Pregnancy shocked a Guy....

Cebu, Philippines
May 18, 2009 9:51pm CST
It happened to my friend, there's this guy who happened to be her mutual friend they acting life gf/ bf but they're close friends since college. ANd one day something happened but they know what they are doing and she got pregnant, but she never ask the guy for help on what to do with the future baby..the guy texted her many times like "where are you?", " can we meet?" but my friend refused to meet him and the guy was wondering what happened to my friend coz he also texted me lately..but this guy didn't know that the girl was pregnant for 2 months now..Of course my friend keep on hiding from this guy..they love each other but my friend is ready to settle down but she doubted the guy, but based on my assessment the guy just afraid to commit..WHAT IF..i cannot fulfill my responsibilities as boyfriend..and etc. according to him that's what he told me..and i told that to my friend..Going back to the story, the guy saw her at the mall yesterday I was with my friend and he ask " are you pregnant?" and she trembled and responded shyly..Is that mine? guy asked again, and my friend replied SO? The guy cried and hug her, and said "why didn't you tell me?" Coz I know your not ready..she replied. But that's mine..guy said. Is it really right that my friend hid her situation to the guy? what will you do if it happens? will you tell him the truth?
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@pardhu8 (391)
• India
19 May 09
Well i'm a unmarried man and soon getting married too.In my opinion she should have inform him before itself because whats wrong in informing the guy.That matter belongs to him too right.Instead of hiding it telling the situation would be more better because she need more care and affection from him at this moment.Moreover they need to marry as soon as possible in order to avoid future problems.If i face this situation i'll face the situation and marry.
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• Cebu, Philippines
19 May 09
But you cannot deny the fact that my friend thought that if ever she will tell the guy about her situation he would run away..that's possible most cases like that
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@maximax8 (27048)
19 May 09
I think that your friend thought about telling the guy about her pregnancy but knew he wasn't ready to become a dad. Perhaps she wanted to keep it a secret but he was bound to find out. The guy did well to guess about the girl's pregnancy. I hope that they will be great in their baby's future.
• Cebu, Philippines
27 May 09
SHe's doing good right now..and she's been craving for hotdogs lately...errrr..sounds yucky...but there's nothing i can do eheheh it's her choice and I also asked my younger brother to sent her a grocery at home with lots of hotdogs and fruits
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
19 May 09
I would always tell the guy, even if you do not want a relationship with him you have a responsibility to your child to let him or her know who their father is. You also have a responsibility to the father to let him know. He has a right to know that he has a child on the way. Good luck to your friends, lets hope that they are able to become friends and be co parents to this baby
• Cebu, Philippines
25 May 09
Unfortunately the guy wanted an abortion...And it really hurts to know that.. MAkes me wonder how can he sleep at night knowing that he think that way..and my bestfriend is soooo confused on what to do with the baby...
@la_chique (1499)
19 May 09
Its disgraceful that she hid the truth from him. no offense, but it does seem to be proof that she is not mature enough to become a parent. why sleep with the guy if she knew it wasnt going to work? The right thing for her to do in the first place would have been to have told the guy from the outset and asked him what he wanted and told him what she wanted. When the baby is born he/she is going to need to know at some point who their father is even if the parents choose not to stay together. in response to the question about what I'd do - I'd not have slept with the guy knowing full well it wasnt going anywhere, and I'd certainly have included him in one of the biggest deals of his life. Like it or not, she has a little piece of him growing in him.
• Cebu, Philippines
21 May 09
so you think its disgrace that she hid it from him but now after couple of days..the guy is suggesting of ABORTION!!!
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
19 May 09
she probably wasn't really ready either....until it happened. I think the guy has the right to at least know about it. It isn't fair to anyone to keep it from him.
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
19 May 09
Well I think it is always better to tell him the truth about it. it is up to the guy if he will take responsibility for his child or not. Withholding information will not make anything good to her or the guy.
@modstar (9615)
• Philippines
19 May 09
Well i think that's unfair for the guy because he is still the father and i think he has the right to know, right? I think the preparedness of the guy is not an issue here. It's not an issue if he is ready to commit or not. The issue here is that he has the right to know, just to avoid speculations. If complications may arise, your lady friend will be in too much stress. What if people spreads rumors that she's cheating or messing around with some men? I think that would cause a lot more trouble than hiding her pregnancy.
• Malaysia
19 May 09
Hell yeah I tell him the truth...I don't want to face that kind of situation alone. It takes two to make that happen, so why do I need to take that responsible by myself...I'm glad that the guy in your story accept your friend immediately. The 'what if?' question can be very disturbing. But I trust my BF, if it ever happens to me I would not be hesitate to tell him right away.
• India
19 May 09
I am a guy here and thank god I am now married.... Anyways it was very brave for the guy to accept it.I thing this girl should have let him know about this earlier, but as you know girls are the type who would think the situation and then acto it..maybe she was correct. If I was me I would at least let him know.