How do I know when I have fallen in love?

Malaysia
November 11, 2006 8:54pm CST
I have a a male friend since high school who accompanies me to the library, lunch or movies sometimes but we have never held hands nor kissed and since he used to be seen with me most of the time, it was taken for granted that he shall be my husband some day. I just went along and accept this arrangement because I don't know if that is love or obligation or fate. How will I know if this is love?
7 responses
@hcprasad (1013)
• India
30 Nov 06
sometime back you did not think that way. But now you thought. Be specific in your words and ask whether he is ready. If he says ok go ahead and enjoy
• Malaysia
30 Nov 06
Ready for what, I wonder....anyway, thank you for your response.
@kimmypot (285)
• Philippines
15 Nov 06
you will know if you love feelings for him when you feel that your heart is beatinf faster just at the sight or thought of him. do you get a little nervous when you are with him?
• Malaysia
30 Nov 06
Thank you for your response Kimmy and sorry for the late reply. I was involved in an accident and has been hospitalised for a while. My reply to you is, I don't feel anything when I see him. Its just empty.
@baysmummy (1638)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
You will know its love when: 1. when your apart you will long to see him again 2. you will find yourself ringing him just so he can hear his voice 3. when you see him it will feel as if your heart as melted 4. all that will matter to is you is to make sure this person is happy But i can tell that from you asking this question you already know the answer and you dont love him!
• Malaysia
30 Nov 06
Thank you for your response baysmummy and sorry for the late reply. I was involved in an automobil accident and was hospitalised. Answers to your question -No I don't know but you were right - I don't miss him nor long for him cos I don't know how I should feel.
@mywebi2 (129)
• Malaysia
15 Nov 06
u will alway miss him when you are fall in love. do this happen with u?
• Malaysia
30 Nov 06
Thank you for the response mywebi2 and sorry for the late reply. I was involved in an accident. Anyway, the answer to your question is, I never missed him.
• Australia
12 Nov 06
You miss him badly if you are not with him. That is a sign that you love him. why dont you ask him if he loves you?
• Malaysia
30 Nov 06
Thank you for your response milliondollarman and sorry for the latelate reply. I met an accident and was hospitalised for several weeks.
• India
28 Aug 08
Im new here. i just went by Ur profile and came across this. Recently my love crashed because of very silly reason. I know this question was posted two years back, but even then why i feel to reply to this is because i want to empty my heart somewhere. Look love is really special. If that guy is for u, then surely you cant change anything he is for u only whatever happens, even if the sky falls and tigers eat carrot, that guy is for you only. If he is not for you, then im sad to say even if he is the only guy who suits you the best you wont get him. Don't take it negative. whatever it is don't ever believe adore or worship anyone too much that when they leave you, you will become a heap of trash. I cant bear my feelings, but what to do? I have very nice and best mum n dad. I cant leave them aloof like her. There is no mistake in her even. Its fate, that's all no one else to blame. Sorry for troubling u. Its been two years. Whats your condition now?
@icequeen (2842)
• Canada
30 Nov 06
Well..how do you feel when you are with him? Do you feel happy and are you attracted to him? Do you look forward to seeing him? You will know if it is love....you will feel it.