Someone simply disappear from your life?

@faisai (1140)
Hong Kong
May 25, 2009 8:34am CST
Have you ever run into a situation like this: You have someone you care a lot and he does the same to you. It can be your lover or just a good friend. You have always been doing all you can to maintain the relationship. But then, one day, the relationship is lost. No reasons given. He just disappears from your life that you no longer can reach him. Have you been treated like this before? Or something similar where you are given some non-sense reason by the other one and then the relationship is just like dust and blown away?
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@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
25 May 09
No, I don't experience that yet. For me, if I don't see the relationship going anywhere, and if that person I care about so much before, doesn't do me any good. I might just not given any reason at all, and I will disappear. I just don't know to how to encounter someone like that any more. That is my best choice.
@faisai (1140)
• Hong Kong
25 May 09
Thanks for your reply. So, you will choose to be the one who just disappear. But wouldn't you think it is such a loss? Also, without giving any reason and just disappear seems a bit irresponsible and put the other one into the mist.
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@geniustiger (1699)
• Philippines
25 May 09
Yeah it is my childhood friend. I do evrything for him and so he did. But as we grow and grow old we did not see each other again. I can understand that there are many reasons for it , only that we did not meet each other until we saw last time when we are adolescent. Still I want to remember him but I dont know if he also remember me. He disappear long time for me. I long that someday we will see each other in our way.
• United States
25 May 09
This has actually happened a few times in my life. I used to hang out with a really close group of friends a few years back. Two of the girls in our group just stopped hanging out with us suddenly. A few years later, both of them got pregnant, so now they have the excuse of "I've got a child to take care of." One of the two guys (my best friend) tends to disappear for a little bit when he gets a girlfriend, but in the past year, I have seen him twice. At least with this one, I know why he stopped hanging out with his friends--his girlfriend. The other guy I still hang out with and talk to online. Right now he's in Iraq, so it'll be a while until I see him again!
@faisai (1140)
• Hong Kong
25 May 09
Thanks for your reply. So, how does it feel like when they just suddenly stop showing up? Without any particular reasons? Would you have the feeling that they are not showing up somehow because of you?
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• United States
25 May 09
Well, we all went to different schools, so we were bound to drift apart eventually. One of the girls had just started high school, and I think she simply made new friends at school and kind of forgot her friends outside of high school. I miss them, but I know it's not my fault that they left. We always got along really well, and there isn't any bad blood between us, so if I saw them, I know we would stop and chat with each other.
@JulyXu (1)
• China
26 May 09
I think life is just so,and then this is life
@justinus (1110)
• Karawaci, Indonesia
26 May 09
Yes, I did. He actually placed himself as my big competitor although I treated him as good as my the others even I thought that I always support and much follow his wants and aspiration than my own aspiration, I dont know that he hate me that way. But now we were seperate already, he got another job and I THANKS TO GOD very much because I was released from unpleasant situation in years ..hehehehe .. but I learn from this kind of relationship that we have to be carefull with our words, because we dont know exactly our partner's mind and feeling although we were already in years as friend. Even we still mistake with our wife and children and also our big family, right !? But sometime we have to accept anything which is not fit or dont make sense to us, perhaps that's why God give us feeling like TOLERANCE and understanding ... see you and thanks for your interesting topic that I can send my daily post at myLot...
@srsade (26)
25 May 09
Everybody will have their own reasons for doing the same..Life is like a dream,even before we realise the situation,the other person might have gone so far.We cant predict the life,so we have to just accept life as it comes to us and move ahead in life.we can try to sustain the relationship and if the other person is not willing to do the same,just stay out of it.some day they will understand the value of us.