I don't like you!

United States
May 26, 2009 8:14pm CST
How would you react if you found out someone you knew didn't like you? Perhaps it's a co-worker or a neighbor, but they just flat out don't like you. Maybe they think you're too perky, or too snobby, or just annoying. Would you be upset to learn this and hope to change their opinion of you? Or would you accept the fact that not everyone is going to like you, and be okay with that person's opinion of you? Would you want someone to tell you to your face that they didn't like you and why? What would be your immediate reaction if someone did this? Has anyone ever told you straight to your face that they didn't like you, and why? Have you ever told someone else that you didn't like them for whatever reason?
3 people like this
36 responses
@italysmom (313)
• United States
27 May 09
to me, this would be horribly rude, for someone to tell me straight to my face.. or me to theirs.. that one didnt like the other... life is what life is... God made us all very different.. and there is no way that we are going to like everyone... so the person needs to just deal with it... both parties included. Anouther point to remember... just because someone doesnt like someone.. doesnt meat that the other person is not a good person. There are plently of people that i just dont care for, but do realize that they are good people. I have never had someone tell me straight to my face that they didnt like me, but i know that it would hurt my feelings greatly... and why would someone want to do that? there are people that i could tell did not like me.. but... i just didnt bother them... and usually they wouldnt bother me...
• United States
27 May 09
Not everyone is as observant as others. There's a man my husband used to work with who's extremely annoying. He's the type who thinks he's better than everyone else, and tries to show off everything he has. Well obviously we don't like him, but he never got the picture. We were both pleasant when he was around, especially hubby cause he had to be, but the guy never got the picture. He thought he and my hubby were the best of friends.
• United States
27 May 09
I know those types of peopel drive me nuts too.... its like, they are the o nly ones that does anything good... dont let you brag on yourself or your family at all.. because they have done the same thing.. only better... I dont know.. I still dont know t hat I personally could tell him I didnt l ike him however.
• United States
27 May 09
We didn't tell him that we didn't like him, but it was getting close to that point. He seemed to think his wife and I would have been best friends had we just taken the time to hang out, but whenever we were together he wouldn't let me and her just chat. He had to control the conversation and stay right there by our sides. We were at a picnic and my hubby was off talking to the other guys, and us 2 girls were trying to chat but he stayed there with us instead of chatting with the guys. But I figured if she's married to a guy like that, she and I wouldn't get along anyways. Hubby talks to him through Facebook now, but that's it.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
27 May 09
There is a woman at work i don't like and she doesn't like me! We never have told each other face to face! It was spread by gossip which is ok with me! I don't care this women doesn't like me! There have been months she has gone out of her way not to talk to me! What I did to her I don't know! I don't care! I don't like her because she does the no talking thing to other people and won't tell people the truth when you ask you a question! A simple question! Her excuse is 'I'll get yelled at'! Now that is stupid and a very insecure person! This is why I don't like the old bat!
@sharra1 (6342)
• Australia
27 May 09
I do not mind the ones who do not talk to me. It is the ones that go out of their way to be nasty that I do not like and you have to be very careful how you react to them so that the boss does not just see one side of the story. Witnesses are so important. I know that children can be like that but in adults it is appalling behaviour and anyone who does behave that way should be disciplined and taught how to behave.
@coolcoder (2020)
• United States
27 May 09
I used to be so thin-skinned that whenever someone would say something rude to me or just straight up told me that they couldn't stand me, that I would break down in tears when I got home (no point in having them see me cry). Now, I realize that no matter how nice you are to someone, they may or may not like you, and that's just a fact of life. It shouldn't stop you from still being polite, though. I remember in 7th grade, this one girl called me "greasy-haired" and "gerry-curled," and she would leave nasty notes in my locker...come to find out, she was jealous that I was hanging out with a mutual friend of ours. I don't know why she was jealous, but that wasn't my problem. It bothered me then, but I can look back and laugh at it now. :)
• United States
27 May 09
Kids can be cruel, and kids also tend to take things to heart easier than adults. It's good though that you can look back now and realize the reason behind it and know it wasn't really personal.
@gemini_rose (16193)
30 May 09
Haha it is such a horrible feeling to find out that someone doesnt like you. I know because it has happened to me a few times over the years. It upsets me something awful and I always wonder why because I think I am a really nice person!! No one has ever told me to my face though so thats one good thing I would be gutted if that happened.
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
27 May 09
I would accept the fact that not everyone is going to like me. I can't please everyone so they have their own freedom to choose people to like and i respect that. However, i believe that it's an impression at first but once they get to know the person they will surely change their opinion. I also believe that in order to know someone you have to get to know them in person before judging not to like them.
@jkatmaou (195)
• Philippines
27 May 09
well, i would prefer someone tell me directly that they don't like me rather than just let everybody except me know. no that i would do anything, but just so i know. if for some reason a person doesn't like me, that's their right. i just hope that as time goes by, her opinion would change.
@jinrob (67)
• Philippines
27 May 09
Well I'll always think that you cannot please everybody,, If ever somebody say that she or he didn't like me,, then I would say,, I don't like you too.. hahaha
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
27 May 09
Yea i guess i have told people straight up to their faces that i don't like them. In fact it usually ended up in a fight or a argument. But if someone didn't like me i'd live with it. In fact if they didn't like me i'd either just simply not talk to them or talk to just the people that i know do like me. But if it's a coworker the only thing that would bother me is that the person that doesn't like you is gonna burn you any chance they get so you'd need to watch what you say around them and around the coworkers that do like them since they will be eventually take a side and either be your friend or theirs.
• United States
27 May 09
Its one of the worst thing in the world to feel. Especially when you like them a lot (love basically). Unless you are rational and forgiving, you can move on otherwise only more hatred will build up and sadness will linger. So don't expect too much and everything should be better.
@rymebristol (1788)
• Philippines
27 May 09
the best thing about this life of mine...i had never experience someone telling me that they don't like me right in my face. they just say, sorry, let's just be friends LOL! busted OMG!
• Netherlands
27 May 09
If you don't like someone, I think you should at least have the courage to say it straight in someone's face. I would accept it, not everybody likes everybody and that's normal. If you don't like it, well bad luck for you, but just accept it.
• China
27 May 09
Maybe someone didn't like you,or Maybe someone do like you,this is a normal phenomenon,everybody have their own feeling,so don't worry about?
• United States
27 May 09
Honestly, its not a big deal if someone did not like me. Not everyone will like me and I've learned to accept that. The way they approach the situation is what will define how I will react though. If they came about the situation in a rude manner (i.e. coming to my face trying to act as if I am a nobody) then we would have an issue. Also, it would depend if it was someone that I truly did care about. If that person did not like me then I would have a problem with that and I would wish for them to give me a reason as to why they do not like me and do everything in my power to correct this. And there have been so many times in which I actually told someone that I didn't like someone. Its also the case in which if I really didn't like someone, its sooo obvious and everyone knows it.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
27 May 09
At first I would feel really quirky and put out and then I would studiously avoid that person. In the past many times people came to me to say that guy or that girl doesn't like you. I don't know if they were serious or just playing the fool but I do remember it happening. The best thing is to avoid those who don't like you no matter how you feel.
@youngloc (37)
• United States
27 May 09
Me personally i wouldnt really care if somebody didn't like me. Your life was fine when they didnt like you and you didnt know so life goes on. Everyone not going to like just as you dont like everyone else. in your situation kill a person with kindness ya know . Tell good morning how ya doing have great day and even a simple smile. In my neighborhood me and my friends are respected if someone has a problem they step up tell ya straight up. Haters hate on its nothing but jealousy
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 May 09
Nobody has yet.lol told me that they do not like me, but i do get vibes that some people here in my office are not at ease or worse do not like me. There are those i can easily convey with, i can easily share stuff and stories but there are also those have has barriers in front which seems like walls of fiber glass that we do not understand each other ! lol and i just do not mind, as long as they do not tell it right to my face that they do not like me for some reasons because iwould really bug them why..hahahaha and i would also be not at ease because generally i am a likable person.. i am not that bad not that goody goody as well..generally i am ok hahahaha
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
27 May 09
I have no real experience with like this, but I am sure there are people who don't like me, it is okay for me, anyway the feeling is mutual.lol!but people who say that straight to your face are incredibly arrogant and worthy of a couple of slap, why not.
@bybun46 (19)
• Indonesia
27 May 09
if i knew that someone didn't like me i will accept it patiently because i believe the person is different with another. every people has their attitude and image. but if i knew someone who i know didn't like me of course i am very sad. firstly, i will intropection what wrong with my self. if i knew i guilty i will apologize to them. but if i think that i am not guilty i will ignore them. but honestly i ever didn't like someone because i don't comfort with him but i always not to express my feeling to him because i didn't like to be an egois person.
• United States
27 May 09
It would really bother me if I found out someone I knew and spoke to didn't like me. I try to stay away from phony people. If I don't like someone I make it clear that I don't and try to stay away from them. I never smile in someones face and then turn around and talk about them. I would like to believe I'm a pretty loving person so there would have to be something I really dislike about somebody for me to dislike them. As for telling someone whether I dislike them or not, I've never face to face told someone because I believe actions speak louder than words. If I don't like you it will be pretty apparent. I admit that by not telling the person what I dislike about them and dismissing the problem does not solve anything. At the same time you can't go around telling everyone you dislike them. Somethings are better left alone. Confrontation works when it is done at the right time for the right reasons. How do you feel about confrontation? Should you always tell someone when you don't like them?
@queennee (189)
• Philippines
27 May 09
hi katsmeow,so far nobody did that to me,telling me face to face that they didn't like me.i dont know how to react if i encounter one. :)well,we cant avoid that some people dont like us,despite how much we treat others nice.we cant please everybody,criticism is common among us people.if i'll learn that someone dont like me,i'll be upset and feel sad,maybe if the person is close to me,i'll confront her/him.if there's somebody who would tell me rudely that they dont like me?well,i'll say "the feeling is mutual,i dont like you too"..LOL good day!