What to do when infants cry?

@agrim94 (3811)
India
May 28, 2009 10:07am CST
I know all babies cry to attract attention or when they are hungry, hurt or afraid and sometimes for no reason at all. Though i dont have babies of my own but many a times relatives do leave children in charge of me when they are busy and sometimes a baby cries and i dont even know how to make him stop crying. I take him out for a stroll, sing a song or even on Television , sometimes they stop crying and many a times they dont. So those who are experienced with small babies can give me some tips?
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16 responses
• United States
28 May 09
Grim- I am sure you will receive quite a few responses to this thread, good topic. Well, babies do cry for lots of reasons, but it is always best to start with the basics. Check their diaper, offer them a bottle, and burp them. Then make sure they are warm or cool enough depending upon weather. Some babies develop colic, and for this one I used to bring my babies into the bathroom, run a hot shower and sit on the toliet allowing them to breathe in the steam. If a baby is teething you can offer infant motrin or tylenol, and rub the gums with baby oragel. Offering them a chew toy that has been in the freezer works too. Some offer frozen fruit or veggies, but I have always worried about choking and stick with special baby teethers that are designed to go in the freezer. Now, sometimes babies just want attention. They get bored and want someone to play with them, or they get bored of the same toys. So, rotate my toys for my baby. This allows her new things to see and play with. Other times she just simply wants me to hold her. If she is overly sleepy she fusses, and a nap is all she needs. I also do stroller walks too. This provides a lot of distraction. Also, short car rides sometimes help to calm a colicy baby, just the motion of the car it seems. I hope this helps. Namaste-Anora
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• United States
30 May 09
Grim- Thanks for the BR. I figured by now you'd have received a gazillion responses. Hopefully they'll make their way around to this one and give you some more advise. It's really a good topic starter, and new parents will be most appreciative. Have a wonderful weekend. Namaste-Anora
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
28 May 09
THAT IS THEIR ONLY WAY OF EXPRESSING THEMSELVES. it can be most frustating , believe me. u have no way of knowing what thet want & that use to drive me nuts when mine cried. if they are dry & fed all i ever knew to do was rock them, walk the floor w/them, whatever it took. evry child is different & everyone of them is sweet. i just always hated to hear them cry.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi antiquelady, Thanks for the response to this discussion. I now understand what mothers must be going through when i had to baby sit for an infant and certainly can appreciate the hard work the mothers have to put up who has twins or two babies with one year difference. Yes i agree ever kid is nice and sweet and when they smile, it is so heart warming.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
30 May 09
smiles beat the heck out of that crying.
@rtslvtwy (1088)
• Malaysia
30 May 09
All infants cry for a specific reason. Crying is a form of communications to infants and it is through crying that they communicate with the care-givers. Since they are too young to speak any languages, so the only language they know is the crying language. Infants usually cry for only a few reasons... it's either they are hungry, hot, itchy, stomach discomfort, poo-poo and many other reasons. So, as parents we have to know the reason they cry and sometimes the way they cry will be able to let you know the reason of them crying. Just be observant when they cry and take note.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi reslvtwy, Thanks for the response to this discussion, yes infants cry to get attention and tell us something is not right. I would keep your advise in mind to watch and learn and many a times yes as u said they might be itchy.
• United States
29 May 09
Small babies are usually pretty simple. They usually need either food or their pants changed. All of this becomes complicated when a child is fed food that upsets their system or they miss their mother. Children love to be held and cared for. They love attention and someone to talk to them. This is how they learn. Usually there is some discomfort involved with a child crying. Happy babies will coo, smile, and be a joy to be around.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi sysdexlicwriter, Thanks for the response to this discussion. and yes infants are pretty simple. either my way or i cry:). yes their mother is only person they recognize and her warmth is only warmth they understand. And yes the smile of a small kid can melt even the stone hearts.
@asweetie (1188)
• India
29 May 09
hi agrim.. yes babies seek attention in this way. They cant speak and crying is the only way they can tell you something is not the way they want. It can be that the baby is hungry or he might be as you rightly said hurt and may be he is wet below or just uncomfortable. usually they would cry when they see new faces around because baby is really safe with his mom and mother is first person he recognize in life. Also sometimes tight clothes can also make baby cry but if you take baby in ur arms and walk outside it would stop crying soon.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi asweetie, Thanks for the response to this discussion. yes tight clothes can be one reason too and i would think walking outside in sun is not my cup of tea. You know how hot delhi is and baby would be like a red tomato in heat. i wish i had more experience doing it. The baby was well fed before his mom gave me and he wasnt hurt or wet so may be moody.
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
29 May 09
My son is turning eight months old and I have also observed many times that he just want to cry for no reason. I did a little research and I found out that babies also need time to release their emotions or do a little discharge of excess energy and in doing so they should cry. So no need to worry to much as long as you are done checking with all the most possible reasons why a baby cries. Those reasons include checking if the baby is hungry, thirsty, tired, sleepy, with stomach ache or needs a diaper change. I guess giving them new toys would also help to make them stop crying, singing to them and carrying them are not always the solutions. So try to give them something or deviate their attention for them to stop crying.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi yori88, Thanks for the response to this discussion. yes next time i would try some toys or may be try something like a music channel in room so they might not feel they are alone.
• Malaysia
29 May 09
I'm not a mummy yet, so do not know how to handle a little kids. I'm frustrated of the infants cries. I will be like tied up my hands when hearing their cries. I believe to handle crying infants, have to find out the reason they are crying first.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi meiyeec 511, Thanks for the response to this discussion
• Philippines
29 May 09
Well all you have to do if you have already a baby ,, all you need is to check the possible thing that might be cause why your baby is crying. first thing is you have to check if your baby is wet second if your baby is uncomfortable with the ventilation of the room third check if your baby tommy is hungry the last thing is that he need your arms to sleep.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi maria, Thanks for the response to this discussion. Yes i would check his diapers next time i am asked to baby sit for him and well he is too small to take anything else but his mothers milk so i dont think i can do anything in it. But yes i can take him in my lap and make him sleep.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
29 May 09
We as guardians should try and find out what keeps the kids happy. What is that one thing which brings smiles on the face of the kids. We all know that the kids crib due to one or the other reason. Lets try and do that one thing which will make them happy.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi dropofrain, Thanks for the response to this discussion.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
29 May 09
This brings back so many memories, sleepless nights, diaper changes, projectile vomiting ugrr!! (LOL) Just kidding, it was a priceless experience but I confess that I am glad my daughter is seven now! When babies cry it is the only the way they have to communicate so, as you have probably learnt, it can be quite a job trying to figure out what they need. Once you have established that the child is not hungry, thirsty, in need of a diaper change, in pain or sick, you can try burping as this can cause problems. I used to take my daughter out in the car and the motion would usually send her to sleep. Different cries can mean different things and as you get to know the baby you will know the difference between an over tired cry compared to a hungry cry for example. For me, when my daughter cried a lot and she was well taken care of, clean,fed etc, the reason was almost always because she was exhausted and needed sleep; babies and children tend to fight sleep and they will become very grumpy before giving in to it. Good luck!
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi paula, Thanks for the response to this discussion. Right i can understand as a mom how many sleepless nights you must have gone through so that you can look after the baby needs and then be tired whole day, yet no end of work , be it household or needs of baby. And hey thanks again for such detail and next time i baby sit for that baby when his mom is out shopping i would keep all this in mind.
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• United States
29 May 09
Babies cry for many reasons. The basics are hunger, gas, teething, dirty or wet diapers, or needing burped. They don't usually cry for the sole purpose of attention until they're much older. The hardest is to tell if they need burped. My daughter would not burp by traditional means. The only way to get her to burp was to lay her on her back and slowly sit her up with my hand placed gently un her abdomen. Come to find out she was gassy because of an allergy to her formula. A lot of babies experience this. Sometimes you have to get creative to make them happy. If you've tried the basics just do whatever you can to make them comfortable. Sometimes unfamiliar sorroundings can startle them. So, it's important to keep things as normal as you can for them.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi xoxcharityxox, Thanks for the response to this discussion. Yes i did check few things. i checked his diapers, i tried to put his head on my shoulder and then pat his back, he was too small to have teeth and i can not feed him as he was still on his mom's milk. And i can see how much thought and efforts you have done in raising your kid. It is so nice to know and i hope ur kids are now grown up and are quite well behaved.
• United States
28 May 09
first you check their basic needs. do they need a diaper change? next maybe the baby is hungry? sometimes it is just gas and if you hold the baby close to you and tap their back between the shoulder blades it might help. also babies sense if you feel nervous or unsure and then they are going to cry more. sometimes wrapping them in a blanket for security helps. rocking them or walking and rocking them sometimes works. overall try to remain calm. if you are not used to it it can make you crazy.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi nuttymomma, Thanks for the response to this discussion, and thx for such valuable suggestions. I would keep all in mind and i didnt know giving them a blanket or a sheet would make them more secure. Thx for this one specially.
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
28 May 09
Infants dry when they are hungry, need to have a diaper change, or they do not feel good. Sometimes if they are spoiled to a certain thing then that is what they may ant. Singing to them is a good thing. Holding a bright colored toy and playing with them with it helps if they want to play. It's a matter of just trying it all, starting with the food and changing.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi moondancer, Thanks for the response to this discussion. Well the baby i baby sit was too small for me to feed him. only his mom could feed him. I tired everything but i failed and baby i think got tired of crying and slept and only then i had my sigh of relief.
@savypat (20247)
• United States
28 May 09
Babies cry for many reasons, it's their main way of communication, they may be uncomfortable, hungry, wet, or just bored. You just have to read their body language. If the cry is very hard, something may hurt, like a belly ache or a dirty diaper. A hard cry may just be a temper tantrum because they are with a different person or on a different bed. A constant cry may mean pain or tired. The best thing you can do is get a baby book that you can read when you have questions. Like all the rest of us each baby is different.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi savypat, Thx for the response and yes since they cant talk then crying is basically their only way to show something is not exactly right. Thanks for describing different kind of cries of infants i would keep in mind when some baby cries next time.
• United States
28 May 09
They could be hungry or need a diaper change...they could need to be burped...they could be teething and their gums hurt...or they could be missing their mom...babies recognize the heartbeats of their mothers
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 May 09
hi ratcliffe and hornet lover, Thanks for the response to this discussion. i do recognise the need to change diapers or need to burped but i think biggest reason is they do miss mom and yes hornet lover you do have a nice and warm heart.
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
30 May 09
well sometimes they are hurting the have cramps or they are teething and the gums hurt, sometimes they are too stuffed with food, if you feel they are crying too much you must tell the parents.