Is it true that "A Way to a Man's Heart is through his Stomach"

May 29, 2009 6:18am CST
I have often heard my mother, grandmother and many people saying this that "A Way to Man's heart is through his stomach" If this is true than I m worried as I am not so good at cooking, will it affect my married life. As I am a working women I dont get time to make different dishes. I also thought of keeping a maid but then worried as many maids turn into robbers. There are different ways to learn making good dishes like sites, books, classes etc. but no time to do so. Is this the only way to make a place in a man's heart ? Please share your opinions with me ...
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14 responses
• United States
31 May 09
My wife did not make me love her by cooking for me. The fact that we both love cooking is something we have in common, among many things, that brings us together. If your man loves a good cooked meal, works as much as you and expects you to cook it for him, he is a short sighted loony and needs to be reminded that you are a busy woman. As for maids, a good maid will have references. Some of them may even have certifications. If you can afford a maid, you can afford to shop around. The job market for a maid creates the need to keep up a good name, so many of them will value continued employment of a single valuable, or even a whole house full of them.
@randoh (63)
• Philippines
31 May 09
As a man, I can understand how the saying came about. Men looking to marry in the past looked for women with the skills needed to run a family. Cooking is one of those skills. I like to cook, and having a partner who shares in my interests would probably make me happier. It isnt a requirement tho.
• United States
30 May 09
Wow do I love a woman who can cook but no that's not the only thing a man wants. In my case he wants someone who is smart, can deal with a situation without arguing,who can touch my heart, and who understands. Cooking isn't everyhting but it sure helps. Also if you still wanna try to cook watch food network or go online and find easy recipes for lunch and dinner and you can follow them which should eliminate mistakes. Also if your married already he obviously didn't marry you because he thought you could cook. you had something else he loved about you.
3 Jun 09
Ya thats true he never asked me whether i can cook or no?? May be he liked some other quality in me. Thanks for your response.
@m2ponce (103)
• Philippines
30 May 09
yes it is true. it is a way to a man's heart but it is not the only way. there are a lot of ways, but the easiest i think is through his stomach. i attest to this. i love people who cook well and i enjoy eating. my wife is like you, a career person, but she still tries to cook once or twice a month for our family. do not worry too much. if you don't have time to cook, take your husband to a nice restaurant that serves his favorite dish. ask him what he wants... after that ask him if he wants anything more. if he is tired from the office or work, massage him a little and ask him what he wants for dinner... men are easy to please... plus don't forget sports.... men love watching basketball, baseball, football or ufc/mma. good luck!
3 Jun 09
I think you are a Good Husband, from whom we can learn many things.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
29 May 09
Don't worry that is just an old saying. When I was first married, I didn't have a clue how to cook. I just did whatever and my husband would eat it. Just show your true love for the man, respect him, and you will have a wonderful marriage.
3 Jun 09
Ya thats true. I am trying to do the same. Thanks for your response.
@lowres (45)
3 Jun 09
Speaking as a man who absolutely loves good food and eating, I would say it is certainly one way to a mans heart but I really don't think any man would fall for a woman just because she can cook!!! I adore my girlfriend and am lucky that she is a great cook but even if she wasn't I'd still love her because of who she is!!
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
31 May 09
i guess so in a way. my wife is a good cook and i love food har har har. my mom is a good cook but they got separated with my mom so i dont think that it applies to everybody. it is always boils down to how good you are to handle a relationship. some woman are good cooks but naggers. some women does not know how to cook but they survive a long term relationship. i have a friend who does not know how to cook but lucky he found a husband who is good on cooking. now she learned a lot form her husband and she knows some
@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
30 May 09
yes i believe this is true because a hungry man will always remain an angry man and if you give a man his favorite food, he will love you the more, money does not do everything for a many, a man cannot perform in anything without him taking care of his stomach first and the every other things can follow
@aikhong (664)
• Malaysia
30 May 09
Haha, of course that's only an old saying i think. I only heard of this saying in dramas nowadays, and people are just making it a joke. Anyway, it is one advantage and a good thing if you know how to cook. It is one of the ways to improve or strenghten the relationships by the nice cooking, i think. Anyway, the real way to make a place in a man's heart, should be the love itself. Respect each other, treat each other well is the most important thing in a relationship. Hope you're doing well too!
@chapstek (86)
• Philippines
30 May 09
Hello there lovelyruth1! I am a man and I really respect this saying. Yes IT IS A WAY but that is different from IT IS THE WAY. I mean, it may be a way to a man's heart but it's not the only way. Yes, we men love someone who can prepare meals for us because with that, we can feel being cared for by our loved ones. And to feel being cared for is a plus plus to us! But what if our partner does not know how to cook? We really don't care. There are so many ways how you can let your man feel he is being cared for. One thing is cooking but it is just one thing. There are lots of ways to a man's heart and women know it. Yes, believe me, YOU KNOW IT. You just have to let him feel he is loved and cared for with your.. simply LOVE. :) Well, good luck to your married life! :)
• Philippines
30 May 09
It maybe one of the ways to his heart, but not the only way. There are a lot of way to make a man love you. And number one, is by being who you are, every one loves a woman who can show the real her without being embarrassed about herself. and by owning and loving her own being. But good cooking does help. Start with just trying cook your breakfast during weekdays, then it will all go from there.
• India
30 May 09
Yeah, they are right. It's the right way. But it's not the only way. Try my advice. For few days, you just try to cook a variety of dishes. Of course, you won't find time. But this'll make you to skip your breakfast. Do this for few days or weeks. On the go, your family will definitely understand how you are struggling to give them a right kinda food. Slowly they feel sympathetic over you. Then even if you are willing, they will never let you cook. They cook for you and try to please you. That's love! It doesn't matter whether you cook or not. What matters is your love. Even if it's cooked by somebody else, if you serve it with love and affection, they'll definitely love you. It's after all a little bit of understanding between you and your family. They'll definitely understand you situation!
• United States
30 May 09
I think it depends on what kind of a woman his mother is/was. If she is one of those Donna Reed-type women who live solely to nurture her family and who is known throughout three neighboring counties for her fantastic recipes, then it tends to be more difficult for a single man to be accepting of a less "domestic" partner. Not impossible and some are not concerned with it but I've seen relationships struggle because the girl couldn't live up to the domestic expectations set by his Mom. And with cooking, practice really does make perfect. Or nearly perfect, anyway. Start with simple things. Dress up a grilled cheese sandwich by adding a slice of onion or tomato in the center, or sprinkling grated Parmesan cheese on the outside. Anytime you get an opportunity to cook for someone, take it. I used to work with a girl who, when she got married, knew how to make macaroni and cheese from a box and lemon meringue pie. She could screw up hot oatmeal but she knew how to make a lemon meringue pie! But over time, with cooking for her husband every night, she eventually learned to make other things too. If you have a good relationship with your mister's Mom, ask her to teach you to make one of his favorites. Only if you have a good relationship though. If not, she might get territorial about you wanting to take the privilege of making that favorite dish away from her. And there's not much in this world worse than a territorial Mother in law.
@marguicha (102279)
• Chile
29 May 09
It´s an old saying, but there are lots of thing that are more important in a realtionship. I´m sure he´ll eat sawdush if you ask him how his day has been, if you cuddle him, if you let him participate in your own life. Men are different than women, but as complex. Learn about him, if you love him. And probably you could learn to make the dish he loves most to make it for his birthday if you fdon´t like cooking. Besides, cooking is an art that is mastered through time and the normal method of trial and error. Don´t worry. Take care
• United States
29 May 09
The real way to a man's heart is through your own heart. Yeah, hubby likes my cooking, but I'm pretty sure we're together because he likes ME. Man or woman, we all want somebody who can connect with us on a deeper level than just friends, who enjoys some of the same things we do, and who we can totally be ourselves around - those things are much more important than being able to cook well! There are a lot of simple easy meals that you can prepare with little time and effort, if one day you fall in love and marry, you can always ask his mom for some recipes, but even if you are the type who can burn water it doesn't mean you are out of luck. A good man will love you for YOU, if you can fix dinner that's just a bonus, and anyway, lots of men like to cook so it might never be a problem at all!