Committing suicide instead of telling your husband that you have an affair?

Philippines
May 25, 2009 9:47pm CST
i hear a woman commit suicide because anytime soon her husband will know that she have an affair. The guy are harrassing her, that he will tell her husband about their affair. She gave all their money to stop him but one day she found out that all the investment her husband provided for them, for the future are all gone because of that guy. So the last thing she do is she commit suicide. What about you, will you be strong to tell your husband about your affair and you spend all his money or you will commit suicide just like what this woman do.
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10 responses
• United States
26 May 09
I believe if your really that unhappy about your relationship and are contemplating cheating, just get a divorce. Saves everyone heartache and trouble. And it could save a life or two. Take Care
• United States
26 May 09
ja,ja,ja..
• Philippines
26 May 09
I think i know whom you are referring to. Is this the case of Trina Etong, the wife of the broadcaster Ted Failon right? Well, to think that it was really so tragic that she end up taking her life is really a bad decision. This is not judging a person, but on what she had committed was really a foolish decision. If the wife committed adultery, of course this is also against our law and God's own law. She should be strong to accept it, tell it to the husband and try to solve the problem rather than to leave all her beloved in tears of what she had done. It was really her way to escape the problem, but do you think it will give a good solution of leaving her kids behind as well as her loving husband? The answer is No. Too late anyway, she is gone. But at least it will serve as a lesson to others not to give in to their carnal desires and sin against God and their loved ones. In a relationship, we need to be transparent to our spouse.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
26 May 09
She is a fool. If you ask me, first of all I won't go for such an affair. So, I can't think of telling such a thing to my husband. It is embarassing and difficult to tell your husband about an affair you have. I think the woman in the story was trapped. She would have been clever enough to get into such a relationship.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
26 May 09
I mean not to get into such a relationship.
@MsGeyen (27)
• United States
26 May 09
That is the crazyiest thing I have every heard. If I were married and If I had and affair I would be woman enough to admit to it. As soon as he found out that she could be blackmailed he had her. Was this a set-up to get money from her from the begining?
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
26 May 09
This is stupidity. She is being over powered by her guilt. She should repent and ask for forgiveness from her husband. The least the husband can do is to divorce her and her life would have been spared. It is unfortunate that she should end her life that way. I wouldn't do such a foolish thing even though I am caught red handed by my husband. There must be reasons why women have affairs. We must look at it in every angle before blaming women who go astray.
@SinfulRose (3529)
• Davao, Philippines
26 May 09
I don't know how that woman might have felt since first of all I don't have a husband and I don't have someone to have a relationship with. But If I were in the position of the woman, I would face the consequences of my actions rather than run away from it. No matter how hard it may be but as long as there is life within me, there is a chance that I can overcome any of the obstacles in my life. If I were her, I would tell the husband of my shames and other dishonorable things I've done on his back. I would repay the money to the fullest plus interest. There is a way, even though the husband may push her away and not want her anymore. A person just need to look for it and he/she shall find it. Even a cripple can make money. How much more a woman who has good and complete body structure?
@alvingb (265)
• Singapore
26 May 09
well, i think commiting sucide is definitely not a option at all. Whatever the problem maybe, i am certainly sure that there will be a solution out there. Well it might just be too hard to speak about it or in this case tell the husband what she had done because obviously it was a terrible thing she did by having a affair. But nevertheless i am sure things would get sorted out. I mean everyone does mistake. we are not perfect beings. Well the husband might have just understood the whole situation and would have forgiven her. There is always a if in this. And in this case what if the husband was willing to forgive her and start all over again. Well if so she defintely took a fast way out. best regards, alvingb
26 May 09
i think that she should have spoken out to her husbans and attempted to reaslove things instead of taking her own life
@justmeh (189)
• Philippines
26 May 09
Oh,please don't give me that crap. Why would I do such a foolish thing?First and for most you're the one who did it. You should have the responsibility towards it. Okay,let's admit that's a pretty tough one to handle letting your husband know you have an affair but don't you think you're being unfair and rude to him?It's better to see him suffer knowing the truth than letting him endure the pain that would take years cause you're not being honest to him. Even if you did something wrong. One mistake can't be corrected by another mistake.
@UnderSea (69)
• United States
26 May 09
First Of all, If I am going to have an affair, I would be smarter and make sure I find some guy that would treat me even better than my husband or someone who is in the same position as me. I wouldn't be stupid enough to jeopardize my marriage to someone who is going to not only take my money but also black mail me. But thats just say I somehow fell into a trap and hooked up with an Ahole like that. I would tell my husband what happend and understant that we are probably going to get a divorce and hopfully move forward.