good bye friend

@mkchaves (533)
Canada
May 21, 2009 8:25am CST
good bye friend. that's what i had yesterday. after hours of talking over the phone, in the end he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. i met a good person, someone who made my lonely heart smile. we always talk over the phone, text and Ym. i needed the comfort, he gave me that. I feel so comfortable talking to him, i feel i can talk to him about anything and everything. he made me believe that like him, he is undergoing through hell, and yet he can still laugh at it. It made me admire that. i told him that I like him. Was that a wrong move? i guess so, then he said - this will be the last time that we're going to talk over the phone, we can still chat but not talk anymore. My question was WHY? he said, because he don't want to reach the point where he'll miss my voice, or whatev's. It's so lame, it's so obvious that he's not into me. Why make up some crappy reasons. and not just tell the truth. Now, i miss him. oh well.. i guess it's really good bye friend. (p.s this situation is from a friend, she made me write this as to get some pretty advice from mylotters.) last p.s my advice to her was just to let the guy be. lol :p
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@cainam (493)
• Philippines
22 May 09
you're right. just let him be.. you ca't force him to like you anyway so why bother.. he'll just break your heart if you keep insisting. just be thankful that he did'nt took advantage on you. maybe he just really want a friend and not a lover..
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@betsyhu (207)
• China
22 May 09
yean, it's no useful even if you succeed in preveting his leaving. his heart has gone.
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
22 May 09
so sorry to hear about your friend's situations... but since your friend never actually met this guy, i don't think she has to worry so much about this guy... just let him go... i believe that there are better guys in this world for her... she just need to let go of him and move on with her life... i know that it is not easy... but she has to do it for her own sake... good luck to her... take care and have a nice day...
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• United States
22 May 09
I am so sorry that you are hurting.. I try so hard to never tell anyone that I know how they feel because it can sound so demeaning. but I do know how you feel.. and I know that it hurts to lose a good friend. I hope that you won't mind me sharing a poem with you.. it helps me come to terms with the fact that not everyone that we meet and share a common bond with are permanent fixtures in out lives.. no matter how bad we want them to be. [i]Reason, Season and Lifetime .. People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. .. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. ... Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. ... Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on. ... When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends. ... LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.[/i] copyright Brian A. "Drew" Chalker
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• China
22 May 09
Hi, friend, I think it is a good idea to let this guy be, at least in recent days. I don't think what the man had said is a good reason of end this friendship. If he did so, it means that he did not appreciate and cherish this firendship. So, it is better to let him go. Maybe you can meet with another good guy in the next minute. Believe that. Happy mylot!
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• United States
22 May 09
I'm about to graduate and i'm gonna miss my friends.When I graduate i will think about all my friends from the fourth grade that i use to talk to and play with.I will be timr for me to make new friends but i'm always gonna remeber my old friends that I talked to.I will try to stay in touch with them in the possible's way I can but if I cant then I guess it's time to talk to other new people that I will meet when I get in the fifth grade.SO I hope me and my friends will always remeber each other and i will never forget my two besties.My friends was always there when i needed them and i was always there when they needed me but i guess now it's time to say good bye and meet new friends and never forget about my two best friends.I will be i little upset since me and my friends are going to be apart for a long time but I will remeber when I was we were thereon the bad times and good times for each other .So I wish my friends a good bye and i will miss you guys.
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• United States
22 May 09
This is a difficult situation. I am sure that your friend is missing the comfort that this friend gave her. It is difficult when you meet someone and become the best of friends, sharing everything and confiding completely in that person, only to have that friendship destroyed. Not only do you miss the person, but you miss the outlet for your feelings. Who do you talk to now? With whom can you feel as comfortable as with this person. This is an unfortunate situation. I am sorry for your friend's loss, but I am going to recommend that she try to get over it. It sounds like her level of attachment is far greater than his. Not only that but he made it clear that he didn't like her (in the not so great way that only a guy can do). It is going to take some time for her to bounce back, but I think that if she gets out there and meets new people, she will have a better chance. Good luck. Just remember, one guy is nothing to fret over. There are plenty of fish in the sea as they say.
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@celticeagle (119865)
• Boise, Idaho
22 May 09
Life goes on. It is also very short. There are alot of other people in the world that will like your friend and not be scethcy at best. It sounds like this person has some issues with loneliness himself. He isn't real together. Alot of people can't be upfront and honest. For whatever reason. It is lame. It is a waste of everyones time including their own. I wouldn't take them too seriously. If they want to chat I wouldn't cut them off but I also would not put alot of store in any kind of fulfilling relationship. Onesided friendships aren't much fun.
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• United States
21 May 09
It sounds kinda strange that saying you like him, caused him to want to stop talking to you. You never even met him. I don't think I would lose too much sleep over this one. I think he might have some issues that you or your friend will never know. Maybe he just wanted casual talk, nothing serious and then the words " I like you" scared him off. Hard to tell, unless he can come clean with the reason. Life is full of disappointments, honestly is sometimes difficult for some people. I am sure you or your friend will find a person that would be flattered to hear those words. Good luck.
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@chookie1971 (2276)
• Australia
21 May 09
I can really feel for your friend because I too have gone through a simular situation. I had met a guy who I became friends with. It is all that I wanted because I am married. He too at the time was married. We use to talk about anything and everything. He seperated, divorced, single and then met a new woman. I was so happy for him that he met some one. It meant that he wouldn't have to be alone at night. I had tried talking to his new woman to gain a new friend. We started talking about almost every thing. What I didn't see, she used what I said to her against me. I don't know what was said but the impression I have got, she had convinced him that I was only after him for one thing which I know it is not true. Apparently I said things that upset her. I had told him the truth but he doesn't believe me at all. He also thinks that I was trying to break the relationship. He even accused me of holding a history of conversation from the chat program which I don't do because it had caused problems between my husband and I once. It really upset me. I felt like dirt. Because I was not thinking rationally, I ended the friendship. I, too miss my friend so much. He was my inspiration to walk with my head held high when things didn't look good or feel good. I missed my friend that I had tried to contact him. I did get responses from him to clear things but he still does not believe that I am telling him the truth and I don't have the proof that I am telling the truth. He doesn't know what really happened between this woman and I. He believes her because of his own emotions for her. I do have an idea that could work. If the idea works out my way, I can prove to him that I am telling the truth. But I am in a catch 22 situation. If the idea works out and I am able to show him I am telling the truth, he will get hurt because he will discover his woman lied to him. His trust for her will be damaged. It is something I don't want to do because I don't want to hurt him. Then if I don't do it, he will still think that I lied to him. I also think with my idea, if it works, I have nothing to lose. I have already lost a friend. It could go one of two ways if I am able to prove to him I am telling the truth. He could continue to not like me because of what I have done or, I could gain my friend back. I am going to wait a bit longer before I make up my mind if I am going to go ahead with my idea. Your advice to your friend is good advise. With your friend missing the friend, it is not going to be easy.
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