Do you feel comfortable telling your friends the truth?

@ersmommy1 (12600)
United States
May 20, 2009 12:32pm CST
If you know a friend is heading down a path that will cause them unhappiness, or pain do you speak up?Or do you just offer support after the fact? I once had a friend(we are still friends) whose wife was cheating I let him know, so that he could protect himself. It didn't go as well as I had hoped. But I feel better having spoken up. The friend has since divorced and is happily re-married.
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6 responses
20 May 09
I once told a friend her boyfriend was cheating on her and she didn't believe me and we had a huge argument about it. A few weeks later her boyfriend admitted everything and she apologised to me. Even though we had a huge argument I don't regret telling her as she was a great friend to me and I thought she needed to know.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
30 May 09
I had a similar situation. Different outcome though. Loss of friend.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
20 May 09
It is hard when friends are having troubles, sometimes we want to stay out of it and other times we want to protect them from pain and other things. If it had been my friend and their wife was cheating I would have told them also. I do however stay out of their fights and all but give my support where and when needed if I can. You saved your friend a few years of unhappiness and now he is happily remarried. It is always good to know that your friends have your back when they are needed, a shoulder to cry on or just to listen.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Thanks for the best response.
@sanuanu (11238)
• India
30 May 09
That is a good result you got from your friend. Getting divorced from a cheater and getting a new partner for his life. I am not that brave. i would rather protect that wife and would do every thing so that my friend will not get to know about it. I would rather like to talk to his wife to make him understand that she is doing a wrong thing.
@asherem2 (257)
• Thailand
21 May 09
yes, i do feel comfortable talking to ffriends something which i know will lead them to their own destruction.. i always believe in open rebuke than secret love.. if you don't tell your friend the truth what's the use of "having you as a friend?" you are there - to see the things that your friend might overlook and give a godly counsel when needed. as friends - you ned to be transparent to each other - in that way - both of you will feel comfortable telling the truth... i call it - accountability!
20 May 09
i treat my friends the same why i want them to treat me. i tell them and if they still choose to carry on the same path then i am there to support them afterwards i truely believe it is only the good friends in life who can tell you the truth (even if it hurts) without deserting you afterwards.
@spalladino (17925)
• United States
20 May 09
I'm a talker and don't have any problem talking to a friend if I see that (s)he is heading down a path that will cause unhappiness or problems later on. I will also offer suggestions if I have any and a shoulder to lean on if that's all I have to offer. I would never want a friend of mine to keep silent if I was in the same position.