get that first impression. Its very embarrassing to be on this situation, and would really give you the total conclusion.
Although that would never had consequence of making it positive,just leave it behind and never think it happened, it would only let you depressed thinking of it.
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@arkansos (545)
• India
17 May 09
Well, first inpressions are crap since people are seriously conscious about making it correctly. Everyone's heard the saying "First impression is final impression." Its become cliche. We should not judge people by their first appearance....because they are most probably faking it
@techgurl (451)
• Greece
17 May 09
First impressions can often be misleading. After all, the saying is true that you can't judge a book by its cover. You can't "figure out" someone just by their appearance or just by one conversation you have with them. Sometimes it takes awhile to reveal what is hiding behind their facade. I have been led to believe that somebody was nice and then to be back stabbed. Most people even get the wrong first impression about me. I think it is something that we cannot help and have to form an opinion on someone without even knowing them.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
17 May 09
First impressions gone wrong.
IDk but I think that some people just like having a lot of drama in their lives so they will do just about anything in order to get that extra little bit of attention. I wonder what would have happened if you had of just turned around and walked out. 
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@littleme16ga (360)
• United States
18 May 09
Oh I've been mislead believe me. Some people are just fake and put on a good show. There's not much more to it than that. It happens all the time. He was extremely rude for calling that person an "ape". Wow I would have said something to him that was definately uncalled for.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
17 May 09
It will go wrong if we judge it like that
and it happened that we are wrong. Sometimes first
impression dont last. I encountered this in my life
im looking at her as a strict person but for the long run
she is so nice and have a good attitude . I got wrong of interpreting
her in the present.
@newfnshow715 (15)
• United States
17 May 09
when people judge on first impression they usually end up harmed after meeting someone online.
