Who is your best friend....the person you love or someone else?

India
May 17, 2009 12:54pm CST
Hi Everyone. One's best friend is bound to be a person whom he/she understands the best and like the most and who understands them. But if you have a friend like that and still you love someone else, why is it so? What are the qualities that make your love even more special for you then the person who is your best friend?
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@carrine (2749)
• Philippines
18 May 09
hmm sounds that you are inlove with your bestfriend huh? right? :P peace LOL i mean since my bestfriend is a girl of course i do loved her, and i do care for her since i considered her as the person whom i can share with.. and if ever i have a bestfriend and it happens its a boy, more better,why? the chemistry between man and women are perfect. its really nice to have a bestfriend and his a guy. whew. wish i have one. LOL
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. With peace... No I don't love my best friend and that is why this question occurred to me. I love some one else...how?
@carrine (2749)
• Philippines
21 May 09
hahahaha.. sorry iam wrong of what i think. LOL i mean theres nothing wrong about it when we fell inlove with our bestfriend. and we cannot tell either. so why not. you said that you love someone else.and how? what do you mean by that? your confusing me really. LOL
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• India
22 May 09
I mean I like everything about my best friend and still the person whom I love is another girl. If there is nothing wrong in my best friend then why I love someone else?
@salonga (27957)
• Philippines
19 May 09
My best friend in this world is my husband. No one else. Yes I have large number of good friends but none of them could equal the love and understanding my husband could give me. He is the only one who knows everything about me and the only one whom I could confide and from whom I get real understanding.
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• India
21 May 09
Trust and understanding are two pillars on which any relation can stay for any length of time and I think you have those two going for you. Thanks for your response.
• India
21 May 09
@coolmiraj..i completely agree with you..trust is most useful ingredient for making most sweet dish of relationship..
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• China
22 May 09
first, i love all my real friends,no matter boys or girls,so my best friend must be my love. and ,i think that this feeling is differ from the others, i mean ,the friendship is a special affection between the love.
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• India
22 May 09
Hi. Of course we love all our friends. Thanks for your response.
@suzzy3 (8357)
21 May 09
My husband is my best friend.We discuss everything,tell each other our troubles and fears ,we share everything.I also have good friends as well ,but nothing beats my husband he is the best human being alive on this earth for me.
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• India
22 May 09
Hi. It is really nice to be with the person who is your best friend and I hope you always have this pleasure in your life. Thanks for your response.
@turones (206)
• Philippines
21 May 09
my husband is my best friend. we were good friends at first and the relationship developed into something better. i didn't find it difficult to love him because we have so many things in common. we like to do the same things and activities. we both like to eat and many more. i could always count on him for support in everything i do and he's always there when i need him. i can't imagine life without my husband, without my best friend.
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. I wish you and your best friend remain together till eternity. Thanks for your response.
• India
21 May 09
my best frnd is someone diffrent from my lover...as i just want a pure frndship with mybest frnd ...she is cute,charming,energetic,understanding,caring,loving..but i dnt get such vibrations from her which i got from my GF... there is no help when u cant love some one like a lot..i just dont loose any one of them.. i need both of them in life....wat special in my gf is the excess love,care and possessiveness..
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. That is what I was looking for. The exact thing that I was not able to give words to. Thanks for your response.
@littleowl (7157)
20 May 09
Hi cool', I am single but have a best friend she has stuck by me through 40yrs we have known each other, and is like a sister to me there is no-one that I can say I love anymore apart from my family...littleowl
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. Don't know what to say on this one. I mean their is no question that you are going to love the people that are attached to you by blood relations but feelings too can make you love someone.
@eshaan (6193)
• India
19 May 09
we love the person whom we are with for long times, and if we get some other who is better than the exsisting then naturally we start liking him/her, but its not necesary that the one who is appearing to you as gold now...is surely gold....it may be just your attraction and may be disapointing later....so better be with one to whom you are already committed and find more and more goodness in him/her
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. These relationship are more because of feelings then qualities and hence it is hard to do what you have said. Thanks for your response.
@winterose (39917)
• Canada
19 May 09
I was never sexually attracted to my best friend nor him to me, we loved each other like brother and sister.
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. You have given the discussion a completely new direction and I think having that kind of bonding is really good as well. Thanks for your response.
@soulist (2986)
• United States
18 May 09
My best friend is my best friend form college. We became friends because she dated a friend of mine and ended up being roommates and grew very close. We have been best friends for the past 5 years or more. My boyfriend is also someone who I consider to be a best friend because he knows me more than anyone and knows secrets that no one else knows.
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• India
21 May 09
hi. I don't think that sharing secrets only makes a person close to you, it is the feelings. By the way, thanks for your response.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
18 May 09
I am fortunate to say my best friend is the person I love most and whom I am closest to. I can not imagine someone else being a best friend other than my partner.
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. I too wish that one day I can say the same thing as you have just quoted. Thanks for your response.
@Hedwig (285)
• China
18 May 09
In my case, someone else. Because my best friend is also a girl :) But if she were a boy, maybe I would fall in love with her. Just kidding.. To be honest ,I do feel envy towards people who fall in love with their best friends. They are so lucky to be blessed with this kind of relationship. Maybe in the future, I will also fall in love with a friend.
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. I too feel like those people have the best of most things as their friends are the one they love the most. Thanks for your response.
@plddre79 (161)
• United States
18 May 09
my best friend is my creator, god!!! my second best friend is jesus christ!! my third best friends are my beloved parents! you can always count on the above to remain your infinite friends. however, beyond that point you may believe you have a best friend and find out at a later time it was only wishful thinking that you did have a best friend but, didn't in reality!
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. It is kind of true and kind of false for me as well. I don't believe in god and all that but yes I believe that parents are real good friends.
@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
18 May 09
hhmm that is easy my friend her name is Donna an we were friends since we were 10 an I am 43 today so for a few years an we have never had an agruement believe it or not there are things we dont agree on but we just dont let it get in the way of our friendship like she is a catholic an I am a wiccan an even though she dont believe in my choice we just talk about other things an she is the godmother to my oldest daughter
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• India
21 May 09
hi. That is a special kind of friendship that you two share. It has survived a long time and I wish it remains so for ever. Thanks for your response.
@tokwa666 (33)
• Philippines
18 May 09
Someone else, she is not my lover. I love her but I dont mean that way. Intimacy, passion, love, trust etc etc etc those are just some examples you feel when your love to someone is you yourself doubt it.
• India
21 May 09
Hi. Sorry but I am not able to make out what you want to say. Please explain it a bit.
18 May 09
I don't really have a best friend, I just have loads of normal friends. I treat all of my friends equal because if you treat someone better than someone else, for example, if you get one of your friends a £20 present and another a £5 present, the person that received a £5 present will get jealous and things will start to go wrong.
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. I think that it is the mistake of that person who is feeling jealous, as he/she is the one who is comparing themselves to someone else and not ours. Thanks for your response.
• China
18 May 09
I have two best friend, they are my primary school students, our three are in the same class. Call to remembrance of our happy childhood, i think it is so fortunate for me to have these two best friend. As a proverb saying, in one's life, one or two best intimate friend is enough. Cherish the friendship we have. and hope, when we are all old, we still can be a friend and recall the goodness we ever have together.
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. I too agree with you that the friends you have in your early years are best to be with at all times. Thanks for your response.
@angelajoy (1839)
• Philippines
18 May 09
My best friend is definitely my boyfriend. We're not married yet, but we've been together for almost five years. We've been through a lot, and despite all the difficulties, I learned to trust and love him more. There's no one who can understand me better. He's the only one who can make me smile when I'm feeling so angry and upset.
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. I wish you have more pleasurable time in future and always be together, but it is not nice that you can be please by a single person only. Think about it. Thanks for your response.
• Philippines
18 May 09
My best friend is my Girlfriend... We trust each other so well that we almost know everything in our lives.
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. It is really nice that you have a real trusted bonding. Thanks for your response.
@Archie0 (4669)
18 May 09
according to me best friend will not stay with me till my life ends but ya my boyfriend will b with me to support me till the end.. tomorrow if my best friend get a nwe guy she will obviously start avoiding me because that erson will be more close to her. so i will alwys rely on my boyfriend thn my best friend atleast till my life ends
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• India
21 May 09
Hi. You have written something erroneous, I think. Please tell us wheather your are talking about your boyfriend or....