Do you think its ok for a 19 year old girl to date a 70 year old guy?

May 18, 2009 6:27am CST
Im not going to give my personal answer on this i just want to know what other people think.. ill add my answer once we have a few replies.. :)
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@bdayboy09 (153)
• Philippines
18 May 09
Absolutely not. Yes, love does not see any age boundaries but a 19 year old girl is way too young for a 70 year old man - there might be a lot of differences between them that their minds or thought couldn't really blend in. Besides, this is as close to being so impossible. Let us be practical.
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18 May 09
but there is a lot of relationships that are similar to this although ok the girl maybe 22 for example. would you think 22 is ok for being with a say.. 65 year old guy?
@chillpill90 (1937)
18 May 09
no no no no no no no no no i mean im all for age not being a problem in relationships but in this case its over 50 years and its likely that if they have any kids that the man wont be around and that the girl might just be with the guy for his money if he has any.
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18 May 09
What do you think the age gap should be within?
@24Champ (465)
18 May 09
Fortunately or unfortunately, in a relatively conservative country like the Philippines, there is a social norm about this type of situation. A young girl dating a much older man (old enough to be her grandfather) will be viewed as something that is out of the ordinary and in many cases a topic for social sanctions or even ridicules.
18 May 09
But similar situations you can just sit and have a coffee in the mall and you will have a lot of people walk passed in this type of relationship. Although the age gaps differ the gaps are still 30+ years.
18 May 09
My personal view on it is from both sides because ive talked to people from all walks of life from Pinays perspective aswell as the retiree.. Now ive also experienced some of these Retirees that are nothing short of strange. I had the misfortune of meeting a guy while me and my wife were at McDonalds and he was asking all sorts of weird questions. He was busy trying to find a girl who was around 17 - 18 he was supposed to meet as he was looking for a girlfriend. He was around 70. Personally I wouldnt trust him round young kids never mind anyone i knew in theyre mid to late teens. But other retirees are just living out theyre lives and are happily married and although the age gaps are wide theyre partners seem happy.. Do they marry for love? I can honestly say most dont but i do think they love the guy at some point because of the life they have together. Do i agree with it? Simply its not for me to judge. Ive never been in a situation where i dont have enough money to feed my children and if it breaks the cycle of poverty for someone aswell as making an old guy happy who knows..
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
18 May 09
What?! I think the question should be, could a 19 year old girl fall in love with a 70 year old guy. I think it's an impossible relationship.. If there happens to be such a relationship, they will receive a lot of negative reactions from people. The old guy could be mistaken as a pedophile or the girl is just after for the money cause usually with May-December love affairs, girls are after for the guy's money. Age doesn't matter in relationships as long as two people involve love each other truthfully but with a very big gap, it's kinda weird, you know. Besides, nineteen years old is still a teenager so such relationship is illegal, it's considered a pedophile case.
18 May 09
Isnt it in Philippines culture to respect an older generation and that age isnt as important in a relationship?
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@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
18 May 09
Respecting age is not a culture in the Philippines but rather it's a proper manner and should be done in any country. The same also goes with the saying "age doesn't matter in a relationship". That is my opinion.
• Philippines
26 May 09
For me,I don't really care about the age gap.as long as there is sincerity in their relationship,then let them be.it's unavoidable that some people will think maliciously about their relationship.as long as nobody is hurt,then just leave them alone,people.it's not really anybody's business to meddle in somebody else's love life.
• United States
18 May 09
I think that is a little gross and I think their wold be more to it. Does she have problems? Is he rich? I would have to believe their is more to it. It also seems preverted for him as well. She is like a baby to him. I do not think it is OK. I don't know many people who would think that was OK!
18 May 09
Its hypothetical.. i see a lot of these relationships and just wondered how its viewed by Pinoys/Pinays because for the majority of the guys involved they see it as normal because although they know in most Western countries its seen as odd.. in the Philippines there is a belief its accepted and normal.
@sandymay16 (1619)
• Philippines
18 May 09
Is the girl looking for a grandfather? Is the 70 year old man looking for a lifetime partner or someone who will take care for him when he's senile? Is the 70 year old man a foreigner and or with lots of money? It depends on the values of the girl really. And 19 is too young and being 19 still needs parental consent if ever she marries. Past 25 years old a girl or boy marries without parental consent but in this country parental blessing is highly encouraged.
18 May 09
Generally it happens a lot.. the age group may not be as extreme but its pretty close. A lot of the foreigners dont look for a girl over 25. Blessings are important from close relatives your right.. but just wondering how everything is seen by Filipinos as from most foreigners they dont seem to have a problem with that type of relationship.
@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
26 May 09
in my culture (philippine culture) going out on dates is a big deal already. the girl should be sure with her feelings for the guy or at least she is partly sure. going out on dates here is a sign that they want to pursue something. so, if the pair happens to be filipinos, it's like what on earth are they planning to do anyway? peace .
@rsa101 (15522)
• Quezon City, Philippines
19 May 09
Personally, I would feel a bit awkward because at that age they are like a father and daughter tandem than lovers. But then, I think I have no right to judge them accordingly it is their lives and i have no business meddling with them at all. They can do so as long as they love each other and they accept each other openly and is not ashamed about their partnership.