Would you stay in a relationship just for the kids?

I have spoken to a lady that was in a violent marriage. She had a son in my class. Her husband went away on business for a couple of days. The lady grabbed her son and as many possessions as possible and disappeared. I usually know which school a child attends to next so that reports and work books can be forwarded. However the lady was terrified of her husband and so left no track of their whereabouts. I think that lady was incredibly brave and sensible. I hope that she and her son are happy and are living safely. I know that children can suffer for two years after their parents split up or get divorced. However staying together with lots of arguments will also affect a children emotionally and will make them feel unstable. A baby wouldn't be as affected by an amicable split. Being a single mother is better than staying with a violent or nasty man. I wouldn't stay in a relationship it the man was unbearable to live with. Sometimes marriage guidance might be helpful so that could be worth a go.

My mother left my father when I was just 7 months old because he was having an affair and she is just miserable. She raised me alone and I grew up just fine. So, definitely, I would never stay in a relationship that I am not happy with (especially if he will be having affairs). I rather raised my children alone and let them see me happy and functioning well, rather than staying with their father where I am unhappy and might be resentful towards everything.

Well its really a tricky question. I don't know what I will do if I face such a situation God forbid. I guess I will try to compromise as much as I can for kids sake. But if my hubby gets into an affair with some one else it might be really difficult to deal with. I guess I will end the marriage and raise the kids alone.

i have never been in that situation as a parent but i have as a child in a situation like that. it can be hard but if the parents arent happy and constantly fighting it is worse on the kids. it shows them that that is how a relationship is suppose to be eventhough it is defenitely not. it will cause more stress and emotional problems on the children to see their parents constantly fighting. The children may not understand at the time that it is best for the seperation and they may not understand ever. No matter what descision the parent makes it will be the right one for their children after all mothers know best for their own children. just whatever descision the person makes they have to stand behind it 100% and know that they are making the right descision for their own situation.

I left a longtime relationship were two children are involved and I use this experience as a learning one. I would not want my children to be in a relationship where they were not happy. Yes I did leave, their dad does not live with us, but they can talk and see each othe anytime they want to. He can also call and see them too. I always tell my children that there dad loves them very much and they see the importance of having two parents. The only thing is that we do not live together. Now they see me more happy and theyre is no arguing anymore. In the beginning it was hard for them, not because I left but because of the problems their dad has caused, in the end my children realized why I left in the first place and understands a bit better that hapiness is important. You could still be a parent even if you do not all live together.