feelings

@23uday (2998)
India
May 29, 2009 8:39am CST
Well most of us have come across this situation in some part of our personal or career lives,that unknowingly we hurt the feelings of a person,sometimes they may be our close pals. Even in a fit of rage,i lost one of my good friends,though i did not want to lose my friend,but it happened.some times i speak frankly and people misinterpret as arrogance ,but some of my friends are empathetic ,whom i will never wanna lose. And i 'm always wary that i dont hurt any one's feelings. so have you ever hurt any ones feelings knowingly or unknowingly????? thanking you in advance happy mylotting have a nice day
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10 responses
@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
30 May 09
ok... Here's what I think, feel, and try to live... A true friend will try to understand, talk it out with you, and get over it. Fickle friends pick a little miss step or misunderstanding and turn it into a major offence that no matter how calmly you try to fix it and explain your side. I had a near and dear friend. I had held her in high regard and thought she held me such. To this day I'm unsure of my crime. She got down right mean and almost 2 years later she still holds that grudge. She claims ego is to blame... I think some people just forget to look in the mirror and take their own inventory.
@23uday (2998)
• India
30 May 09
hi thank you for your response happy mylotting have a great time
@savypat (20247)
• United States
30 May 09
I think we all have done this, by speaking in haste before we knew all the facts or had given ourselves time to evaluate the full situation. It is something that we can only gain a lesson from even though it costs us a friend.
@23uday (2998)
• India
30 May 09
hi thank you for your response happy mylotting have a great time
@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
30 May 09
we're on the same boat but we're not all arrogance. i mean, we can be generous, responsible, dependable. just like our pysicalities. nobody is born with a perfect physique but it is in focusing on our body part that is good that makes up for our little body flaws . we can make up for our behavioral or attitudinal flaws by focusing on our good traits. however, this is not an excuse to be blatant with "i am what i am". we still need to adjust.
@23uday (2998)
• India
30 May 09
hi thank you for your response happy mylotting have a great time
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
30 May 09
I have had my feelings hurt many times. I have hurt other people's feelings also but it was not intentional most of the time.
@23uday (2998)
• India
30 May 09
hi thank you for your response happy mylotting have a great time
• India
30 May 09
I don't think so. I had never hurt anyone before. Because I usually don't talk much. I use to open my heart only when I'm with my friends. My friends always understand my attitude and they never mistake me. I'm lucky! But I don't talk much with other people just because of this reason. I know I'm talkative. So, there is a chance of me hurting others even if I don't do that intentionally. Hence, I avoid having talk with people who don't understand me!
@23uday (2998)
• India
30 May 09
hi thank you for your response happy mylotting have a great time
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
30 May 09
I did cause great hurt once to a good male friend who viewed our friendship as a stepping stone to a romantic love relationship. I did not see it the same way and I paraded my new boyfriend in front of him causing him pain. It wasn’t until another friend pointed out the distress my actions caused that I realised that I just didn’t think and that was no excuse. I did not consider my friend’s feelings and consequently I lost his friendship for good; perhaps that may have been inevitable but I regret so much the hurt I caused him. Life is about life lessons and it is a shame that someone has to come out second best in order for another to learn.
@23uday (2998)
• India
30 May 09
hi well thats really sad that you have lost a good friend.sometimes these kind of things happen which teach some valuable lessons in our lives. thank you for your response happy mylotting
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
29 May 09
I can understand your feelings.To loss a friend is a unfortunate happening.You can say sorry to him. Or sick other friends help to reunite both of you.You said he/she is your good friend.I'm sure he/she will understand and forgive you.
@23uday (2998)
• India
30 May 09
hi thank you for your response happy mylotting
@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
29 May 09
Yes of course. You can never be good for everyone. Some people react different than others. I find with real friends, they don't get offended easy. Because they know who you are, and that you don't mean it the way it sounds. But others could get the wrong impression. That is there problem. If they really have a problem with it, they should talk to you about it. Then everything will be better. When I find I have hurt someones feelings, I will myself talk to them in the right time. If I believe it is worth it. I have a new job. The lady that worked there before is jealous. I was asked to work there. This other lady is so jealous she won't talk to me anymore. What do I do??? I did not mean to step on her toes.
@23uday (2998)
• India
30 May 09
hi thank you for your response,and thank you for ur words.i am happy that i have few nice friends who are very empathetic. happy mylotting
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• United States
11 Oct 09
I think hurting peoples feelings is a part of life, it just sucks when you hurt someone that you didn't mean to hurt. People probably hurt you all the time, why wouldn't they expect to be hurt. Not everyone tells the truth about their feelings, they only tell the truth when their feelings become too much for them. So don't stress about not hurting people's feelings...unless you want to intentionally, because it's something that just happens.
• India
30 May 09
Of course, I have hurt many people's feelings, and they have hurt mine. Can't help it. All of us somehow or the other hurt other's feelings. It happens because all of us feel. LOL!! Cheers and happy Mylotting