Can you forgive your gf/bf/husband/wife easily even it hurts you so much?

It is not easy to forgive and forget what he did but try to think it over and its not easy might be needs a couple of days to think and forgive. Its easy to say but hard if it really happened in our life. Things are to be considered,talk privately and settle things in a peaceful manner.

hello, there are many things in life which one could not explain why a person in a relationship who got really hurt still could forgive. a relationship is based on trust and confidence and if it is lost, it is never easily forgotten - even if done just once. there is always a saying - time heals the wound. probably it is true. and then forgiving will be easy. i guess we are talking here of gf-bf or husband-wife who had had affair with a third person aside from his/her relation. lol. this i say should be thought of several times before plunging back into the relationship (thinking it was broken because of what was discovered). is your trust on a gf or bf still there after you knew of his/her philandering? if so, then it will be easy. you can forgive and forget. but if he/she blames you on why it happened, again think. it is always your heart that would rule.. but when deciding on something like this, please use your mind too. take care.

Hi. I have never been in a relationship till now and hence can't tell you exactly what I would do in situations like this, but hypothetically putting everything in perspective I think having love between the two will really solve the problem in its initial stages itself and hence there will be no requirement of time or explanations.

Yes i can forgive my boyfriend but it takes time.Everyone can say "Forgive" but hard to do. I guess when the pain is gone and in the right time, i can i say " I finally forgive him."

it depends on what he did. if it is too much, it takes time but then at times, if you want it to work out, you have to forgive and forget or else the relationship would not work..sometimes one has to make sacrifices.

you're right it's really easy to forgive. but for me, we should learn how to forgive those who sinned against us to ease the burden that's within ourselves too. Happy posting!

I've always been hurt or maybe thats just ma own ego speaking, depending on the situations it all happens, sometimes you have to cope yourself up, sometimes compromises? sometimes love is way too much, that you just forget yourself and forgive your soulmate without any problems. Like i always do, she hurts me so much but i love her and always forgive her, i can never think bad about her even if i want to. Its just love

i'm kind of finding it hard to forgive and forget because it really takes time and my wounds are not easy to get healed but in a relationship i can forgive and forget especially when i'm very much in love but i will be hurt badly, when it comes to friendship i'm very much different it depends on the type of sin on how i will forgive and just forget about it. yeah there is no perfect relationship instead the more you get in the fight the more you will learn to be strong for the relationship to grow fonder. have a nice day to you also!

I have to say yes, I can forgive my girlfriend easily no matter what the situation is. First we discuss about the issue at hand and if worst comes to worst we let out both our steam for the whole day and argue about it but later we both learn from it and would ask our apologies regarding that issue. Understanding is part of a relationship even how hard it is to accept it but it is very important thing in a relationship that both of you can accept the shortcomings of your partner. It is easy to say this but once you are into the situations things just happened that both of you would regret doing if you dont give time to understand each other. If both of you really love and know how much you love each other and how important the relationship is to you then it would be easy to forgive than to loose the precious relationship you both have.

Everyone is forgiveable to me. It is okey for me to forgive my gf if she does something that hurts me. By forgiving her i just hope that in return she won't do it again. I'll always use patience but sometimes it wont work. So i'll just use my high tone :) For me to heal the pain will be very quick but i rather be alone when i'm healing just like you. There are things that i can't forget but things like that drives me forward.

It is very painfull, yes, when the one you love hurts you. Even if they did it without meaning to. Some actions can result in many issues between a couple. But you have to think also, "did he/she mean to hurt you?" "lets talk about it" "do I trust what he/she said to me." Theres many questions you can always ask yourself or the one that hurt you. I've been hurt oh so dearly, but I have learned a lot from it also. And I can forgive, but that doesn't mean it still doesn't hurt whenever I think about it, cause it does. I mean, the feeling of someone, lets say for instance, cheating on you is very very painful, and it feels like, "can I trust him/her ever again?" "what if it happens again?" But in the end, it's communication, trust, and love that helps. In my case, i've been trough a lot. Like you would never think. And I can tell you guys right now that I love my guy with all my heart.

I'm not good at forgiving. But if they are truly sorry and their action is not long lasting, then I may forgive them.

i could forgive but i cant forgive easily it would take a long time before i could forgive the people that did itd

Talking from personel experiance - I found it easier to forgive than to forget. And that is where my problem lied. Although I was able to forgive, it ate me up inside and it took a lot for the trust to be put back. If you are both willing to do that and mean it, then you have a real good chance of making it work. But if only one of you is trying to make it work - then thats where you will get more problems. I used to find that in arguments I would throw it in his face as I was still angry about things - BIG mistake, if you are both making the effort then dont do something like that. But having said that once the trust was back and things were going well - he would do the same again, ruining all the hard work of the trust we had built. My advice would be give it a go, but if he or she betrays your trust - just think about whether or not you can do it again. I learnt the hard way.

I'm going through a separation right now. My husband decided he did not want to be married to me anymore. Later he told his daughter he had issues (communication). He never asked me or told me anything. I was clueless and still feel that he threw our marriage (and me) away without trying. That was 2 1/2 months ago. I'm over the shock,pain and anger but I will still have to work on forgiveness because this did not have to happen. I guess that when I am finally able to move on with my life and be on my own I will be more able to forgive.

For me, I think forgiving is okay and should always be done. But you have to make sure that the wrong things doesn't occur next time. One is enough but two is too much. You have to let him/her know what are the consequences and it hurts you so much, if he/she loves you, he/she will find a way to do the right thing.

Well it would be rather difficult to forgive a person at such a time. But then if we dont forgive who will forgive us when we are is such a similar situation. At such times it is better to take some time off and move to an isolated place and think about it all. Even if it after a day or two it is advisable to forgive the person.

For me, I would not forgive him easily if I was deeply hurt. I think the first thing I will do is to clarify the fact relative to the problem. Maybe I will have a talk with him and ask him to tell me the reason for the wrong behavior he did to me. I think we all make mistakes occasionally. I will forgive him if he gets to know it and try his best to make up for it. Love means tolerance, forgiveness and sacrifice. Thank you! Good luck!

This is one complicated question and the answer depends on each individual person... Me for instance however hurt i get i am able to forgive and forget within few minutes and i always expect the other person to do the same as well...

well for me it depends on what happened , I mean if she was cheating on me behind my back and lying i would never forget or forgive.To me being dishonest and unfaithful is no excuse.I mean if you want to be with someone be with them instead of putting them through a loop.People who cheat or be dishonest to the ones they love are wrong because if it happen to them they would know how you felt.You can forgive little mistakes,flaws even...but when it comes to the matters of the heart. I dont think it should be forgiven.