will you choose love over career?

@cainam (493)
Philippines
May 18, 2009 4:48am CST
last month i decided to give the opportunity of having a good job with definitely high pay for my boyfriend.. i did'nt accept the offer of my uncle to work abroad. the salary id five times higher than my earnings in my current job. but the hard thing is i have to leave my boyfriend here in the philippines.. i know some would say that i'm dumb but i will never give up my boyfriend over any thing else. i think i could say that this is a sacrifice. but i'm happy with my decision.
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19 responses
• Malaysia
19 May 09
I wouldn't give up my career over love because to think of it logically i would not be able to take care of my loved ones if i have no job and no money and that is very true that love is something you can't buy with money but love can give you a sense of security and care and this will make you understand more about each other but at the same time career which specifically a good career should not be given up easily but instead why not a balance between both of them...
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@fifileigh (3621)
• United States
19 May 09
i dont know. for me, it depends on my situation. if i am single, i would go for the career. if i am in love with someone, i will try to do both, get married and pursue my career. i guess i want it all. since i am single now, i am more into career.
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• India
19 May 09
thatzzzzzzzzzzzzz love great
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@queennee (189)
• Philippines
19 May 09
go girl! ur really inlove and i salute you for that! i can relate to your experience...choosing over career and love is very difficult but we have to find our happiness and i found my happiness from my boyfriend who is now my husband.i can give up evrything a hundred times to the one i love and is deserving of my love too.hope in your case,your boyfriend desserves and worthy that you choose him over your good career..good luck and im happy for you! :) good day cainam :)
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@pickoy (735)
• Philippines
19 May 09
As long as you're happy and you don't regret your decision it will work just fine. I'm sure you're boyfriend can understand, he'll definitely wait for you if he loves you that much. Opportunities like these are very rare, might as well grab it coz its knocking really hard. I don't believe its a sacrifice coz you've never let him go anyway, he's still there for you. Its a sacrifice if you'll totally leave him and choose your career... It's your priorities coming in more forward... Besides, its a hard feeling asking yourself all time "what if?..." Grab it, he'll wait if love is really strong...
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• China
19 May 09
I think you are very nice to do this.I hope i have a girlfriend like you.lol. Actually,i think you should discuss it with your boyfriend before you make the decision,maybe your boyfriend have a better idea.Anyway,i have to say,you did the very right thing.Wish you happy.
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@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
19 May 09
Well I admire you for your decision that you sacrifice your future with your career over love. Maybe I too would do that if I were in your situation. Sometimes we may earn big but our heart is not into it then all the effort is of no use at all. I think we should not let love pass us by if there is an opportunity knocking at us. Career may just follow on after it. the only thing is that you let your BF know about your situation so that he may appreciate the effort and sacrifice you made for him. Realizing that will make your bond more stronger and he should be appreciative about it. Although there is still a risk that he may leave you but that is the risk you have to take in the name of love.
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@posh80 (44)
• India
19 May 09
Love comes only once and we should not miss the chance. So, if it is your true love than it is worth choosing love over career. I did the same some few years ago and i am happy for what i did because i made the right decision in marrying the man I love and who loves me very much.
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• India
19 May 09
Sweet heart,you won't even believe how happy I am after reading your post. I also think you and your boyfriend should be proud of your confidence.Don't listen to others.Just listen to what your heart says.I strongly believe that what you have done is perfectly RIGHT. Money is not everything in life.When at the age of 80 you will see that you have had a great life so far and have been surrounded by loved ones, simultaneously have earned or accumulated a little amount of money that is enough for a good living, believe me you will be proud of your today's decision. Wish you all the best and a great life ahead :)
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• China
19 May 09
That's a hard decision, and you love him so much, happy for you, you have your correct choice, I think this is really hard to choose, even for me, I don't know how to do, I think love is more important than career for women, so if this happens on me, I think I will make the same choice as you, happy life is the most important thing.
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
19 May 09
I think my decision would be the same as yours. However, I would have to discuss with my boyfriend about this career option as he might be unhappy over my decision. He might support me in my career. As we are planning to get married, money is an issue we need to think about in the future. So if your boyfriend really loves you and you two have plans to settle down in the future, the two of you will have to sit down and discuss over your career option. He might even go overseas with you, who knows? Or by working abroad, you just have to work a few years? And probably this period could be a time to test your relationship, it may make both of you even closer than ever. Just my 2 cents worth...
• China
19 May 09
Hello cainam. You are a good girl. When you choose love, congratulations, the ture love belongs to you. If I were you, the same I will do. Because we can fetch up the sacrifice caused by career, but when the ture love has gone,it will go with the wind and never go back. Enjoy your carrent life.
• Philippines
19 May 09
Career for me will always be there but finding the one you will love forever is harder to find. If I have found the one I love and will have to choose between her and my career. I will definitely choose her. I am confident that I could always find a career because she will be my inspiration to be at my best in my new career
@technoobs (408)
• Philippines
19 May 09
In situations right now, its better not to give up any. The only thing to do is, save both then talk over it and its a matter of respect with responsibility. Better decide a win/win in situations that would put you in between.
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• India
18 May 09
If I would you.probably i would do the same.as I am a sentimental person,i keep my relationships over anything.ofcourse money matters a lot to everyone but it is nothing when you are far from your loved once.
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@akotalagato (1335)
• Philippines
18 May 09
love over career? definitely love. i dont know if i would sacrifice my career for a boyfriend, probably not. HOwever, i did sacrifice my career for my husband and son. i had a great career which i earned over time. i started from the lowest ranks until i became a supervisor. but when i got married and had a kid. my son was always sick. he was in and out of the hospital until he was 1 year old. my hubby asked if i could quit my job and stay home to take care of my son personally. i did. now my son is a healthy 4 year old. i don't have a career to go back to anymore but i do not regret my decision at all.
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@med889 (5958)
18 May 09
I don't think I will have to choose because I have both an understanding partner and family so both will understand that it is simply for my success and they will accept but if it is something which is so simple then definitely I will choose my love over the career.
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• Philippines
18 May 09
My, you are so in love! Are you guys getting married soon? For me, call me career-oriented. I would definitely choose my career first..
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@chayen (90)
• Philippines
18 May 09
How long have you been in relationship with Him ? and are you sure he will do the same sacrifice as you done for him. but if you are happy with him now, than good for you. i think everyone also make sacrifice for their relationship, big or small sacrifice it doesn't matter. thumbs up also for you, you choose money over love.