Is it possible to pick up a sense about a person just from a few words?

United States
May 17, 2009 3:51pm CST
I work for a oompany from home in which the only contact I have with the company is through email and over the phone. Most of the teamleaders and people I have talked with have been very friendly but I do have one teamleader I work with occasionally but everytime I talk to her I pick up a sense of irritation from her and I cannot tell if it is just me. When I have to send her an Instant message it takes her forever to respond and sometimes she does not even respond or if i have to call with a question she takes forever to pick up the phone sometimes I have to try calling again because she does not answer. My job is taking reservation calls so I am constantly dealing with people that are of all different personalities. I am just finding her very difficult to read and if it is me that she just plain don't like well that is fine but I figure her position as a teamleader in a customer service type business her attitude should be displayed differently. Any thoughts?
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@Citychic (4078)
• United States
17 May 09
Is it possible to sense negative things about a person with just a few words? Hell friend, I do believe it's possible to pick up on a person's feelings, thoughts and emotions with just a few words. In a perfect world she might put on a different attitude as a team leader but you got to remember, this isn't a perfect world. If you just continue to be kind I'm sure that you can win her over. Good luck!
• United States
21 May 09
You are so right about this not being a perfect world, I do practice the golden rule though treat other like you want to be treated and hope that she will come around. But it is also possible it is just her personality and she does not even realize she comes across so hard sometimes.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
22 May 09
You are right friend, sometimes people tend to get so caught up in either their self, their problems or in making money that they don't even realize how they are projecting their self out there to the world and to others. Anyhow you are doing good not to go off on her. Just continue to maintain your cool and don't let it get you down. I have to do this all the time, particularly in a marriage situation. Good luck and hope you have a great weekend.
@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
17 May 09
I think in this case it is not a sense you are picking up. It is more like an irritation. You are doing your best to get your job done, and she is not responding the way you want her too. That can be very nerve racking. I think it can. Good luck, take care.
• United States
21 May 09
I think maybe it is just her personality and she probably does not mean anything by it kind of like my husband he is somewhat of an abrasive personality which makes it hard for us sometimes because I am overly sensitive at times.
@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
21 May 09
I know that over sensitive thing. I have it too. It is not easy. We sense things that others don't see. Sometimes I wish I did not have it. On the other hand I normally always know what is going on. But, it would be nice not to worry so much. Lately I have learned that when I have an issue with people I care about. I have a talk to them, to see if I am on the right track. That usually helps break the ice so to speak and then things don't seem so serious anymore. And I often wonder, why did I make myself such a fuss. Take care, have a nice day.
@beachstarz (1092)
• United States
17 May 09
Hi angel, I'm sure that in your line of work that you can pick up things about people by the words they use . I don't know if I would take it personal or not. Maybe this woman is short with everyone ,and it's her job that she don't like . You are right , when working ccustomer service she needs to make an effort to be cheerful. Sounds like she just might be in the wrong line of work .
• United States
21 May 09
That is what I was thinking but then I started thinking that also she may just have that type of personality I could compare her with my husband I guess he seems to come across kind of blunt and rude at times but he is a good guy at heart just not one of the most personable people you would meet.