question for the females

f - f
@exchange (949)
Australia
November 12, 2006 12:16am CST
would you rather be treated like a lady: shown as a pretty accessory, you husband always pays, you have no say in anything, you can own nothing, etc,or an equal: paying your own way, having a job, owning things, having your own opinions, etc?
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9 responses
• Australia
8 Dec 06
depends on what way you were bought up. in some generations it is expected that the male pays for you when going out. even after marriage. though it is becoming acceptable for females to offer to pay sometimes or treat their partners/husbands. though sometimes i have offered to pay.
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
12 Nov 06
I would much rather be equal. I was for a while and now since we moved, I have been a stay home mom. It is very hard to regress. I feel like I have to ask to purchase things or that what I want does not matter. When I had my own job, I was more of a partner. Splitting the bills and responsbilities. I like it much better being an equal.
@exchange (949)
• Australia
9 Dec 06
i prefer female as equals then the relationship is also a partnership both people have a say
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
13 Dec 06
Yea I have a hard time being a stay home mom..I've been on my own for so many yrs and never had to ask for anything whether for me or my kids becuase i had my own money but since retiring its been a task for me I must admit...I love not working mind you and I love being home doing the homebody things but not having my own money is a killer for me..Thats why i like doin online things so much and ebay selling, that money is mine so if I want a new pair of shoes I go ahead and buy them....Not that my husband would say no mind you, i mean he pretty much gives us what we want provided we can afford it at the time or it isnt something crazy (like when I asked for that Lexus LX LOL even though I dont drive) but still not having my own money drives me nuts....
@caramello (4381)
• Australia
8 Dec 06
I believe in being equal, and treat my husband the way I would like to be treated, but sometimes my own opinions are still mine to own!
@exchange (949)
• Australia
9 Dec 06
thats good sometimes there must be compromise and one person does not always gets their way
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@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
it is no tlike that the way you portrayl to ask. i am also not working but it doesnot mean that i dont own anything or i am just a pretty accessory fo rmy husband. my husband give me respect, protection and money when evr and where ever i want. actually i am the one who dont want to go out and do job because i get everything what i needed, what else you want??
@exchange (949)
• Australia
15 Dec 06
so your answer would be? equal or inferior? that is the question asked you you are taking about money most of the time i assume that you have money problems with your husband
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@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
12 Nov 06
even if I didn't have a job, I would still be my husband's equal. If we have kids, and I am a stay at home mom, I am still contributing to our family's well-being. Money is not what makes people equal, although it certainly does seem that way in a lot of relationships.
@exchange (949)
• Australia
15 Nov 06
good on you :) btw i never said money makes people equal i said you pay your way instead of your partner ALWAYS paying
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• Egypt
12 Nov 06
I'm male, But i would like to share this discussion, I dont think majority of men would love the first choice, Only few men would like to treat the women as god and make themselves a donkey the woman can ride it to whatever place she wants. thanks for the opportunity to express myself.
@exchange (949)
• Australia
12 Nov 06
i am male too it is good to know that other males think like me :)
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@sunita64 (6473)
• India
15 Dec 06
I prefer being treated as an equal,I earn my own living buy my own things and I have a major role to play in all the financial or other matters.
@urzicutza (1973)
• Romania
13 Dec 06
yes i love to buy my one things! but after a wile your money is his to! and his money is mine! so after a wile doesent mater anymore!
@janey84 (547)
• Australia
12 Nov 06
I think I'd prefer the first choice...