Advantages and Disadvantages of Getting Married

@France7 (385)
Philippines
May 29, 2009 2:46am CST
In one mof my group discussion classes, I groupe my students into two for a debate about the advantage and disadvantage of getting married. For the disadvantage, one group said that getting married can lead someone to losing his job and social life as well. But for the other group, they said that getting married can help each partner earn more rather than staying as single. How about your friends? What do you think are the advantages and disadvantages of getting married? Thanks and happy mylotting!
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@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
29 May 09
The advantage of getting married is, you can have your own family which you can be proud of when you do have one. When you have your own child, you will feel the joy of being a mother. Although, it's quite tired to take care of your child, but inside of your heart, you do feel the joy of it. Being married, also gives you the chance to have someone helping you out whenever you're sick or having problem. Even, you don't need to feel lonely whenever you go to any function or party. Disadvantage is, of course you had lost your freedom as a single. You can't go out freely as when you are still single...
• United States
29 May 09
You can have a family without being married, look at Goldie Hawn...and marriage doesn't really have to put a strain on your social life, it's not rules, it's just what you're comfortable with in your relationship.
@pickoy (734)
• Philippines
30 May 09
I bet those who find marriage disadvantageous will remain single for a long time, career-oriented, unmarried or divorced. I'd been married for a year and I'd been to marriage encounter by accident, just curious what it was, and we can't relate to the couples that are there. There problems are so simple they are not just willing to go another mile to work it out. Marriage is choice and a sacred commitment of two people. Once they don't agree, conflict arises. I'm not waiting to see any disadvantage in my marriage. I must say its not perfect as well, but I have everything I needed and I'm satisfied. It's the wife's choice to stay at home and to mingle with friends specially when they have kids but what makes that a disadvantage? Having kids is a blessing and it will bring me much joy to have one in the future. Not working or sacrificing a career is choice too. In my case I choose my family over my personal fulfillment. Im quite successful and satisfied with what I've achieved and I'm "not" searching for things that will prove my worth as a wife coz I've already done that when I married the man of my life. Of course I'm not against working mom's coz I also have my own way of earning at home. We're both financially independent but I'm not working although in my case, I don't feel that I lack something. It pretty much depends on the self-esteem of a woman to feel insufficient or unfulfilled; but to see marriage as a disadvantage is something I won't agree on. It's so wonderful to have someone whom you could share your blessings with. Note, that the essence of marriage is to share a common bond not just to wait to receive something or to benefit from it. It's always give and take. You'll drain your partner's energy if you'll just wait to be helped and not do anything to make it work. After my surgery, I'd like to live life to the fullest and I'd love to feel the full essence of being a woman in this world by being a wonderful wife and mother to my future children. That is something I wouldn't dare "to miss" coz its far too important for me. Life goes on why would they stop seeing their friends? A person doesn't die when they get married, the two only become one... I guess, I just like to experience loving someone for all eternity and I would like to find out how good that feels.
• China
30 May 09
i cont think out the advantage of getting married,but i know many many disadvantage things.when you married,you will have no private time and room.You cant go out with your friends so frequently.You should always stay at home and do the housework,take care of your child,you also cant go out for working.as a word,i think getting married is a terrible things
@janyen (624)
• Netherlands
29 May 09
hi france, i'm married for a year now and am happy with it. there are lots of advantanges as well as disadvantages in every relationship. some advantages would be being with the ones you love always, spend time together and there is someone always there for you. disadvantages would be you have to consider both sides decisions, you are one as conjugal parties and your husband will always be with you.
• Malta
29 May 09
It seems like people in the group are looking at the financial aspect of marriage. As a matter of fact I think marriage is a matter of support, be it financial or emotional. Sharing things and special moments with a loved one is one advantage of married life. As for disadvantages I can pinpoint the one most important thing: misunderstandings. They can crop up easily in a couple that lives together and it is important to both do things together but also to give each other some space.
@nashlix (186)
• Singapore
29 May 09
haha i once heard someone tell me life has 3 rings. engagement ring, wedding ring and suffering. hahahaha i do not really know the advantages and disadvantages of marriage because i am not married yet and all i know of marriage, you know it too since young. i guess its just the amount of space for oneself after marriage being less than that of before?
• Philippines
29 May 09
advantage of getting married is that you finally will have a long lifetime with your love one.. Disadvantage, you can't do what you want... specially if your husband doesn't like it, you can't do anything..
• United States
29 May 09
I'm not really sure where the group was going with saying it would help partners get more vs. being single. Because I have a good friend who is just short of being actually married, with her boyfriend of about three years, and their funds, accounts, everything is joint, so marriage wouldn't change that, the income, or anything. Marriage to me is nothing but a title, won't change nothing but your last name, and that's only if you want it to. If you are dating someone in a serious relationship the committment should be their without the vows. Vows just make it worse when you do break them, cause you actually said them and signed on them and all. But I'm not against marriage don't get me wrong, but it doesn't change a whole lot to me.