Have you ever regretted not listening to your heart?
By rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
Malaysia
May 30, 2009 2:55am CST
I have on many occasion regretted to not following what my heart said. The problem is I prefer thinking in a logical manner. So when the heart told me something which was contrary to what the mind was thinking I followed what appeared to be reasonable. I shall give two examples to illustrate my point.
The first was when I was 12. Out of my own initiative I entered a weekly competition organised by a national daily. The task was to arrange a series of photographs of a model according to the most to the least attractive pose. One week I felt my heart strongly telling me to change the first and last positions. It felt so heavy but my mind told me not to bother since I was only a male kid. I would have won MYR2,000. It was a big sum in 1971, sufficient to buy the materials needed to build a small wooden house.
In 1980 I lived in London on my own. I led a frugal life, eating to live. One afternoon my heart told me to buy chicken. My brain argued with it and after some time it won. Early evening my former senior in Cambridge arrived from Loughborough. I had no food to offer him. Shops around the area, Hackney, were closed by then.
Nowadays I do not always follow logical thinking but there are still times I regretted doing so.
Do you have any similar incidents? Do you still mistrust your heart? Or have you come to a compromise?
Thank you in advance.
rosdimy
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7 responses
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
8 Jun 09
I think its still a normal thing of being a human to have a logical thinking or felling. It just a matter of "choosing" and "confidence" on how to make a decisions for life. I do have missed many good changes in life, but i always try not to get buried because of that.
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
8 Jun 09
Well i guess that was the point... A lesson from the past.
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@narvzgarrison (233)
• Philippines
30 May 09
Yes i guess so. Maybe sometime before i made some decision that i regret after doing so for not following what's in my heart that time. Sometimes we are confused what to follow because of some circumstances that we have to consider before making the final decision. But most of the time our mind wins over our heart if we have enough control of our feelings and if we think that our heart is so weak to make some difficult situation once feelings is involve.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
It could be the way we were brought up. We aere told not to follow what we felt. Instead our actions were supposed to be based on what was tangible. Anyone following the heart was said to be living in the clouds.
Our ego could also play a part, because it is based on logic. Sometimes we feel capable of handling something while our heart knows the truth.
all the best,
rosdimy
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@agrim94 (3805)
• India
26 Jun 09
hi rosdimy,
Every coin has two sides and one has to choose one. For everything we do we have to listen to heart and brain too. most of times they tell the same thing but the trouble starts when they dont agree. There are many instances in everyones life when he/she has not listened to heart and regretted and many a times when he/she has listened to heart and regretted. Like i remember i held stock of a company which rose suddenly and my brain told me to sell but my heart told me it would go up more and i listened to heart and with in a week it was there where it was before it rose. I remember in one case when i was in tenth and we had a local school exam and my heart told me to study one topic but my brain said that no question has been asked on this topic for last 10 years and i went with brain and didnt study that topic and wow the first question in paper was from that topic only and there was no question in the paper what my brain told me is important .. so can be tricky both ways.
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@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 09
Maybe it depends on how strong the feeling is. In my case a strong feeling in the heart indicates it should be followed. A weak feeling usually indicates issues which can be considered as having small importance. I am still learning to differentiate and interpret the feelings or voice of the heart.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
It is because logical thinking has always been based on available information or data we have in hand. The info may be insufficient or flawed, resulting in us making a defective decision.
What is needed is a balance between the two, resulting in fuzzy logic. Experience should also have taught us to at least listen carefully to the heart or insincts.
all the best,
rosdimy
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@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
More often than not, I listen to my heart and to my intuition - the inner voice that guides me everytime a decision has to be made and no logic will suffice to support or corroborate it. I never regret any decision that I make, of course at times it may not turn out well as expected, but that's how life works, you make choices if you look back and see that's it was wrong, why would you regret it, its your own decision - you are given another choice either to rectify the error or to just let it go. Nothing is too late until you realize that you've given up. If you'll stop trying you'll definitely fail and nothing good will ever come to someone who quits too soon.
There are moment when people stop listening to themselves and they end up worrying alot about all the mistakes they've made. There's also a reason why its there, might as well put it into good use than just keep ignoring it. I believe in myself and I know that if I stopped trusting my judgment I can't expect anyone to trust it as well.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 09
If I am not mistaken in general women listem more to their intuition. Most probably this is due to the way their brains are wired. They use their right brain more than men. Nevertheless I believe we can train ourselves to a certain extent. If this is not true than classes on mind mapping, left right brain, creative visualisation, and other similar classes or courses would not have flourished.
Thank you for responding.
all the best,
rosdimy
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
in some cases where i need to stop and listen to what my heart says and debate with what's on my mind.it maybe with material things which i always thought of being practical.like,i love to buy something for me,but my mind say's,it's not necessary,then,my mind always win.but when it comes to love,i can say,my heart wins on this battle,and thu i lost on this battle i never regretted loving ang losing that love.it is worth trying for,at least i had given my best,but my best wasn't good enough.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
10 Jul 09
It is difficult to many of us to balance the demands between the heart, and the brain. In my case nowadays I look at the level of heaviness in my chest before making a final decision. There is less regret now. I believe the mind revolves around what can be detected by the five senses. The heart takes the sixth sense into accounr.
