May 19, 2009 12:26pm CST
My husband just sent me an email. We had discussed having a quiet evening at home. We dont get many of those anymore! Then he remembered about my father-in-law's birthday. He asked if he minded going to their house for a bit. I guess, since it is a special day! My family never did much to celebrate birthdays. Now that we all live on our own, we will call for birthdays, but dont do much else. It is hard for me to get used giving up my precious time with my husband to celebrate a birthday in the family! Sometimes it seems that they cant do anything without my husband there! What do you do for birthdays? Do you ever feel like your in-laws need too much time with your spouse? What do you do when your plans that you were really looking forward to get changed unexpectedly?
• Puerto Rico
19 May 09
Well growing up the family that was around in my area would all come over for cake and ice cream at my parents house. I find it strange that you would have a problem going to your father-in-laws house for his birthday. I guess it's because growing up you didn't have birthday parties. Most people have get togethers or parties for birthdays. Even if you didn't have the same type of childhood as your husband I would think you would go along with the tradition that he grew up with. You should just go along with the flow and accept the change, that would be the mature thing to do. Don't you feel that you would hurt your husbands feelings if you told him no I don't want to go - we had plans to spend the evening together. I could see your point if maybe you don't like his parents or you don't feel they like you. Otherwise I don't really see the problem. There will be other days to spend a quiet evening together.
• United States
19 May 09
I am going because I know that it is the mature thing to do. Sometimes I wish I could throw a temper tantrum, though! (MyLot allows me to do that a little bit! ) I dont think I would mind so much if there was a party or anything actually happening. We will just go to their house and sit around. I do like my in-laws. We get along really well. The only part I hate is that they smoke. I hate the smell and I hate that I always walk away smelling like an ash tray! Thanks for the reminder that some things just arent worth making a big deal about. And pointing out that I really did sound like a 3 year old! LOL
• Puerto Rico
19 May 09
Well I have to tell you - you didn't mention about the smoking orginally that would be a big problem for me. I can't be in a place where there is smoking going on because I get sick and if I were you I wouldn't want to be put in an environment like that. That puts a whole different twist to this for me. However if it doesn't bother you physically, and its just the smell I guess I would go then come home put the clothes in the washing machine and take a shower.
28 May 09
we have a close knit family ties. and we always celebrate bdays because thats the time that we could be together and we could at least give thanks for another great year of our lives and a healthy living a and body. birthdays reminds us of how important our life is. but dont you worry bdays only comes once a year my friend. its also nice if you could go along with your husband to your in-laws place.have fun with them.