trust love

@ash6666 (819)
India
May 23, 2009 4:07am CST
I am very confused about a relation presently i am into,i really want to know solution to this problem which is hurting me very much.I have met a girl one and half year back.In early stages of this matter she was effectionate about me and used to care me very much and used to spend a lot of hours on phone with me.She has two or three friends(boys) who used to meet her on regular basis.I pointed that to her and she answered me that they are just friends and promised me that she would keep them away.I observed that one guy moves very close with her and i am confused about that always,I Saw both of them moving closely a lot of times and she promised me that there is nothing i left it out.But lately i came to know that she has affair with him and proofs proved that.But still i went to her and asked to be away from him as she is saying that she loves me.First she said yes and kept him away infront of me and when i am away they used to talk and move.And once i found and reminded her,she said"I wont leave anybody,do watever u like" and again says she loves me.I am really confused,how can i love a girl who is still moving with a guy with whom she has affair even she loves me.If i goes on pointing that, she accuses me of my mentality.Does the real love means loving and accepting whatever they do,even they cheat.Please suggest me a solution.Does i have to go doctor to cure my mentality or leave her as she is not able to leave her boyfriends.
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4 responses
• China
24 May 09
Absolutely,this is not your problem.To be honest,if i were you ,i would leave her unless she stay away from that'close friend',i can't stand it.Just my point. I know some girls,they date with several men at the same time,just like some of us who date with a lot of girls. I don't dare to say that your girlfriend is that type,but if the relationship really hurt you,then ,what do you you need it for? Love should be the beautiful thing,not hurt ,is it right? Wish you good luck.
@ash6666 (819)
• India
24 May 09
well my friend thanks for your reply.Yesterday i poste this topic here and today i went to her house and showed clear signs of moving away from her.But she showed signs indicating me that she will do what i say......isnt it still confusing....I just said her to know what you need to be happyy.........
• China
24 May 09
In that case,it was confusing.It is really hard to know what a girl is really thinking.Anyway,i think you'd better have a talk with her,tell her your feelings and asked her what she is thinking,why did she keep close with another male friend when she has a boyfriend.I couldn't say this is the right thing to do.
@zhdy89 (304)
• China
23 May 09
Love,no hurt.Since you have already felt the pain,you begin to confusion is indicative ot her love for you will not have results.She used to care you very much and used to spend a lot of hours on phone with you.It can only show that she likes you,you are a friend of her.Friend care and attention,I think this is normal,as long as I have time,which friend needs of help,I will do my best.However,it really brought me a lot of problems,there are always who thought I fell in love with him...I believe that you really love her,but the crux of the matter is if she really love you. A woman loves her love,there is no another man in her eyes.She certainly harm you is inevitable,because you do not,such as love.How do you leave away from her,no one friend can help you,it just you,only you can help yourself.Bless you,my friend!
@ash6666 (819)
• India
23 May 09
she said she loves me,she even asked me to marry her.those are the days when i felt i have some one to live for life.but time changesssssss alwaysssss and she found some other as her moves saysss
@naushimp (33)
• India
23 May 09
hi there, I think she wants to get away from you without hurting you.she wants you to get angry with her and end the relationship. She might have loved you earlier but by the look of it I don't think she is in love with you now.. she wants out and she wants to make it as you left her that's all
@ash6666 (819)
• India
23 May 09
yeah i think that u are right,but still moving with other guys without my knowledge??
@med889 (5958)
23 May 09
She is confusing you and the situation as well, how can she says she loves you and and promised to stay away from the guy she was having an affair with while she is still doing it when you turn your back to her?! Maybe she is honest when she says she loves you but she is probably someone who does not like to be controlled as she thinks you are doing to her, you told her to keep away with the guy but she did not this means that she is not someone to listen to every of your words, she thinks maybe you are autoritative and she does not like this. Now the second possibily is that she is lying to you when she says she loves you, how can she loves you and yet have an affair with someone else? It means that she is not truely in love with you which proves she is betraying you. She is someone very complicated and seems to do not want to get involve with anyone, better to you tell him everything about your feelings and take a decision whether to leave her or stay with her and her"other boyfriend". All rest on your shoulders. Maybe if you choose to be with her then later you can hear that she is betraying you with someone else now! You don't need a doctor but she does need a psychiatric.
@ash6666 (819)
• India
23 May 09
thanks for your reply.I posted this matter here because i want to know that is there anything wrong in asking her soo.I really love her but can see her moving with other guys even they are just friends.Now again she started calling college friends who parted 5 years back who have proposed her in college.I dont know why i developed so much love towards her and dont know what to do keeping away her thoughts.