Do you believe strangers have the right to tell off other peoples children?

Israel
May 22, 2009 8:16am CST
For instance if a child is running around a restraunt, or screaming in a store, or a million other things? If you believe they have the right then when do you think it is approprate to step in and when do you think they should mind their own business?
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@harryt123 (327)
• United States
22 May 09
I don't think strangers have the right to parent someone else's child and even punish or judge them for their behavior. That is the reason why the child has parents to do so. But the person can mention to the parent that they should be aware that their child's behavior is not appropriate for the setting. For example, if a child is running around in a store and are getting in other's way they can mention it to the parent and tell them to keep control of their child but they can't tell the child to stop doing what they are doing. Depending on the situation, what the child is doing they have the right to say something but for the majority of the time they should leave it for the parent.
@celticeagle (119872)
• Boise, Idaho
22 May 09
No, I don't think strangers have the right to reprimand other people's children. I do think they have the right to have the child show them their parents and for them to take up a dialogue with their parents. Especially if the child is infringing on people's enjoyment. If they infringe on your boundaries and your day then you need to seek out the parents and take it up there, not with the child.
• Israel
22 May 09
I mostly agree with you, strangers should seek parents first. But what if they are unable to control their children? or if they refuse to put an end to the havoc they are raising? I do think anyone has the right to voice their complaints to anyone, children and grownups alike.
@celticeagle (119872)
• Boise, Idaho
23 May 09
I agree with that. I just think the parents should be made aware and I don't think going off on the children does anyone any good. They probably won't listen anyway. They need to leave. Management might be an option if no one is listening.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
15 Jun 09
I don't think it is appropriate to "tell off" anyone else's child that is acting out in public. For one thing, it is a child who either hasn't been taught to behave appropriately or perhaps the parent is just overly excited and giving the parent a hard time. Either way, there is no excuse to be rude or mean to the child. a better way to handle it would be to politely ask the parent to control the child if it is really that bothersome to you. sometimes it is clear that the parent is trying to get the child to mind and the child is just not responding. In that case sometimes it helps to in a kind voice tell the child that he/she should listen to their parent. Personally, I just let the parent handle their child themselves. If they are causing too much ruckus in a public place, then I'd assume a manager would handle the situation.
@dodo19 (33692)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 May 09
No, I don't think that they have the right to interfere with other people's children. It's not their place to do so. I do not believe that others have the right to do so. If a child is running around in a restaurant, or something, a stranger shouldn't interfere with this child. I do believe for a moment that it is this stranger's place to tell off this child that is not their own.
@deejean06 (1953)
• United States
22 May 09
Hi karpatzio and welcome to mylot! I don't think it's appropriate to discipline someone else's children. I always mind my own business when it comes to other people's children. Even as a teacher, when the parents were present I no longer felt I had the right to speak to the children and reprimand them for anything. When I encounter such children - as we often do - I just try to steer clear of them.
@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
22 May 09
IF my children are doing as you described above and well to be honest that is a rather large IF because I am one of those moms that take them right to the car if they misbehave. I would not mind if someone stopped them from behaving badly. If a child is doing something that is considered dangerous by all means you should stop them. However, you should be careful about how you go about it and not do it in a manner that is demeaning.