Tired of listening...

Philippines
May 21, 2009 10:35pm CST
There will be time that you will be soo tired of listening to a friend who always complain about her relationship. She knows that the guy is taking advantage of her, she is using her and yet she dont want to listen to you. She will ask you always of what to do and yet she never listen to you. all she want is for you to listen... Do you experience this situation? What did you do when you think that your tired of listening to everybody worries, problems, hurtaches and all those negativity.
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• United States
22 May 09
I've experienced this situation - it can literally suck the life out of you. In the beginning, I tried to be supportive and provide my honest opinion without criticizing and suggesting that my friend re evaluate her wants and needs, and all that other good stuff. However, as time progressed, the complaints became more frequent and the relationship even worse. Afterwards, it just got to be too much, it was draining me and it go so I just didn't want to be around my friend anymore. So now whenever, she calls me with this complaint, my answer is 'when you get tired, you'll stop' and I move on to another conversation. This seems to be working for now but our outings and phone conversations are far and few between.
• Philippines
22 May 09
yes, always listening to other people problems are draining us of our energy. Thats why everytime i listen to negative feelings, i always put my hands open and facing upward so that the negative energy will flow out of me or i take a shower. The sad part of listening is that they dont listen to your advice.
• United States
26 May 09
first of all i want to say that I understand where you coming from in this situation. All they want to do is talk, talk, talk but never want to here what you have to say. You have done your part and listened to what they had to say as a friend without any judgement. If it was me and they asked for my advise and just ignored it, then I would confront them and tell them that you not just tired of listening but tired of giving advise that is always being ignored. You need to tell them what you just told us about them always conplaining, if you dont then your not being a true friend at all. This is what I did and my friend thanked me for it. You just have to keep it real with them. If you cant do that with your friend then who can?
• United States
22 May 09
If you get tired of listening, then don't. Tell your friend you need a break, explain that it's wearing you out. Giving your friend a place to vent is a good thing, letting them invade your peace is not. I notice you said she asks for advise but doesn't do what you advise her to do, so stop giving advise, just listen. Give no feed back and when she asks why you aren't giving any feed back tell her, I am your friend and I will listen but, I will NOT tell you what you should do, that you have to figure out for yourself.
• India
22 May 09
I don’t have any friend in particular but I have come across people like this…it is actually their pleasure to while the whole time and they like to stay in the limelight but always complaining about others. They enjoy the importance they get when people listen and sympathise with them but in their minds, they already know what they have to do…they will never take your advise but will expect you to listen to them.