OH my Goodness.. My life is about to change dramaticly... My Husband

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@meandmy3 (2229)
United States
May 19, 2009 10:29am CST
Got a job, he will start working out of the house, on June first.. He will no longer be working from home. He has worked from home for the past three years and it makes life very difficult at times, he expects our kids, triplets, to be quiet at all times, which is insane... So that is changing.. I know that this is going to change a lot of things and that while there are negatives that go along with it the positives outweigh it by far more than the negatives bring it down. No more mommy running to the store and him watching the kids. then if I am sick he sometimes takes over for me.. but oh well he will get out of the house from 7 to 5, five days a week.. I have been praying for this for some time now. This is def a good change for us and our family. I am hoping that this will be his last week at his current job, and that maybe next week we can go to the beach. what big changes have you made in your life.
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@Raven7317 (693)
• United States
19 May 09
It's funny you brought this up! As we 'speak' my DH is out on a very rare JOB - outside of his office - OUT OF THE HOUSE - AWAY FROM ME - and IT'S FABULOUS!!! We own and operate a business out of our house, we have 'guys' that do all the field work while hubby sits in his office directing the guys, drumming up new business and sending out proposals, billing for work done, and OH - let's not forget the hours of RibbitFest he plays every day!! Anyway, at first, it was great, we both got to be home instead of out there in the RAT RACE... Then we had our son... first year was the toughest as the office shared a wall with the nursery... Long story short, we doubled our space with an addition - now the house has two 'sides.' Our offices are on one side while the boy's rooms are on the other side. Far enough away that the noise of a playing three YO doesn't bother the boss too much, but close enough for mommy to hear when he calls... (SIGH) How I miss the days when he went to work and was gone for most of the day... With him home, I always feel as if he's judging me and the way I run the house, take care of the kid, deal with my office job, manage the errands, schedule my school courses, ETC ETC... It's not that I do things any differently when he's gone than when he's here, but I don't have the "Why'd you do it this way?" and the "Oh, I would have done it this way" and lets not forget the "Can you...?", "When you get a minute..." and "Don't forget..." Well, I might be off point here... Congrats on the Hubby's new job and best of luck with doing it all "on your own!" It was just funny how you brought up something that's been on my mind for some time now...
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@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
When we first moved here I thought I will put a play room in the basement and it will be easy. WRONG, he still freaked anytime there was any noise. My stress levels went through the roof. I got mad at him and stayed that way for a very long time. I blamed him for my unhappiness and stress. Well we got past that and now thank God he got the job. I am counting the days..
• United States
20 May 09
Yeah, it's very stressful working from home with children in the house. People think it's so easy... they have no idea... My son knows damn well that his daddy is in the office and several times a day I have to chase him down and find him in dad's office. It's not usually a big deal but HEAVEN forbid if the boy runs in while dad's on the phone! It's stressful on me to balance the "let the kid play" thing with "keep it down, daddy's working" I thank God everyday that my son is a nice little guy and will usually listen and understand when I have to keep him from his daddy... But on those rough days when the little one just wants to see daddy and I have to say "NO" it makes me feel bad...
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
The kids really do not go in his office that much, thank goodness, he does however come out and complain when they are upstairs. His idea is that we live in the play room. They are too old for that and need to be able to be with their friends some as well.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
20 May 09
That's exciting! It sounds like a great change. When my kids were small, my husband worked 3rd shift which meant he needed to sleep during the day. So very stressful trying to keep the kids quiet...myself quiet. I had to plan on what I was going to wear the nite before because my going into our room disturbed him.....I think you'll love this new life!
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@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
that had to be difficult. for the first year I always felt as if I had to get them out of the house, we were always going somewhere, doing something and it wore me out. I was miserable, if we were not somewhere we were in the play room, I hated it. I am so excited for what this is going to bring my family.
@carolscash (9503)
• United States
20 May 09
Congratulations on his new job! I am glad that things are going to be better for all of you. Kids aren't going to be quiet and we as adults should know that. I think that he will be happier as well as you and the kids. Was this his choice to get a different job? I wish you the best of luck!
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@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
Yes it was his choice, and something that we have been looking at doing for some time now, the right job just did not come a long till now. He has had many offers over the years and many companies contacting him, as this one did to see if he would be interested in changing, this one was just the best opportunity for us. It is a Christian based organization, close to home and has offices in my home town. So who knows.
@la_chique (1499)
20 May 09
Thats great news that he has a new job. I can imagine how stressful it could be with the two of you home all the time with the kids. If me and the other half have a week or two off together, we start going a bit crazy in each others company. At least if your husband is working 7-5 away from home, he'll be able to spend quality time with you when he is at home, and he'll be getting out meeting other people so if he's ever in a bad mood he can vent it on colleagues rather than the family. Hope things go really well for you all :)
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@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
I think my husband will thrive on being able to be with other people all day long, he is a talker and sometimes by the time he gets off work I just want quiet. Which I do not get because he has not talked to anyone but customers all day and he wants to chat about the weather or price of tea in china, which I want peace and quiet. So now maybe we can both get some of what we need and want.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
19 May 09
I made a big change moving from New York to New Mexico to be near my now 3 year old granddaughter. I gave up a great job making good money, sold my house in NY. Now after two years of being here my daughter and son-in-law have told me they are seriously thinking of moving to Florida early next year. I really don't want to be in New Mexico by myself so I may end up moving to PR to be with a man I love and who wants me to move there. But what is life but "changes". I hope you enjoy the changes that are coming your way. Good Luck to you!
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@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
19 May 09
I hope that you are able to make a good decision as to what to do. It is great that you have had this time in with your granddaughter and you are right, life is change, it happens every day
@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
19 May 09
By the time I started working from home our son was already grown and working on his own but he does still live with us. The only negative thing I have found about working from home, was to learn how to be my own boss and not to slack off and the other was all the interruptions from the family when I am working. I used to get really frustrated because they would treat my work at home business like it was okay to bug me while I work, but if I came to their office and started bugging them they would get fired, so they should have been treating me like this also. I finally had to blow up before they got my point and now they have a little more respect for my office door. When it's closed I am working and it better be important if you knock on it. :) I still would not want to go working outside the home any more. I am so happy to work from home and make my living online.
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
19 May 09
It is the exact opposite in our home, dh comes out a good bit of the time and interrupts our day. He tells the kids to be quiet and disagrees with something i am doing with them. IN stead of staying in his office and doing his job, he interrupts my job.
@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
19 May 09
Oh that's not good. There are times if it gets just too noisy outside my office I will pop out and ask them to move to the living room or somewhere that is not at my office door. :) I hope it all works to the best for all of you.
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
If that was all it was then I would say nothing, but unfortunately there is so much more to it than that.
@geniustiger (1699)
• Philippines
20 May 09
I know you can be used for it soon. That's life there is a changes every now and then. It is good for your family the job of your husband only the activity changes because others will watch your kids maybe ur helper. Its really different if other people nurture and care the kids than parents thats why you are worried but longer then you can adjust it .
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
I will be watching the kids for the most part, as I am a stay at home mom, but they will have a sitter from time to time. The change will be very good for my family. I am excited for what tomorrow brings to us.
@flaredust (728)
• Indonesia
20 May 09
That is a good news. You and family could enjoy the new wave of life. When a family living in the same old rhythm, boring start to attack them. There's no more pulse of love. Only doing "programmed" activity everyday. When there's a huge change like your family do, it can bring new and fresh atmosphere. Just enjoy your change
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
You are so right, change is good, and change in routine is good as well. The kids are older, they will go to school next year (what on earth will I do with all my time, husband gone, kids gone etc..)
@lynnemg (4540)
• United States
20 May 09
It sounds like you and your family are headed in the right direction. I think that it is great that your hubby will be working out of the house. Yes, it will make some things a little more difficult for you, such as running to the store. But, at the same time, I can see the two of you becoming closer as a result of him beingout of the house each day. You will both have your own time to do your jobs as you need to without interruptions. I wish the best to you and your family. As for me, I am still trying to build my business. I rely on my on-line earnings to save for some things that I need to really get it going, and here lately, I have had so much to do off-line, I have been lucky to even look at my computer, let alone use it. I just need to get myself back on a decent shcedule with my on-line things so I can get back on track. As far as off-line, my business is slowly growing and I am almost to the point that I have to take the next step to continue growing. For me, this is a great thing, it means tha tI am succeeding!
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
I hope your off line business is a success. I know that this is going to change a great deal. I have to admit that when we were in Chicago and he left the house every day I enjoyed being a mom much more than I do now. I had more freedom to come and go and did not have someone breathing down my neck about what we were doing, when were we leaving when would they be quiet etc. I can say that on Friday when he accepted the offer I was head over heels and almost jumped out of my skin. Needless to say it was an exciting weekend in Destin..
@hotsummer (10308)
• Philippines
20 May 09
it is good that your husband has found a job he is looking for and you were praying for. 8 hours a day out of the home is not that long. time flies so fast that you will won't notice that it is over. and it is time for him to get home again soon. and you will be able to work as partner again at home.
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
You are so right, it will be so nice when he can come home from work and be with us as a family and not here all day driving us crazy.
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
20 May 09
the only constant in this world is change, and that we should accept every changes that happens in our life, if the change is for the better, then be happy for it, and if the change is for the worst, find a solution to it. i too, had a big changes in our life when my husband start working abroad, very far from us, it would take about 6-9 months without seeing him.at first, i was not used to living without him, but as months and years go by, i was used to it already, the change is for the better financial matter, so i have to accept it, not for me but for the sake of our children's future.
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
It seems like this change for you was for the better, however difficult at times. I could not imagine my husband being gone all the time and I know that had to be a difficult decision for you and him to make. I wish him all the best and hope that he returns home to you safe.
@Glow1971 (354)
• Spain
19 May 09
In a way I think it's great your husband will be starting a new job. I'm sure you know how many people in this world would just love to have any job and are not able to find anything because of the economy. I know that there will be downfalls to like him not helping you with the kids and taking care of you if your sick but you will probably have more time to yourself in a way. At this time, I've made drastic changes financially. I've been Saving as much money as I can because my employer might decrease our pay due to the economy and I'm really praying he wont. I wish your husband the best of luck!
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
19 May 09
Thank you so much and you are so right, with this economy I am very proud of him for getting this job. He is very excited as well, he is ready for a change and ready for a new challenge in his life. I hope that your pay is not cut. Good luck
@ellie333 (21029)
19 May 09
Hi Meandmy3, Oh what wonderful news for you and your family, I would say a very positive change indeed but will take some getting used to after having hubby at home for the last three years and now popping to the shops will me having three in tow all the time. I am so pleased for you. There have been some changes recently where my childcare gave notice but the positive that has come from that is that my work hours have been changed so that I do not have to pay out for as it is within school time and I only have to worry about a few weeks holiday care throughout the year as I get the major holiday periods off anyway. Huggles. Ellie :D
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
19 May 09
wow, so your bad news was wrapped up in good news that is great. I hope that things work out for you as well.
@Netsbridge (3243)
• United States
19 May 09
(Laughs) Just remember that every opportunity has its drawback. Wish you the best, however!
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
19 May 09
Thank you. I know there will be changes and there will be the things that well annoy me but trust me nothing can be as bad as him being home 24/7
• India
19 May 09
Well a big change that I did to my life was that i got married to my wife wo was my girlfriend for a long time now. We'll I am happy. The next xhange that I am going to do is to get a different job,since I lost mine .Its lost but not yet gone LOL.\ But I think I let be the next thing im my life.
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
20 May 09
Good luck on the job hunt, int he current economy it is hard to find a good job. I think we got very lucky and well my husband is in high demand, he gets offers all the time as what he does with Gov/ed is rare. Congratulations on the marriage.
• United States
19 May 09
I am always glad to hear that people's marriages are going well! It seems lately that marriages are having a super hard time surviving with the economy and all the stresses of life. May I ask what your husbands work from home job was? Big changes that I've made in my life. Last year I moved out of my parents house and in with my fiance. It was very hard, because I am very super close with my family. We moved over an hour away, and I remember it was so hard that I couldn't even take all of stuff out of my room at one time! lol Anyway it was a big change for me, but I am so happy where I am now, and I go and visit home as as often as I can. Sometimes change can be scary, but a good thing. I also think that your husband working out of the home will give you guys space and further strengthen your marriage. Good luck!
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
19 May 09
He worked as a Government Educational Specialist/Consultant for a company based in Chicago Il. He is going to resign today from his current position. It is sort of a sales/training type role, the last position. He worked in the office for four years, after the kids were born we asked if he could work from home so we could move closer to family.
• United States
19 May 09
I love my husband very much. But I think if I had to spend all of my time with him - espcially in the house, we would both go crazy! Im glad that your husband found a job that will work well for the whole family. That can be very difficult with the current economy! Im sure your kids will love being able to run around and play without having to be constantly told to be quiet! It will be a dream come true for them, in that aspect. I hope you are able to get some vacation time in before he starts the next job! Enjoy it!
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
19 May 09
Me as well, the kids and I are going to go, even if he does not get to, but it would be so much more fun if he could go as well. Even though we just left Destin, at least this time it would not be for a wedding in which I would be planning and helping to put on etc, etc etc
@smileonstar (4014)
• United States
19 May 09
congratulation! it is a good news for both of you. I am praying for you too... My life hasn't change anything yet, same old same old. But I prefer to have my hubby work again and We will save more like we used to do.
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
19 May 09
I hope that your husband is able to go to work again soon as well and that things work out for your family.
@myl999 (2093)
• India
19 May 09
I think sometime ago we talked about this and i said bad times will not stay forever as good times also do not stay for ever this is life.But i am happy life smiled on you and i wish all the luck and good things should come to you and you forgot the bad time and get a contented life from now onwards and at least no bad time happens again..lots of good wishes from the bottom of my heart.
@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
19 May 09
Yes we did, things are really starting to turn around for us in many ways. We have been going through a very difficult time, with his job, stress of triplets and well our marriage. But in the past several months our marriage has really taken a great turn and we are doing so much better. And now he has a better job.