Would you allow your friends to date your brother/sister?

@laydee (12814)
Philippines
May 17, 2009 10:49pm CST
Let's say you have a very good friend (guy or girl) and they're interested in your sibling. Would you feel comfortable with it? would you allow such? What would you do? Have you ever been in this situation? There was one time in my life when my younger brother's friend was hitting on me. I really felt very awkward and weird! I never told my brother about it (I didn't want their friendship to be tainted or something, plus I wasn't really interested in the guy so I ignored the advances). I would feel awkward really if something would ever brew from his friends or my friends etc. I don't think I'd be willing to allow my friends to be going out with my brothers or me going out with their friends. It's so silence of the lambs thing hahaha.. What about you?
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16 responses
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
18 May 09
I believe that I have a decent taste when it comes to friends and if I found someone to be good enough to be considered a friend or a very good friend as you said in your narration, then I guess he/she is good enough to be a love interest of my siblings. I don't really mind. It may be a bit ackward at first but I can easily get used to it. It would be great if they really end up together but if they don't as long as its not totally my friend's fault, i think our friendship would still survive.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
18 May 09
Well nobody is perfect, what if your 'good' friend cheated on your sister? whew.. That'll be tough. You'd even get blamed when the relationship doesn't work out well hehehe.. since you introduced them.
• Philippines
19 May 09
It depends on the situation. I think there is nothing wrong with that if his/her friend is a such a good person. I used to go out with my brother's friend, we met somewhere else and it was late when my brother knew that I was going out with his friend. My brother told me to stay away from his college friend as he said that guy cheats on his girlfriend, so I did what he told me to do.
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• Philippines
19 May 09
I am an only child but if ever I would have a sister and a friend would like to date her, I think it would be fine with me. As long as they tell me ahead of time. I don't be the last one to know. I am also confident that my friend won't do nasty things on my sister because most of my friends are decent people.
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
19 May 09
I will allow them to date my sibling provided they are responsible and proper. I always think what's best for my family so I would really reassess first whoever my siblings dating including my friends. If they are nice and responsible then no problem for me.
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• United States
19 May 09
It would be a very uneasy feeling for me. I know i have one friend who always jokingly hits on my sister, and i always find it very awkward. So i say that your friends dating your siblings is not in the norm.
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@technoobs (408)
• Philippines
18 May 09
If that is why we became friends having another intentions that he/she never said to me well I'd better say no. Such intentions would let myself better end the friendship and bid farewell to each though. I don't like this to happen to me.
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• United States
18 May 09
yea,it wouldn't bother me.i'd probably be more approving of it since i actually know the person.my brother has picked some..whoo..winners on his own. i would tell them though,if it goes bad,i don't want to hear from either about it.
@soulist (2987)
• United States
18 May 09
In the past my brother dated one of my friends who turned out to be my roommate. I was happy about it because she was a good woman and would treat my brother right and he would treat her right. It didn't effect my friendship with her other than bringing us a little closer when she came to spend time with him, her and i talked more.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
18 May 09
I do not see a problem with it if both parties are adults and they are not pressured into a relationship. It is hard enough to find a decent mate without arbitrarily eliminating the friends of your siblings. Sometimes it is an advantage if someone in the family already knows the person, as they know already if they are a jerk or not. In your case obviously it was inappropriate because you were not attracted to the guy.
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@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
18 May 09
that is practicably unreasonable and i will not find that funny and convinient at all, since my friend will not allow me to go out with his sister so he would not expect me to allow him go out with my sister as well, they may do it secretely but once i know i will not take it lightly with the two of them
@plddre79 (161)
• United States
18 May 09
laydee! based on the knowledge that he or she carries on a platonic relationship early in their courtship, under the eyes of other friends and families, learning and experiencing each others likes and dislikes, comparing each others compatabil- ties, length of time of their getting to really know one another would be considered getting off to a darn good start for a very happy relationship.
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@anuraa32 (2452)
• India
18 May 09
Why should that be a problem? Their likes and dislikes are their personal choice. You cant govern whom they like. I would be happy in this situation if any of my friends like my siblings. Why should it be awkward.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
18 May 09
You used a correct word, Awkward. I would also feel very awkward if I get to know that one of my friend is eyeing my sister. At first, I am sure my sister would not like and you are right, if I get to know that then my friend ship will be ruined too!
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@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
no way!my sister is still 14...my friends age are 20 above!hahahah!ill kill them if they do date my sis!she is our baby in our family ..so no way!hahahaah!while my brother is 15 not a chance!lol!
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
21 May 09
i havent been to this kind of situation yet because im the only girl sibling in my family and the youngest one. but if ever im in that situation, i rather ask my sibling for her thought about it. if she would allow it or now, and if ever its just fine with her, then ill make some extra care to find out more about my friend and hoping that if ever they may feel in love with each other, she already know what to expect from him and also be more responsible. and that im always here for her in case any problems may come.
@broboque (146)
• Malaysia
18 May 09
Yes, certainly, but as for safety measure, i always check the boys background. Actually most of my sister's Boyfriend ended up being my best friend... don't actually know their intention, either just to impress me or sincerely to be friend with me. But i am OK with my sister dating with anyone. Well like i said, i don't really mind, Coz i know my sister can take care of herself.