Are you the odd one out in your family?

@paula27661 (15899)
Australia
May 20, 2009 2:39am CST
I was listening to one of my favourite radio personalities the other day and she spoke about attending her sister's wedding on the weekend. It was apparently a beautiful service and afterwards the time came for the family photos. All the relations positioned themselves near the newlyweds and when the radio lady approached to join in she was told to move away because the picture was to be family only; the photographer thought she was not a relation because the family is Anglo Indian and she is the only one with blond hair and fair skin! Does that make her the fair sheep of the family? Sorry, lol... How about you? What is it about you that makes you different from the rest of your family? Do you know someone who is the black or white sheep?
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@ElicBxn (60770)
• United States
20 May 09
well, my immediate family all look related, tho there is a gal in town I used to get asked if I she were my sister... The problem with that is that she has the same name as my real sister! And sometimes they really mean my sister! Finally, I'm sort of the oddball in the family with my taste for science fiction and fantasy.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
That's another strange coincidence... This girl must look like you... You have your own interests and that's good, we are all different and that is what keeps life interesting! Thanks for sharing ElicBxn!
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@ElicBxn (60770)
• United States
21 May 09
yes, she looks like she could be my sister - I was always asking how people knew this person they were asking about "Do you have a sister named _____?" "How do you know her?" if they said tumbling - I'd say no, but if they said certain schools or swimming I'd say yes In fact, the first day of school in 9th grade, I was sitting there minding my own business, while the teacher was pacing in the front of the room, looking at me oddly. He suddenly stopped and asked "Do you have a sister who swims?" turned out it was her swim coach!
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
It's uncanny isnt'it? I wonder if we all have a look alike somewhere in the world...
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@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
22 May 09
no i'm not the odd one in the family, i have the typical look of a dimaano (surname of my mom when she was still single). we actually have the same look with 3rd cousins having the same mug of a face . however, it is our youngest who seems to always receive this same reaction. even she would voice out how come she doesn't look like anyone in our family.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
22 May 09
Different is good! Nothing wrong with not looking like everybody else! It takes more than looks to make a family! Thanks Ritchelle!
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@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
23 May 09
maybe it is good if one is the odd looking one in the family for variety but not if everyone looks like spaniards and in the philippine culture that is very good. mestiza and mestizo is what we call them. my sister looks a whole lot different. but you're right friend. she added the needed spice.
@sacmom (14317)
• United States
20 May 09
Yep, I'd have to say that I am definitely the odd one out. Most of my family (at least on my mom's side) have done pretty well for themselves. One of my cousins works for Fox, another is a karate expert, a couple more went into the service, and the list goes on. I on the other hand am just a mom. Not that there's anything wrong with being a mom...
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
20 May 09
You have the most important job of all! Don't say 'just' a mum! I am a mum and until very recently that was all I did and as you know it is a lot! I think you should be very proud of your job, bringing up human beings is the most precious job and it is not as easy as it sounds, keep up the great work! Thanks for responding I appreciate it!
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• United States
20 May 09
There is nothing "just" about being a mom. It is the most important job in the world. With out us "just" mom's our society would fall apart. A mom is a maid, cook, teacher, doctor, nurse, confidant, counselor and so much more.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
20 May 09
I think, I am the black sheep in my family. If not physically but certainly intrinsically. I am quirky and not like a normal Indian girl. I remember taking some bold steps that no one in the family ever took. I had to suffer the consequences but that's other matter altogether.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
20 May 09
Good on you mimpi, that makes you an individual! Sometimes we just have to do 'our own thing' regardless of consequences, it's part of growing I think!
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
21 May 09
Thanks paula. But some times I think I am too individualistic which people tend to disagree on. But I know who I am and I know what matters the most on earth.
• United States
28 May 09
Paula- It seems that I am the odd man in my own family, extended family, and married family. Recently it got to me so badly that I did my own reflections on why I felt the need to be "needed" or "accepted". For me, it was this constant struggle to gain my mother's affection and approval. For me, I was too talkative. I also studied too many things and if I shared my latest fact finding adventure was told not to be a know it all. Now that I am older and watch Arthur quite a bit with my son, I realze that I am just who I am, and that is ok. It is not my fault that relatives, family, and inlaws care to feel or think the way they do without truly knowing me. I have a great relationship with my sister-in-law. And my husband and I meet each other's needs. Our children are our life, and they are truly a gift to teach us about how to take them as they come with no changes. Namaste-Anora
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
28 May 09
I have struggled for approval from my parents ever since I can remember and I still don't have it and I know that they more than likely never change. I am 47 years old and I am still waiting to hear either one of them say,” I love you". They are not as abusive and critical as they once were but they are still quite distant. I have given up trying to earn their love and my dysfunctional childhood has taught me how NOT to bring my own daughter up, who gets told she is loved every five minutes! Be happy with you being you, why shouldn't you be? Your husband and children love you very much and that is what is important!
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@dvmurphy (326)
• United States
21 May 09
I am a white woman who has a son that is Mexican/American Indian and he know lives in China and teaches English as a second language. In China they are extremely confused as to what nationality he is. He has been asked if he is part Chinese, Japanese or from India. When he was a US Army soldier in Iraq he could speak Arabic and they didn't know what nationality he was there either. When he comes home he is the only one of the family with blue black hair, really dark eyes and dark skinned. Most of our family is blond or light brown haired except for me and his uncle who are white skinned, green eyed and very dark hair. We have some adoptions in the family to that are Korean and I think we represent the real America, the melting pot. I love our family and its diverity.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
22 May 09
Your family sounds great dvmurphy and you are right it is a wonderful melting pot! Your son sounds as though he has very exotic looks, I bet her is very handsome! Thanks for taking the time to respond, appreciate it!
• Malaysia
21 May 09
i think i am the odd one in my family as well...i am the only one who is dark and quite big in size.I am also one of those who smoke and drink while the rest doesnt do that and i am one of the most socialiable one too.I think i am the black ship of the family as i am the first to create so many problems...that is bad but changed already...
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
It's good to be individual as long as you don't get into too much trouble!(LOL) Thanks for sharing maikarumike!
20 May 09
I am some-what different to my family yes! I seem to be the only one who has dyed my hair blonde and gone out to get piercings or tattoo's. I like to go out and party on the town and my family don't drink or go out for meals or anything like that!
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
Nothing wrong with being your own person doing your own thing! Thanks for taking the time to respond kiss_me2070!
@hotsummer (10376)
• Philippines
20 May 09
i am not cause we have certain similarities that you will not miss seeing in us family.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
There is not always an 'odd' one! Some families have very similar members and that is great too, thanks hotsummer!
• India
20 May 09
well every family has its members that are precious for each one.. members love each other..but there are some kind of reputation/status made in family of particular members..although we are happy for that person but there is some kind of hesitation in our heart dat y cant we be like dis..n dis is the mistake most people do..each person is special..so each one has its won importance in its field.. but wen we behave something odd den other members starts stopping us for doing everything we want.. n we starts feeling like we are a diffrent part of family ...
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
Families certainly are precious, every member is, no matter what they are like. Thank you for responding nirmalsaurabh! I appreciate it.
@eshaan (6193)
• India
20 May 09
its not me..but my eldest sister is most beautiful and fair too.......but we or she never treated each other as odd one out, we all sisters, love each other equally and still after being married for years, each one busy in her own family, but care the same as we did when we were unmarried and lived together.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
That's is so nice that you are close and care for each other, that is precious! Thanks for sharing eshaan!
@sunnflr (2767)
• United States
20 May 09
Yep, I am the odd one out in my family, always have been. Not only in looks, although that is part of it. I have brown hair and my eyes change between blue, grey, and green. My brothers and sister have dirty blonde hair and brown eyes. They are also much lighter skinned than me. But, the kicker is this. My older sister and brother are twins. Then I have a younger brother. They ALL have the same birthday. It's cool for them, but did leave me as odd man out again...lol.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
Wow that is some coincidence! Look at it this way, when your birthday comes around you will not have to share it with anyone and it will feel more special! Thanks for sharing that sunnflr!
@sanuanu (11238)
• India
20 May 09
Hi Paula, Ah, I can't laugh on this situation. I have been in a wedding ceremony. In that family, they were the groom himself, with one sister and one brother. The brother is a little black than his sister and the groom. I couldn't see that boy in any family photo. In fact he wasn't in any photo shoot. I was feeling so sad for him. I felt like crying. It has been two weeks since the marriage but I have not a good realtionship with that groom! I am glad that i am not the odd one out in my family.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
That is ever so sad sanuanu! It is beyond me how people can be so mean especially to members of their own family! My brother in law has a lifelong best friend who was born with a disability which means he has no proper hands, just fingers and yes it does look odd but we all know him and love him and we no longer notice his hands. When my brother in law got married and announced that his friend would be a groomsman his auntie, who is renowned for her outspoken rudeness looked at the groom's friend and whispered to my mother in law, "You can't put him in the photos surely!" My mother in law did not grace her with a reply and yes the groom's dearest friend was indeed in every photo!
• United States
20 May 09
Hi Paula! I'm the odd one out wherever I go! hahaha! I'm just a misfit! lol! I am the tall one in my family! I am 6 foot tall!
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
You are? Really? If that's true then I will definitely 'look up' to you, I'm only 5 foot 2"! Love those misfits! Thanks Stormy!
@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
20 May 09
My family is all odd people out. You should see my family pictures. The oldest is mixed race (she's my step daughter) We have two red heads, a blond, a couple of dark brown, and my yuck colored hair. Come to think of it we have as many different religious faiths as we do hair color. I love it... never boring around here.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
It sounds good, how everyone is different, what colour is yuck?(LOL) I have not seen your hair but I am willing to bet that is not 'yuck'! Your family sounds interesting to say the least!Thanks TLChimes!
@AmbiePam (48165)
• United States
20 May 09
Is this the discussion you posted under wife? It's still a good one. Well yes, I am the black sheep of the family. I don't look any different from them, but my parents and sister are completely opposite of me. We don't share the same interests, we have totally different views on a lot of matters, and basically sometimes they look at me as if they don't know where I cam from. People have asked me before how did I get interested and involved in so many things when there was not a hint of interest with the rest of my family. I kind of like it though. I don't mind being different.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
I tend to be a little 'different' too and I like it. I like being uniquely me and you should do too. It shows intelligence to go after your own interests instead of just following along. Thanks for the response AmbiePam!
@Ravenladyj (22940)
• United States
20 May 09
I am the black sheep in my family...I'm the only mixed race person, the only adopted one and the only one who walks to her own beat and hasnt been brainwashed...I dont hide the family secrets/skeletons (much to their dislike) and I am my own person (again much to their dislike)....
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 May 09
Good on you Ravenladyj! Keep walking to the beat of your own drum and don't ever lose your individuality; it's what makes you 'you' and that's got to be special! Thanks for responding!
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
20 May 09
Well, I'm not sure if I was the black sheep, I think that's a bit far out, as I'm not radical in any way, but in 1956 when television was introduced in Australia, I would rather listen to records in the lounge than sit with the rest of the family in the front of the TV.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
20 May 09
I did that when I temporarily moved back home; I was in my late twenties and I had a real hard time adjusting to living with my parents again. I had my own TV in my bedroom and I refused to sit with them in the evenings; in retrospect it seemed a bit mean on my part, but that's I felt at the time!
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
20 May 09
My goodness, she must have been offended to have been alienated from the picture taking just because she stands out different from the rest of the family. Lol...she must be a beautiful woman and her inclusion in the group photo would outshine the bride. It is such a sad incident and I take pity on her as she really did not asked to be born differently. Well, in my family I think I am the ugly duckling. First, I am on on the heavy side while the rest of my siblings are petite. Our skin tone are all alike and our physical features strongly resembles each other especially our eyes. Someone has ever commented to me that our eyes is our trademark. When you see one you see all. So there is no discrimination whatsoever that can divide us. Who cares of skin color if they come from the same bloodline. She could have inherited her looks from her fair grandparents.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
20 May 09
I have seen her and she is quite beautiful and fair and the bride is beautiful and dark! She made a joke about it on the radio but I suspect she would have felt a bit hurt at the time. She said she is quite used to being told she looks different from her sisters although they all have the same parents; she calls herself a 'throwback' which I think is an awfully disparaging way to describe oneself! Thanks for stopping by zandi!
• Australia
20 May 09
me and my dad are the odd ones out. my sister, brother, and mom have like the same brain. none of them like what i like, and i don't like most what they like. my dad on the other hand likes stuff i do, and stuff i dont, but the problem with my dad is he smokes and i need to get him to stop. lol. i my sister is complete opposite of everybody though, she has a passion for disney channel, and everything on it....EVERYTHING!!!
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
20 May 09
It's funny how different members of the same family can be! My sister and I look quite different I guess although we are similar types of people, my parents on the other hand...Well noboy is like my parents...I think I'll leave it at that! Thanks for responding socomsargent!