how can i find a girlfriend/boyfriend?

@bhabytart (1116)
Philippines
May 17, 2009 10:52am CST
this is a difficult question..... because i myself dont have a boyfriend....im used to wait for the person to find me.... but its been quite sometime...... and im not getting any younger.... hmmmm..... will that special person find me? :o(
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17 responses
@harryt123 (327)
• United States
19 May 09
This is actually not an easy question and there is no one answer that will help you find a partner. When it comes to love, just like the saying goes "Don't search for love, let it find you." I believe that is a true statement because when you don't look for someone they will find you at the right place and the right time. What I can suggest is that you can go out to social events and meet people through them or even go out to interest groups that might help meet someone with similar interests as yourself. If it is meant to be it will happen, one thing that I have learned throughout the years is that love can't be forced. Hope that helped clear up and shed light on this discussion. Good luck on the search. =)
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
19 May 09
thank you for that very nice comment.....
• Japan
20 May 09
Just be who you really are because that someone must accept you no matter what. You are not a perfect person and you will never be one so he should learn to accept your flaws from the very first moment. Through this, you don't have to pretend and act more naturally to make your relationship grow as true individuals.
@modstar (9617)
• Philippines
18 May 09
Yeah, i think so as long as your also put a little effort. Like socialize a little bit even online. You never know that the guy you are longing for is just right here online. So why not give it a shot right? I am also the same age as you and i'm single too. I'm kind of worried about it too because i also have plans of starting a family. It's just that i don't see any potential girl around.
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
18 May 09
sigh....... we'll let just hope that he/she is just around there.....hope he finds me and hope you find her..... who ever she is......
@modstar (9617)
• Philippines
30 May 09
Who knows? we might find eachother. lol!
• Philippines
18 May 09
Hi, it's simply waiting....but it depends on you if you wish to do that...=) But i believe God design every person a special someone to those who are special before Him. Usually people get tired of waiting but when they see what they have waited, they might be happy. I know timw will come to see your special someone in the perfect time. He just want you to be more excited of it. Just enjoy!!!
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
18 May 09
thank you TATA...just like you enjoying your child, your husband(erick with a "k") hehehehe....... regards to ging2x, archie,te jen & te hazel and family....
• Philippines
19 May 09
haloo!!!! nice to hear from you thru ate thess. I'm always asking asking her if how are you now? Hope we can see each other soon. Yes, i will extend your regards to all folks! God bless!
@diamania (7037)
• Netherlands
17 May 09
The secret is: don't search at all. Instead use body language to show you're interested in somebody and you like him. I read the books of Leil Lowndes perhaps you could do the same it really seems to help me. I know a particular person has a crush on me and she isn't ugly or something, so perhaps that helps.
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
17 May 09
but im a girl....... isnt it a bit awkward..... for a girl to make the first move?
@diamania (7037)
• Netherlands
18 May 09
No I don't think so. Firstly if you don't want to make a real first move then just trigger his love for you. But again no it's not awkward if you don't take the initiative nothing will happen. ;)
• China
19 May 09
Hi bhabytart, It seems that I shouldn't respond to this discussion because I don't have a boyfriend either. But let's try to find someone who are suitable for us. To achieve this, I'd like to take part in many activities. It not only broadens our view, but also it provides us an opportunity to meet many boys. Yes, let's do it together!
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
19 May 09
hmmm... lets widen the road....... thank you for the comment....
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
19 May 09
don't worry, someday your soulmate will come and reach out to you. you don't have to be impatient because i believe that someone out there is destined to be with you forever, you just have to wait. one thing that helps is to mingle with your friends, go out and have fun while still single. somebody out there that you are going to meet may be the person that you are going to live with for the rest of your life.
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
19 May 09
thanks for reminding me not to worry....thank you...
• United States
18 May 09
My opinion is to do what you like and don't look for romantic connections exclusively, friendships are worth developing too - you never know what it might become. Allow me to illucidate: most of my friends try looking for someone by going out partying, clubbing, to raves, parties, concerts, blah, blah, blah, typical stuff. Well the people they find seldom last very long and lack much. The few who've taken my advice have done much better, they've joined book clubs, taken cooking classes, sterted volenteering in the community. They've all made friends and more than a few have begun relationships with people they already have alot in common with. So I say work on yourself, find something you feel passionate about and persue that, and be sure to notice the people along the way. One last bit of advice, don't worry too much about formality, the times they have changed. :)
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
19 May 09
thank you for the suggestion....
@Generis (145)
• China
18 May 09
I'm still single and not young . I have the same question like you. I can know some people from friends' intruduce or online . But seems that there's no feelings to each other . I'm not so active , positive ,talktive ,funny, opened and etc .The guys who I knew are also this character ..So , if we wanna find a girlfriend/boyfriend , we must change myself a bit :)
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
18 May 09
wow..... change is a big word.....thank you for the comment...
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
18 May 09
There is a special person for you that you know, so please do not search for her desperately. One day she will be there in front of you. There is no secret mantra for impressing a girl, it just happens. So wait for the right person and right time. THings will fall in place.
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
18 May 09
ammmm..... dropofrain "im a girl"....... i am really a girl.....
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
18 May 09
If you make yourself available, you will find each other. I never hung out in bars or dance clubs, but I do think pursuing your natural interests is a wonderful way to meet someone who has something in common with you. Some have found true love online or via dating sites, which I didn't try, but here are a few other ideas, if you don't mind venturing out alone at first: Travel and vacations doing things you love Poetry readings at the library Join a bicycling club, and dance class, a cooking class, any class you'd love Church Antiquing A card club, chess club, fishing competitions, or any group that joins together doing something you enjoy Dining out, even alone, at your favorite restaurants You get the idea : ))
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
18 May 09
yup!!!! thank you for that suggestion....
18 May 09
if you are saying that you aint getting any younger then try some social networking sites or dating sites. also speed dating. maybe try meeting new people through your friends and just remember to be yourself and dont act as if you are looking for someone if you are just meeting new people.
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
18 May 09
havent tried that social networking site....thank you for that suggestion....
• United States
18 May 09
are you seriously asking this question? Are you like two years old or something?
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
18 May 09
no im not..... but maybe if you were in my situation you would understand.....anyway thank you for that comment...........................................................................................
@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
17 May 09
you could try social networking / dating sites... there are lots of them. if you are okay with the idea of having a long distance love affair. i've known some people who have done that and are successful with their love life, some are married already and with kids.
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
18 May 09
long distance? its ok as long as that guy in NOT SALAWAHAN....... you know..... hahahaha.....
• United States
17 May 09
Hi, Bhabytart! Just when you least expect it, that perfect guy will come along. I've seen it happen so many times. When the time is right, it'll happen. Don't worry!
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
18 May 09
thank you ma'am.... i dont want to be an old maid.....
@cmy1004f (381)
• China
17 May 09
I can understand your mood, I also not a girl druing 18 to 22, just a thing different with you, I still contradictions to find a boyfriend is necessary or not, I am not sure can become a good girlfriend.
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
17 May 09
well you will never know unless you try it.... i just hope we find someone for our self.....
• United States
17 May 09
The only thing I can tell you is that if it's meant to happen it will happen. The best thing to do is just try to get out and put yourself into social situations where you will meet the largest amount of people. The more people that you meet and interact with on a daily basis, the more likely that you will find someone you will be interested in. Don't force it and just let a relationship happen, you'll find that they are much more enjoyable and last much longer when you don't try to force yourself into one.
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
17 May 09
thank you for the suggestion..... il try to meet other people.....
@shibham (17025)
• India
30 May 09
hi there. there is not any special formula for love. if u began to chase love then it will be far away from u. wait, it will come spontaniously. u can't creats love, it happens....if u don't mind. i have a funny comment. but not now. if u say, then. thanks.