Who was the hardest person you had to invite to your wedding?

@SomeCowgirl (32270)
United States
May 29, 2009 5:30pm CST
Sometimes when your planning a get together of any kind, you invite others that you haven't talked to in awhile. Sometimes you can be afraid of what they might say, and sometimes it's because of getting the opinion of others as to what the person might say. Today I had to call someone that I hadn't talked to in a long time. The conversation wasn't nearly as hard as I had thought it to be, and I guess that just goes to show that sometimes you can't always believe what you hear, even if it's coming out of your own mouth. My fiance did a great deal just by being there for me, but he also helped convince people we had talked to, that it was better to just invite, because we really couldn't judge as to what to expect. So who was the hardest person you had to invite, and was it really as bad as you had expected?
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@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
30 May 09
This is a really good discussion baby,and I know weddings are a very special occasion and people want them to be just perfect,and I know sometimes it is hard to invite someone or a group of people either because you have not talked to them in a good while,or because you do not always get a long with them and you are not quite sure what they will say,and I know you had trouble calling the person because you had not talked to them in a long time,and it does show that sometimes you can not believe what you hear,and I am glad that I was able to be there for you,and I am glad I was able to convince people that it was better to invite the person,and I would say the hardest person to invite to our wedding for me will be Skip my grandfather because we have not seen or talked to him in many years,since he told us not to come see him because my mother was sick,and we are going to send him an invitation,and now that you have called the person you wanted to invite,it is making me think about calling Skip to see if he would come or if he would even talk to me,so I know I should give it a lot of thought,and I should ask my mother what she thinks and I am sure after reading this you will tell me what you think,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all of your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
30 May 09
I know that you haven't talked to him in a long time either and that you aren't sure exactly what to expect with him and someone else. I think though that we'll just have to talk about it with your mom and see. I love you with all of my heart and soul. I appreciate your response, and YOU!
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• United States
2 Jun 09
Yeah I have not talked to him in at least five years I would say and I am not sure what to expect from him,since he can be really difficult to deal with,even though he might have changed over time,but he still should have our number but he has never once called us,and last I heard from him was when he sent me money for graduation back in 2004,and we can ask her what she thinks about it,but we will just have to wait and see what happens,I am always happy to respond to your discussions because you do really good discussions,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all of your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Hey baby! At first I wasn't sure who you were talking about when you commented back but now that I read the whole thing I realize just who your talking about. I realize though that we should talk to her about it and that maybe she will say yes we should call or maybe she'll say no.
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@meapas (2434)
• India
15 Jul 09
Yes it did happen to me once. A distant relative well known in the family for talking rubbish about any body and everyday was left out of the list of people to be invited for my sisters wedding. Every body voiced one opinion, not to invite him or else he will spoil the party. I put my foot down and insisted on calling him for the marriage, though I never speak to him. I was of the opinion that his position in the family must be respected and so he should be invited. He came as expected and joined the party but there were hardly anybody ready to talk to him. I felt so bad, I went to him as though there was nothing between us and started introducing him to my new friends. He stuck to me like glue throughout the party and felt ashamed of himself. Thereafter he found a good friend in me and started mending his ways. After all you live only once, then why not set some good examples for others to follow. meapas.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
22 Jul 09
You are a good person to have insisted and then later made sure he felt atleast a bit welcoe among a situation which must have felt very tense for him. It just goes to show you that sometimes all anyone needs is a friend, someone to care and show them the way. I appreciate your response, sorry it took a week to respond, I have been a bit preoccupied.
@meapas (2434)
• India
22 Jul 09
Yes I knew you were not around. Thanks.
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
I am not yet married but when I got engaged the persons I had a hard time telling that I will be getting married are my parents because they sort of think that I was still a child. When I was still in college my mother always tell her friends that after graduation I could do anything I want, even marry but now that I graduated for almost 4 years now, had my license as an engineer, have a job but they still think of me as their baby. When I first brought my boyfriend at home his hands were freezing, my mom talked to him but my dad just stayed at their room. When we got engaged they still have no reactions. I guess it would take some time before they could be used to the fact their their baby was already a grown up.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
17 Jun 09
I think that your right, your parents are having a hard time realizing you have grown up. Parents are like that with every major event, lol. Well Congratulations on your engagement. My fiance and I are also engaged, not sure that I had mentioned that in my discussion.
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
Yes. I really think it will take a lot of time before they get used to it. But I certainly hope that they would get along with my fiance and accept him as a son before our wedding next year. Congratulations to you and your fiance!
• Canada
1 Sep 09
My husband and I were very lucky with our very small wedding. While there are a few relatives out there we've had conflicts with in the past (very very small conflicts, so nothing to worry about), everything came off just fine with the wedding, and people forgot their old issues for a few hours, and just had a good time.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jul 09
There wasn't anybody who was hard to invite. What was hard was not being able to invite quite everybody I would have liked to. Some of the folks my in-laws had us invite were people I had never met before and haven't seen since and I'm not sure my in-laws have either. And I wish there were a few people I could have invited in their place.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
22 Jul 09
I get what your saying. My invite list is small but I think I've covered everybody I want to invite. Atleast you weren't stuck with finding it hard to invite some people, like I did. I'm over that now, but at first it was hard.
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@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
6 Jul 09
ironically, the easiest person for me to invite was my ex! the hardest? wow.. my in-laws? had to arrange every single detail for them! but what to do, I am taking their son away from them! LOL...
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
6 Jul 09
A lot of hard work not to mention just inviting people you've got to impress, I can understand. For me, we live with our in laws and his mom is helping us a great day so it wasn't at all hard to invite them! lol! I appreciate the response.
• United States
18 Jun 09
If you are talking about a wedding only this is a hard question for me. See there have been some issues with my family and my now current boyfriend but we plan to marry. So I think inviting them plus some of my aunts and cousins is going to be hard. I am not saying I will not do it but when the time comes I think it will be hard on me but I will anyway. We are suppose to get married in September but I think it might happen on another date. We have to talk more about it later.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
5 Jul 09
I'm sorry it took so long to respond, I guess a lot of other emails arrived and then now I am getting to these emails. My fiance and I are getting married In September. We wanted to get married last September but we didn't have the money and it was also too soon after we had told our family. Our wedding anniversary will be on the day of two birthday's, one being his grandmother and another a friend online. We recently found out that the woman my mother in law works for's mom's birthday is that day, and she'll (the woman my mom works for) will be coming to our wedding and not to go see her mom. She told her mom and I'm guessing her mom understands. This woman is very much into parties and weddings and has helped a bit. Well back to mylot, lol, yes I do hope you'll be able to get married if not in September then soon after. Maybe a wedding in December when it's likely to snow more then any other month, maybe then you could have a white wedding. Good Luck to you on your invitations, and especially those that will be hard to extend to.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Both our families were giving us hell when we were discussing wedding options, so we eloped and didn't tell anyone until it was over. Now whenever i hear stories of other people's weddings and plannings, I'm glad we did it the way we did. There was no muss and no fuss. No worrying about who to invite, if everyone will get along, if everyone will RSVP, what to wear, what to eat, where to go. UGH!!! I'm getting a head ache just thinking about it!
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Luckily our families aren't giving us any fuss, or not much anyway, so we're not really worried about it. This last minute invite, well was last minute, lol. Actually the other option was to tell this person we eloped, but my fiance and I didn't really think it was right for us to do that. So it went from inviting to having this person walk me down the aisle. I guess I'm being paranoid when it comes to saying who, but I think that last clue will help ya figure it out. When all else fails though, it's being happy on your wedding day that matters, so eloping or having a wedding, either way!
@qiyunhai (254)
• China
30 May 09
wedding only belong me and my wife,why i invite other person join it, i don't like it. my wedding shoudl be different. there are only my wife and me
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
30 May 09
I am not sure, but you may have not understood me. Ofcourse the only person to married should be one man and one woman in a wedding, but there are those who are there to witness the marriage, and that is who I am talking about Inviting. Of course I am sorry if I have misunderstood you.
@thyst07 (2091)
• United States
29 May 09
Honestly the hardest people to invite were both my and my husband's parents. Both of our parents kind of treat us like crap. My parents absolutely adore my older stepsister, whose life is perfect. They look down on me because I can't be like her, and it drives me nuts more than a little. Every step of the way through planning the wedding, they kept comparing my low-budget wedding to my stepsister's and criticizing it (she spent like $50,000 on her wedding and hired a professional planner, of course it was perfect). My husband's parents are no better. For starters, they're really manipulative. And they also told my husband that he shouldn't date me, let alone think about marrying me. I wasn't raised by my biological parents, and his parents assumed that I would be unstable and have a bad character because of it.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
29 May 09
Being Judgemental is just awful, but we all do. I know I do. I'm sorry that it was so hard to invite your husbands and your own parents. I haven't really experienced it personally but I know from t.v. sitcoms how horrible it is for a person to have to live up to another's expectations, especially when there expectations are high for whatever reason. I am assuming your wedding went well though? For me, the first step of telling this person is over, and now I've got to reacquaint myself with him, but it won't be as bad since my fiance will be there too.