today is one of those days..........

@riyasam (16578)
India
May 25, 2009 2:13am CST
usually,the first thing i do is(after logging into mylot) go through the discussions i have replied and i saw a comment bad-mouthing me and now i am very upset.i dont feel like mylotting today.(i react very fast,also i am very sensitive and get upset for stupid reasons.)what would you do in a case like this???
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
25 May 09
Hi Riyasam, I just don not understand why people resort to bad mouthing just that they do not get points to defend themselves or do not feel competent enough to go along. I have had some of those but if I am on the right footing I usually do not bend. And if see that it is useless to go bark I just ignore and take my round. so forget that stupidity of some people and go your way.
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
25 May 09
Well said Rajib! There are sadly those who get their kicks that way and if we ignore them they do no harm.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
26 May 09
thanks for the encouraging words,this was the first time somebody bad-mouthed me and i was taken aback!!
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
25 May 09
That happen to me once on another website and I was so upset that I didn't write for a few days. I'm too of sensitive nature. I wish sometimes that I wasn't like that. Now I've gotten a thicker skin and decided to just conside the source and ignore it. So thats what I usually do or if they didn't understand what I was saying and took it the wrong way I explain it better.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
26 May 09
yup,the discussion was not of a serious note,so i also replied in a like-wise but someother person took my comment seriously and ya,i need to get a thicker skin,
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@balasri (26554)
• India
25 May 09
I think that I have told this before.Once when I started a topic on fat people a lady got upset and complained that I was trying to be personal and wanted to sever her friendship to my amazement.I just smiled and let it go.Then again a moron invited me to a street fight for responding in the politest way possible to one of his discussion.I still could not understand what went wrong with that guy.There could not be any rational explanation.I just ran away from that cuckoo too. So Ria this is a great place with wonderful people with some lunatics sprinkled in.You got to used to it and know to stick with the right people.Forget it cheer up.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
25 May 09
bala,i have decided to respond only to my friends disscussion and use the smiley that i am joking.
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
25 May 09
I wish I had met our friend Bala a long time ago. He is always so positive and I was unaware of his presence here until only a few months ago. Definately a case of better letter than never!
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@balasri (26554)
• India
25 May 09
Great decision.Happy mylotting Ria.
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@amirev777 (2552)
• India
25 May 09
hi yeah any person will be upset when some one bad mouths you, esp to the reply that you sent to one of the discussions-in such case u will wonder why u replied to the discussion at first place.usually if some does send me such replies-i will hit back,and if it was really offensive and of real bad taste-i will probably report it to the moderators.i had this one such guy who had literally abused me on one of the discussions that i had started on religion-i reported and he was banned frm the discussion.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
25 May 09
i havent reported before,so i dont know the procedure.
@amirev777 (2552)
• India
26 May 09
hi riya by now, u probably knw the procedure.just above the 'add comment'- u have 3 boxes-one with'+' sign, other with '-' and the third with exclamation or'!' sign-u need to press the third button and report the abuse.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
25 May 09
I am sorry Mabel. It hurts but this is an open place and anyone and everyone is entitled to his/her opinion. If its rude, derogatory and offensive I think you must report him/her. Otherwise let go, move on. Try to take it easy, eat some choc'lates, play with your kids and come back recharged. Love and hugs..
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
26 May 09
that was a good advice mimpi,i did have choclates and my cousin sister has come to my place,we had paani-puri together.it was a welcome change.(and my hubby,he has suddenly become very romantic,i am enjoying the attention he is giving me.)
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
26 May 09
Paani Puri!!?? How could you eat without me!!?? I am so glad about your hubby. See, when one thing closes so many windows open up! That's the beauty of living. Enjoy and be fine dear.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
26 May 09
I've seen the comments that you are referring to I think and all I can say is that the best revenge is to not let something like that bother you at all. People jumped to conclusions without knowing all the factors and so be it! For every one negative comment, there are a thousand positive ones, so ignore it, move on and leave it at that I say. Anyways, you ended up with today's top rated discussion because of it. There's that silver lining as per usual! lol.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
27 May 09
(smile)i never noticed until now that this was the top rated discussion of today!!yeah,i have to develop a thick skin and dont let such comments to bother me!!
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
25 May 09
Unfortunately, there are cowards around who use the internet to upset people because they haven't got the guts to say these things face to face. You just found one. As you've made so many posts without problems, or at least without feeling that you don't want to post, I'd say that you are happy with your responses, and, more importantly, so are the majority of other members. Don't let this jerk spoil your day, because then he has won; even if he doesn't know it, you have let him interfere with your routine. Report him or her now, because this person may be causing people to leave Mylot. If he's allowed to continue, the reputation of Mylot and its members will suffer. I don't look back on yesterday's discussions, unless I get a comment and I need to respond to it. There are so many new ones coming up, it seems a shame to spend time going over old ones unless you really have to. Good topic.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
25 May 09
i too look for some on my earliar(sorry,if i didnt get the right point across)till today,i have encountered only nice people in mylot(ofcourse,there are ones who give me corrections)so this was a jolt out of the blue!!!
@salonga (28016)
• Philippines
25 May 09
The best thing to do is to report that person to mylot administration so that his bad post will be deleted. For the meantime, I suggest you don't let him ruin your whole day. He is not worth it.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
25 May 09
salona,i did report him,hope they will remove only that comment and not the whole disccusssssion!
@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
25 May 09
i never had really experienced being bad mouthed here. but i have had some replies to my comments that have in a way gotten in to me. when that happened, i just first let it pass, then when i have cooled down, i would go back to that particular comment and make a response to it, in a rational way. if i make a response while i am still upset i'd probably be saying something that i would regret later on, so i try to cool down first before making another response.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
26 May 09
thats a right attitude!!first ,i wanted to call him some swear words but now i find it so illogical.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
25 May 09
I can't imagine anyone bad mouthing you. u are always so sweet & , kind & gentle to me. tell them to kiss your a$$. there is always somebody that wants to act an a$$. i just delete people like that & not be botherd w/them again. have a happy monday.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
25 May 09
now .you have really made me smile.i try to be loving to the ones i care and the rest,i just ignore!its one of my weakness to take such stupid things to heart but now i am feeling really fine after reading such encouraging comments from my friends.muah
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
25 May 09
GREAT, KEEP ON SMILING & just consider the source of where negativity comes from & ignore it. u have too mant nice friends to be worrying about some jerk.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
25 May 09
There you go, better to do that than to be botherd w/somone who upsetd u. hope u are having a nice monday.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
25 May 09
I would report it to mylot and ask for it to be removed.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
26 May 09
i an not familiar with the reporting system,how to go about it??
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
26 May 09
go to the bottom of the page, on the last line, 5th tab in is "contact" and do it there, be sure to let them know exactly what discussion and what response is the problem.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
27 May 09
thanks
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• India
1 Jun 09
Hello my friend riyasam ji, Just relax. Think it is rainy day like those during school days. No one has come. May God bless You and have a great time.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
2 Jun 09
thanks for the good input,have a nice day.
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• India
2 Jun 09
Hello my friend riyasam ji, So nice of you forkind-haerted feelings. May god bless You and have a great time.
@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
26 May 09
What the heck were they thinking bad mouthing you. shame on them..dont let it worry you hun it just shows how dumb they are...we love you here and you have friends that will back you up...Shame on the person that bad mouthed riyasam...XXOO
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
27 May 09
thanks for your reassuring words,i feel a lot better now.
@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
27 May 09
Your welcome hun...we got your back...XXOO
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
25 May 09
Hello there. I'm sorry that you are upset about something here through one of the discussions. I'm not siding with anyone or anything but talking about being depressed over a comment or stuff, I think you should take a moment to get upset and then move on to turn the negative experience into a more positive one for you. I do that all the time whenever I feel so down. Don't worry, you know yourself better and if you aren't what people said about you, then you aren't. Opinions do not matter; people can say what they want but at the end of the day, it's you who make you. Something like that.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
27 May 09
ya,i learnt to ride over the negativism now as the positive is more than the negative.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
27 May 09
@wildcat48 (782)
• United States
25 May 09
Sorry to hear about your trouble,don't let them up set you if they know they did they well kept it up smile,and don't let them win
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• United States
25 May 09
it takes a lot to get me mad enough to bite.then i kill them slowly with kindness
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
26 May 09
they will never WIN,thats for sure,i havve given them coiciest curses.
@ronit_mat (180)
• India
25 May 09
The users here at mylot are generally very friendly. It is a shame that something like this has happened. I would just like to tell you that some rotten apples are present everyone. Just ignore them and do not bother about them at all. Do not respond to that user's discussions henceforth. If he keeps on badmouthing maybe on your discussions than let the other users as well and i am sure all of us will not reply on that member's discussion as well. Meanwhile i feel you should continue using mylot as i know most of the users are friendly and enjoy their time here just as you and i do.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
25 May 09
thanks for the encouraging words,maybe i should have used a smiley to indicate i was joking,till now i have encountered only decent peoplebut as you said there are exeptions too.
• India
28 May 09
yeah you do that the next time.put a smiley or better still just say you are joking.good that you have not faced something like this and hope you never have to.anyways,happy mylotting.
@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
25 May 09
Move on. Smile at what you read and hope they are happy but don't let it get to you becuase then they win. These are poor souls who get their kicks that way and do not merit one more minute of our thoughts.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
25 May 09
i wish i hhad posted this discussion,so many encouraging responses!!yeah,you are right,he isnt worth a penny of my thoughts!so silly of me to get upset!!
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
25 May 09
Oh you can be upset... but only for 1 second! That is all the time you can spare for anyone negative who gets their kicks like that - just 1 second and then you get on with the rest of what you were doing before they crossed your path Have fun, only fun and happy Lotting!
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• United States
29 May 09
It's all good. Everyone has their own opinion of things. No matter what anyone say about you, to you, or even behind your back. You're still you and can't no one change that but you. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP LOL
@riyasam (16578)
• India
29 May 09
i do agree but isnt it bad to voice ones opinion bbased on a response without knowing the facts about the person???
• China
28 May 09
Through time!You can imagine you are in ten years later,and review on this matter.If ten years later you not care it,why shall now you angry it?it waste spirit and time!
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
28 May 09
sure i feel silly now only,maybe in 10 yrs time i wouldnot even recollect that such a thing took place!!good advice,thanks for sharing.
@urricur (10)
• United States
28 May 09
I can definitely understand how you feel. I used to offended when people would say little things to me. But now, I've learned to either ignore rude comments or quickly come up with something worse. I know its not the best thing to do, but I've gained a mentality where I want the person to feel how they made me feel, or worse. Because of this, I've learned to be able to take mean comments in stride and keep going. Don't let one person's rudeness keep you from doing something you enjoy because I'm pretty sure there are thousands of other people who enjoy reading your work.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
28 May 09
thanks for your kind words,have a nice day